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Problem orgasming...
#14205273 - 03/29/11 06:44 PM (12 years, 9 months ago) |
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Female here..
I think my vagina is broken. Or my clit, rather. I get hardly any pleasure from clit stimulation. It feels kind of good for like 2 minutes and then I'm just like "umm this is boring". Doesn't matter what it is, myself doing it or a guy using his tongue.. I haven't tried a vibrator though.
On the other hand, g-spot stimulation feels 100000x better. If I can get in a sex position that hits it in the right spot, I can get really close to orgasming... but I never have, but then again I haven't had that much sex in my life.
Is this weird? I thought women need clit stimulation for orgasm, and therefore sex doesn't do it. But I really think if I had sex long enough in the right position I could climax through the g.
Is it possible I have some kind of.. nerve damage in my clit? It just really doesn't feel all that good no matter which way it's rubbed.
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different women have different sensations when it come to sex... there are clit orgasms and vaginal orgasms, but im no expert explaining it.... maybe you are not relaxed/horny enough?
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Re: Problem orgasming... [Re: AIRDOG] 1
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Re: Problem orgasming... [Re: hesus321]
#14205723 - 03/29/11 08:09 PM (12 years, 9 months ago) |
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Are you on psychiatric drugs?
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Anonymous said: Are you on psychiatric drugs?
Nope.
I take birth control (Loestrin) and that's it.
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How old are you? The clit gets more sensitive with age.
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Anonymous said: How old are you? The clit gets more sensitive with age.
I'm 20
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I'm on loestrin too! A vibrator is definitely worth trying, just so you know
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Re: Problem orgasming... [Re: hesus321]
#14206497 - 03/29/11 10:10 PM (12 years, 9 months ago) |
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AIRDOG said: maybe you are not horny enough?

I lold hard
I agree with this though. That and increased G-spot stimulation.
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Re: Problem orgasming... [Re: Humility]
#14207623 - 03/30/11 02:42 AM (12 years, 9 months ago) |
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Vibrators are so fucking annoying when youre trying to have sex with the girl.
Jesus fuck, if you can build yourself up to cum through gspot stimulation then forget about the clit. Gspot orgasm is longer, deeper, and all around more awesome then clit orgasm.
My gf cant cum through vaginal sex, she needs clit stimulation no matter what. Maybe because she conditioned herself that way. But really, just focus on gspot for now
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> Is this weird? I thought women need clit stimulation for orgasm, and therefore sex doesn't do it.
Not weird. Every person is wired a little bit differently. What works for some people will not work for others. The trick is to figure out what works for you, and to find a partner that can scratch that itch. Also, an orgasm has a very large mental aspect to it... although physical stimulation is usually part of it, if the proper mindset isn't there, then the orgasm is not going to happen. Some of us have to learn how to have a good orgasm. Just like anything else, practice makes perfect (and what a fun thing to practice!)
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My gf cant cum through vaginal sex, she needs clit stimulation no matter what. Maybe because she conditioned herself that way. But really, just focus on gspot for now 
I am the same way.
Op, you sound you need to explore your body and figure out what works for you. Most men haven't been able to make me orgasm vaginally, but I can make it happen myself. You just have to learn what feels best for you. Once you figure out yourself, share it with your dude.
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Anonymous said: How old are you? The clit gets more sensitive with age.
I'm 20 
Either someone isn't pleasuring you right or it hasnt become sensitive yet. 20 is still pretty young.
I've heard of other girls not feeling much for clit sensitivity.
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Anonymous said: Are you on psychiatric drugs?
Nope.
I take birth control (Loestrin) and that's it.
I do not know much about the subject, but I red somewhere that certain birth controls can lower your libido.
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Re: Problem orgasming... [Re: Simms]
#14212017 - 03/30/11 09:08 PM (12 years, 9 months ago) |
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Yeah, BC can lower your libido.
and the psychological component to sex is undeniable, too. If you're with someone you're not compatible with, then it'll be harder to orgasm. I think clitoral and vaginal orgasms are both possible.
You probably just need to relax, and don't worry about it! It'll come..
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Loestrin can lower your sex drive if you google it.
Are you horny when you have sex/ before sex? Is it just an issue of finishing? Or is your sex drive not so rampant?
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penelope_tree said: Yeah, BC can lower your libido.
and the psychological component to sex is undeniable, too. If you're with someone you're not compatible with, then it'll be harder to orgasm. I think clitoral and vaginal orgasms are both possible.
You probably just need to relax, and don't worry about it! It'll come..
You're spot on there. 99% of the female orgasm is all mental
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I just saw an ad in a newspaper that called for women who have trouble reaching orgasm. Apparently, they're trying to test the effectiveness of a testosterone ointment applied to the nostrils. This is in The Netherlands btw, so probably not of much use to RP.
Just saying
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Re: Problem orgasming... [Re: koraks]
#18980407 - 10/15/13 08:24 AM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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All you need is a stimulant and a vibrator. If possible learn to orgasm in a sunny place because the UV can coax the clit to swell up so it feels a bit more intense automatically. Get mentally into it and you're gonna be insatiable soon. Enjoy.
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What about suction on the clitoris and the 'come hither' g-spot stimulation...??
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This is not an uncommon complaint for young women. Don't worry too much about it and hope that your next sexual encounter is with someone who knows how to massage the G-spot while performing oral sex. Sounds to me like your partner(s) have to pick up the game a bit.
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Re: Problem orgasming... [Re: mpd]
#18985939 - 10/16/13 12:35 PM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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I agree with those who say that it largely comes down to mindset I also think physical health can make a huge difference too. If you're in poor physical shape (for example, if you're not eating properly or if you have an underlying medical condition or if you sit around too much) that can lower your sex drive and/or sensitivity. Not always, but sometimes.
