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How to tell your room mate & friend to not be so using *DELETED*
    #14201750 - 03/29/11 01:18 AM (12 years, 10 months ago)

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Something abut that anaesthetic rush... :inlove:

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Re: How to tell your room mate & friend to not be so using [Re: Cyclohexylamine]
    #14201769 - 03/29/11 01:22 AM (12 years, 10 months ago)

are you paying rent with him?

if not you kinda owe him.

if so then just tell him he's getting a little too accustomed to your stuff and that you want to solve this little annoyance before it becomes a real problem


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Re: How to tell your room mate & friend to not be so using [Re: Cyclohexylamine]
    #14201780 - 03/29/11 01:26 AM (12 years, 10 months ago)

computer wise make him pay for the interwho and set him up with a user account. Charge him taxi like rates if you do drive him. Its different if his car was in the chop or something or maybe the weather is nice 99% of the time but happens to be a terrible day out but to expect it all the time is a bit much. I would be happy to have him pay the interwebs then maybe garbage pic him an old computer later or something.


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Re: How to tell your room mate & friend to not be so using [Re: Cyclohexylamine]
    #14201783 - 03/29/11 01:26 AM (12 years, 10 months ago)

just be a man when you need to

dont over think shit

also move to tibet


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Re: How to tell your room mate & friend to not be so using [Re: argg]
    #14201792 - 03/29/11 01:28 AM (12 years, 10 months ago)

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Something abut that anaesthetic rush... :inlove:

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Re: How to tell your room mate & friend to not be so using [Re: Cyclohexylamine]
    #14201902 - 03/29/11 01:59 AM (12 years, 10 months ago)

Lock your computer, and lock it in your room. If he has not sold the laptop, tell him not to - that you don't want him spanking on yours.

If he wants a ride, charge "gas" money up front.

Don't let him start mooching, or it will be harder to stop.


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Re: How to tell your room mate & friend to not be so using [Re: Cyclohexylamine]
    #14202040 - 03/29/11 02:36 AM (12 years, 10 months ago)

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tymoteusz3 said:
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argg said:
computer wise make him pay for the interwho and set him up with a user account. Charge him taxi like rates if you do drive him. Its different if his car was in the chop or something or maybe the weather is nice 99% of the time but happens to be a terrible day out but to expect it all the time is a bit much. I would be happy to have him pay the interwebs then maybe garbage pic him an old computer later or something.




We will split internet 50/50.
The thing which really pissed me off today is that he said that he intends to be using my desktop - he didn't even ask me. He was selling his laptop so I asked him what he was going to use and he was like "your desktop" totally serious.

I didn't know how to say "No fucking way, sorry" and not sound like a dick. I want my computer in my room. Not out in a living room like a communal computer. I am not dating the guy.


I don't mind the occasional drive here and there. But I have a life and I am busy too, I don't want to spend my time driving people about.




Dude you just gotta say "no".  It's really not that hard.

"What are you gonna do without a computer?"
"I'm gonna use yours, obviously."
"Sorry man, but I use my computer pretty much all the time, that's not really cool.  Probably best to keep the laptop."


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Re: How to tell your room mate & friend to not be so using [Re: SWIM Jr]
    #14202075 - 03/29/11 02:47 AM (12 years, 10 months ago)

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Lock your computer, and lock it in your room. If he has not sold the laptop, tell him not to - that you don't want him spanking on yours.

If he wants a ride, charge "gas" money up front.

Don't let him start mooching, or it will be harder to stop.



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Re: How to tell your room mate & friend to not be so using [Re: pwnasaurus]
    #14202078 - 03/29/11 02:49 AM (12 years, 10 months ago)

I have almost the exact same problem with one of my room mates, I try to keep us all with our own bag of weed because this other guy always smokes my shit and never buys his own except for once in a blue moon. To put it short he's broke unemployed until spring and so lazy that when I tested him he went 3 days without tp instead of just driving down to the store to get some. I've just learned though that Im gonna stand my ground and thats tough with this guy because he usually goes from cool to flying off the handle at the flip of a switch, I guess what helped is that I got so pissed off I didnt give a fuck what the reaction was, thats probably the key right there.


