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NlightNme
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Quitting weed for a girl?
#14229130 - 04/02/11 11:53 PM (12 years, 9 months ago) |
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So I recently started messing around with this one chick. She's awesome in so many ways- plays guitar, amazing artist, funny, smart, hot as shit, huge boobs etc.
We've become really close but the only problem is - She has a 2 year old kid and I smoke weed. She used to smoke/sell but now that she has a kid obviously that has all stopped. Thing is - I LOVE weed and have always been interested in being an activist and whatnot but I still recognize that I'm going to have to quit sometime soon (going to graduate college... want to be clean for any potential drug tests).
So - I'm wandering what the shroomery thinks about this. Should I quit smoking sooner than I originally planned so that I can see what happens with this incredible girl or is that too much of a sacrifice? And keep in mind that I play guitar so a huge draw for me towards weed is what it does for me and my music.
I'm side stepping the whole question of: Should I get involved with a girl who already has a kid when I'm BARELY getting to the point of being ready to have one and just jumping to the way less important question of should I change for her. Be as brutal as you want, I don't care. I'm just curious what yalls opinions are on the matter.
Ready go.
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Re: Quitting weed for a girl? [Re: NlightNme]
#14229144 - 04/02/11 11:56 PM (12 years, 9 months ago) |
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if i cant do what i want to do and be who i want to be around someone then i dont want to be around them.
so no, i wouldnt change for a girl.
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Re: Quitting weed for a girl? [Re: NlightNme]
#14229147 - 04/02/11 11:57 PM (12 years, 9 months ago) |
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Start with making sure the kid never sees the weed or knows about it. You don't need to quit, and not all at once. Be sure to talk to her about it.
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Re: Quitting weed for a girl? [Re: NlightNme] 3
#14229148 - 04/02/11 11:57 PM (12 years, 9 months ago) |
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No, don't quit weed for a hot chick with a 2-year old. If she can't accept that you will smoke discreetly and away from the child, she's too demanding. IMHO.
Also, a 2-year old is some serious baggage.
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Re: Quitting weed for a girl? [Re: ifoundwaldo]
#14229168 - 04/03/11 12:00 AM (12 years, 9 months ago) |
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Lots of women have kids once you start dating out of high school. You have to recognize that and accept it.
It's not so much about quitting weed for a girl, as getting your priorities in line for the life you want. Want to be a single stoner? That's cool. Want to be a part of that family? That's cool too.
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Re: Quitting weed for a girl? [Re: NlightNme]
#14229178 - 04/03/11 12:03 AM (12 years, 9 months ago) |
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Sounds like you need to slow down and don't let this relationship turn into a marriage, whether there is a ring or not.
I can see two negatives and no real positives but that is me thinking for me not you.
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Re: Quitting weed for a girl? [Re: ifoundwaldo]
#14229186 - 04/03/11 12:04 AM (12 years, 9 months ago) |
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Yeah I know. And I have talked to her about it and she's very understanding. She knows it's not gunna be something that happens over night and something that comes easily. Plus she said its just while she's really little.
But I mean I've been meaning to quit for a while anyways. Not that I don't love it but just because I've been smoking a LOT of weed for a long time. Since I stopped selling I haven't really cut back the quantity that I smoke and its worried me at times and put a huge strain on my finances. I mean I'm at that point where I've learned most of the lessons that I'm going to learn from psychedelics so continued use, although attractive as fuck, isn't really necessary for me.
And yeah... she has a 2 year old so.. fuck. BUT... she's such an incredible person and SOOO fucking hot. She had some seriously fucked up shit happen to her in her childhood (part of the reason for the baby) but she's come out of it a really strong and mature person; which I guess is just really rare in the college town I'm in.
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Re: Quitting weed for a girl? [Re: NlightNme]
#14229210 - 04/03/11 12:09 AM (12 years, 9 months ago) |
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whatever you do
make sure its for you and not someone else.
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Re: Quitting weed for a girl? [Re: 4runner]
#14229227 - 04/03/11 12:13 AM (12 years, 9 months ago) |
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Quitting weed for a girl... is ridiculous.
It has virtually no detrimental effects, especially if you use it very sparingly like once a month or even once a week, so why would she care?
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rackem said: whatever you do
make sure its for you and not someone else.
This.
But you can always smoke when the relationship doesn't pan out so go get some pussy in the meantime.
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Re: Quitting weed for a girl? [Re: Doc_T]
#14229236 - 04/03/11 12:14 AM (12 years, 9 months ago) |
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I wouldn't. Sounds like too many flings I've had with artist chicks that never end well.
