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gaussflayer
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dry spell of sex
#14213215 - 03/31/11 03:16 AM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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hey fellow shroomers,
been having alot of trouble, last girlfriend screwed me over pretty badly I was with her for 9-10 months a few years ago I'm pretty sure. For about 2 years now I guess I've been on a dry spell and its starting to frustrate me, i dont want to go to the brothels I'm not that desperate.
What are everyone's thoughts on this I'm going insane the next girl who receives a good session I'm going to feel sorry for cause I'm not going to stop an am going all out.
Edited by gaussflayer (05/14/14 12:16 AM)
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Primal Call
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I went without for 4 years after my last "serious" relationship. It didn't feel all that long while it was happening because I was focused on other things. I learned a lot about myself in that time, and while it sucks in some ways, it was definitely some of the best years of my life.
Advice... I know it sounds cliche, but just be happy with the positive things in your life, the things with which you aren't frustrated. If that feeling really comes through to show, someone will notice and want to share that energy with you. It doesn't hurt to go to a bar or a poetry reading or whatever you're into doing until you're around those you want to attract.
Until then, keep up your hygiene and smoke a bowl, relax. 
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gaussflayer
Scatterday PR/BL mod



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Unfortunately for me I abused smoking cannabis buddy now its just a negative experience for me
I guess it was for the best cause I was smoking 24-7 and I mean 24-7 wake and bake to sleep sessions. I've learnt alot from a experience (dry spell) like this, and its to hurry up and find a female companion again.
-------------------- The best form of harm reduction is prevention.
Edited by gaussflayer (05/14/14 12:19 AM)
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Humility
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Quote:
gaussflayer said: hey fellow shroomers,
been having alot of trouble, last girlfriend fucked me over pretty hard i was with her for 9-10 months a few years ago im pretty sure. For about 2 years now i guess ive been on a dry spell and its starting to frustrate me, i dont want to go to the brothels im not that desperate.
What are everyones thoughts on this im going insane the next girl who gets it im going to feel sorry for cause im going to unleash soo bad she wont be able to walk for a day 
Lol there are legit brothels where you live? I'm not into strip clubs but if I lived near a legal brothel I'd prolly have to check it out man.
I haven't been having sex regularly at all. Sometimes it's a month or two without any intimate contact.
Ya know what? I just had sex the other day and it really isn't that big of a deal. It's nice for sure but it is *certainly* not the most important thing in the world, and unlike when I was 13-17 I can totally see life without a penis at this point.
There's lots of shit to do with your time here. Find some things that you find really fun and engaging and get involved.
If you don't want to become BETTER at not having sex but rather want to end this dryspell I'd highly recommend okcupid. Make a profile and be honest and things will work out.
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I just dont know whether or not to approach a girl and ask if she wants to just be fuck buddies or just fuck...??
I can't explain this in summation but here you go:
That's the guy's normal mind state. See pretty girl, want pretty girl in sexual way, ?????. How do you have sex with someone you find attractive? How do you communicate this to them?
Certainly not directly. It can work but it often doesn't. This is the part where you enamor/charm women. Charm doesn't necessarily mean james bond. Big, fat, idiot jocks charm women all the time by acting stupid.
Make them like you by saying and doing things. Humor usually works well, badass james dean-type stuff works well, do whatever works well for you. After influencing her positively you need to make sure you're imparting a sexual, yet restrained and respectful energy. Sometimes less or more restrained works well. Don't be a eunuch (friend-zone) but don't just walk up and bend someone over and start fucking them, ya know?
Once they like you and if you're imparting a sexual intent they will in turn communicate their desire to you, usually in a subtle way (almost never will it be "HAY X, I'D LIKE TO FUCK YOU").
Once desire is co-communicated you need to find a suitable place and time in history to make this event occur.
You should be good from here.
It's more art than science. Start painting shit.
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HeadTripVertigo
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had a dry spell for a while. then after it broke it was like meh. I can go without. great sex and all, just...eh. whatever. rather go out drinking a lot fo the time. it's like toppings on pizza.
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