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I think it has a lot to do with mindset too, but I also agree with others who said you just need to find what works for you.
I'm kind of like OP in that if I or my partner tries to stimulate me with fingers, its like eh, this feels kinda good, but gets boring after a few minutes.
The only way I can orgasm from clitoral stimulation is by grinding against something like a pillow, towel, etc. I don't know if it is the pressure that does it, or that maybe my clit is just too sensitive for direct stimulation and maybe stimulating the whole area is what does the trick. But that is also the way that I started out masturbating, when I was 7 years old, and that is the way that I have always done it. So I feel like I am conditioned to orgasm that way, and maybe if I had tried other methods when I was younger and not stuck solely to my grinding method, I might be able to orgasm easier from other methods today.
So that's something to think about.
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#18988876 - 10/16/13 10:56 PM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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Ew Ballerium, thanx for bring down the house by describing a 7 year old masturbating
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Re: Problem orgasming... [Re: bloodsheen]
#18988922 - 10/16/13 11:03 PM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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Re: Problem orgasming... [Re: bloodsheen]
#18988971 - 10/16/13 11:16 PM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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You're the one who imagined it.
I was just using my experience to try and help OP and add to the thread. I didn't mean for it to be thought of in that way.
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Re: Problem orgasming... [Re: Ballerium]
#18989738 - 10/17/13 07:21 AM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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In a Human Sexuality course we are taking we learned that only around 1/3 of women experience orgasm.
The inner 1/3 of the vagina has lots of nerves but not like the clitoris, the most nerve filled and innate erogenous zone on a woman.
It is recommended that clitoral stimulation and vaginal stimulation occur at the same time for a woman to reach orgasm. You might try that.
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Re: Problem orgasming... [Re: XUL]
#18989781 - 10/17/13 07:44 AM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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XUL said: In a Human Sexuality course we are taking we learned that only around 1/3 of women experience orgasm.
I find it hard to believe it's so few.
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Re: Problem orgasming... [Re: Dawks]
#18989811 - 10/17/13 07:56 AM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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XUL said: In a Human Sexuality course we are taking we learned that only around 1/3 of women experience orgasm.
I find it hard to believe it's so few.
I believe it was American women and any issues can be accounted for by the Victorian age and all the nonsense rumors spread by quacks. As well as strict and unequal gender roles. I read this from a text book, but it would still be good to gather up many studies on the matter and look into the results.
Freud believed that clitoral stimulation was inappropriate and that vaginal stimulation was "lady like".
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Re: Problem orgasming... [Re: XUL]
#18993708 - 10/17/13 11:58 PM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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in my own experience, my girlfriend came easier when i had better foreplay. for example, licking her nipples n kissing... n then she would tell me when she was ready usually, communication is key.
Alot of people aren't 100 percent compatible at first, that why we are grateful to have mouths to communicate and by speaking up we are able to learn what eachother likes and dislikes on a nonjudgemental level. its not life or death, its certainly not the end of the relationship unless you or him really don't want to work on it and want it to just be 'perfect' that sounds imaginary imo. given, experience helps but not always, as in, i had recieved the best head from a girl who was not great at all. nowadays although we brokeup she was a pro - and i went from 20 minutes to come, to what seems 2-3 minutes. i actually have to tell her to 'do something else' to prolong it because it would end so fast:[
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Re: Problem orgasming... [Re: Dawks]
#18993924 - 10/18/13 01:47 AM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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XUL said: In a Human Sexuality course we are taking we learned that only around 1/3 of women experience orgasm.
I find it hard to believe it's so few.
(girls only)
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ive made every girl ive been with orgasm.
question, is it because they phsyically cannot, or is it because of unsatisfactory partners?
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FishOilTheKid said: What about suction on the clitoris and the 'come hither' g-spot stimulation...??
I was thinking the same thing.
OP, have your boyfriend suck on your clit, and swirl his tongue around it at the same time.
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FishOilTheKid said: What about suction on the clitoris and the 'come hither' g-spot stimulation...??
I was thinking the same thing.
OP, have your boyfriend suck on your clit, and swirl his tongue around it at the same time.
yea that usually does it, try to limit the amount of saliva on it, i would even switch with my hands, mix it up, sometimes all hands so it doesn't get overly wet if you feel like it is, it will numb her/you whoever we are talking about., sometimes all mouth or both... then again that was how my lady was. in general i think foreplay is MEGA important, do you like nipple stimulation or getting your earlobe lightly nibbled on/neck licked/sucked? do you like other stimulation like getting rimjob'd? for some reason my last girl loved it. she would sit on me and switch between her vagina and ass:]
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It's all a matter of technique. If OP is still wondering what to do, my advice would be to stop masturbating. That should bring matters to a head one way or another!
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Re: Problem orgasming... [Re: mpd]
#18995725 - 10/18/13 01:41 PM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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mpd said: It's all a matter of technique. If OP is still wondering what to do, my advice would be to stop masturbating. That should bring matters to a head one way or another!
oh, i didn't knew she masturbated.. that can certainly be a problem imo.
i cum alot quicker and it all feels better when i just dont play with myself.. come to think of it, in general i feel better.. masturbating for me would be an occasion type of deal, for example, im alone in a different state... or in a hotel room... something, if your at home masturbating all the time.. thats a no - no.
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XUL said: In a Human Sexuality course we are taking we learned that only around 1/3 of women experience orgasm.
I find it hard to believe it's so few.
(girls only)
The Shroomery is not a representative sample of the American population. Not at all.
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Re: Problem orgasming... [Re: XUL]
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I am a man and i cannot have a orgasam and cum...with evry girl i have sex with...i can fuck her for long long time but it dosen't happend evry time...I am on yes...that it depends on who's you'r sex partnior...OP
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