IMO smoking weed in front of kids is completely fine, and people have strange psychotic fears about it.
Drink in front of kids? FINE!
Watch soft pseudo porn on TV and in music? FINE!
Smoke weed?! GAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAASP!
The key here is good general parenting, your kids will get a better introduction to this PLANT in a safe environment (ooooooOOooo scary plant) from you not the propaganda arm of "the drug war" and chances are, since it's familiar and not so forbidden, the kids will have less of a desire to smoke it (not that there's anything wrong with them smoking it once of maturity IMO)
Don't do it... it's a trap...
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SamuelLJackson said: if i cant do what i want to do and be who i want to be around someone then i dont want to be around them.
so no, i wouldnt change for a girl.
SLJ, you are a smart man. I haven't rated you yet, so +5 for you.
OP - don't change for a piece of ass. You will feel like the real you is being suppressed...which it is. If she isn't cool enough to be OK with your smoking, then she's not worth your time. Trust me, you will want a GF who you can toke with.
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Re: Quitting weed for a girl? [Re: NlightNme]
#14229245 - 04/03/11 12:17 AM (12 years, 9 months ago) |
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you got all the good things in front of you and you still don't know what to do...poor stupid creature
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Re: Quitting weed for a girl? [Re: ifoundwaldo]
#14229252 - 04/03/11 12:19 AM (12 years, 9 months ago) |
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ifoundwaldo said: Also, a 2-year old is some serious baggage. 
This.
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Re: Quitting weed for a girl? [Re: NlightNme]
#14229277 - 04/03/11 12:25 AM (12 years, 9 months ago) |
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NlightNme said:
And yeah... she has a 2 year old so.. fuck. BUT... she's such an incredible person and SOOO fucking hot. She had some seriously fucked up shit happen to her in her childhood (part of the reason for the baby) but she's come out of it a really strong and mature person; which I guess is just really rare in the college town I'm in.
All this means there is a 100% chance shes a crazy girl just cause the crazy hasn't shown its self yet doesn't mean shes not going to burn all your clothes in the front yard and cut the brakes on your car
do what you will because a thread on a message board isn't going to change your mind but after all the fuck ups i've made in my life i've learned to stay away form young girls with kids and people who want to change you you don't get into a relationship with someone who's going to be your project you date someone you can deal with as they are at that exact moment
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Re: Quitting weed for a girl? [Re: NlightNme]
#14229300 - 04/03/11 12:30 AM (12 years, 9 months ago) |
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What does your girlfriend having a kid have to do with whether you smoke weed or not?
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Re: Quitting weed for a girl? [Re: muistrue]
#14229326 - 04/03/11 12:35 AM (12 years, 9 months ago) |
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FractalDust said: What does your girlfriend having a kid have to do with whether you smoke weed or not?
Because weed is evil and he would be setting up a bad example for the kid.
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Re: Quitting weed for a girl? [Re: Devlish2]
#14229338 - 04/03/11 12:36 AM (12 years, 9 months ago) |
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"mommy's boyfriend smokes that, I've seen it"
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Re: Quitting weed for a girl? [Re: Devlish2]
#14229347 - 04/03/11 12:39 AM (12 years, 9 months ago) |
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Devlish2 said:
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FractalDust said: What does your girlfriend having a kid have to do with whether you smoke weed or not?
Because weed is evil and he would be setting up a bad example for the kid.

If that's what she thinks then just don't smoke in front of the kid simple as that.
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Re: Quitting weed for a girl? [Re: Doc_T]
#14229355 - 04/03/11 12:40 AM (12 years, 9 months ago) |
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Doc_T said: "mommy's boyfriend smokes that, I've seen it" 
It would be nice if, as a society, we could eventually stop demonizing weed and the people who use it. The aboriginals used a shit load of mind altering drugs for sucks sakes.
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Re: Quitting weed for a girl? [Re: Devlish2]
#14229367 - 04/03/11 12:43 AM (12 years, 9 months ago) |
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Devlish2 said:
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Doc_T said: "mommy's boyfriend smokes that, I've seen it" 
It would be nice if, as a society, we could eventually stop demonizing weed and the people who use it. The aboriginals used a shit load of mind altering drugs for sucks sakes.
yea but i dunno how highly people view the aboriginals...
I agree though, why does smoking weed make me a bad person? Lol hella people that I am close with have no idea that i've been smoking weed for the past few years. If they found out would they think differently of me? I think they would, and that's sad. It's like...you've known me for this long and you like me, and have NO CLUE about my marijuana use...why should finding out change anything?
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