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Re: How to tell your room mate & friend to not be so using [Re: Spiralout112]
    #14202117 - 03/29/11 03:09 AM (12 years, 10 months ago)

I honestly don't know how you put up with that kinda shit.

If someone was using my stuff without my permission I'd go apeshit on them. 

You just gotta tell him upfront; My shit IS NOT your shit. DO NOT use my shit without my permission.

If he continues to use your stuff without your permission I suggest buying some yogurt and putting dead cockroaches in it, that'll teach him. Go striptease on his ass.

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Re: How to tell your room mate & friend to not be so using [Re: Cyclohexylamine]
    #14202121 - 03/29/11 03:09 AM (12 years, 10 months ago)

why don't you just tell him everything you just told us?
he's probably not gonna cry about it and might actually realize your sincerity.


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Re: How to tell your room mate & friend to not be so using [Re: meatcakeman]
    #14202138 - 03/29/11 03:20 AM (12 years, 10 months ago)

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Re: How to tell your room mate & friend to not be so using [Re: Cyclohexylamine]
    #14202149 - 03/29/11 03:24 AM (12 years, 10 months ago)

I see. you're one of those people who have a hard time saying no. Therefore people will take advantage of that and walk all over you.

Do you want that?


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Re: How to tell your room mate & friend to not be so using [Re: Cyclohexylamine]
    #14202154 - 03/29/11 03:25 AM (12 years, 10 months ago)

can i hear your music?


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Re: How to tell your room mate & friend to not be so using [Re: NewWavePeace]
    #14202158 - 03/29/11 03:26 AM (12 years, 10 months ago)

I HAD THIS EXACT SAME ISSUE WHEN I MOVED IN WITH MY ROOMMATE


The only way to solve this is to get him to free up an hour, stop, look him the eyes and write down the rules. You need to make this serious so he knows, and you need to explain to him that you are doing this because of "" reason. Make him sign the piece of paper and tell him you will give him chance first couple days as he remembers but after that he signed the contract and it needs to be kept that way.

It sounds lame but it worked for someone 20 and 21. If we can do it, so can you.


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Re: How to tell your room mate & friend to not be so using [Re: Cyclohexylamine]
    #14202167 - 03/29/11 03:28 AM (12 years, 10 months ago)

you shouldn't sell hard drugs


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Re: How to tell your room mate & friend to not be so using [Re: Cherk]
    #14202176 - 03/29/11 03:31 AM (12 years, 10 months ago)

You should also have him write out the rules he wants so it feels equal. Respect them carefully. those first four weeks are very important, and if you try hard to follow the rules for each other then it becomes habit and are no longer "rules".


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Re: How to tell your room mate & friend to not be so using [Re: Cyclohexylamine]
    #14202189 - 03/29/11 03:36 AM (12 years, 10 months ago)

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I just don't want to come off as a dick.
A few years ago when I was going to uni this guy in my class asked me if he could get a ride occasionally to school - he was near where I lived so I agreed. Long story short it turned out into an every day thing, he was about 10 - 15 minutes out of my way. I finally told him I couldn't do it anymore, and he basically blew up and started calling me a dick and stuff.

I know I am in the right I just find it hard to be firm some times :frown:





sometimes you have to come off as a dick. some people are more prone to getting butthurt than others. do you really want to risk your own wellbeing over a seemingly superficial relationship between you and your roommate?

if you're really that concerned, you could try easing in to it. you should start asking him for stuff and using him as well. create a symbiotic relationship. if he starts to say "no," you now have a strong basis for argument.


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Re: How to tell your room mate & friend to not be so using [Re: Cyclohexylamine]
    #14202232 - 03/29/11 03:56 AM (12 years, 10 months ago)

Just make him pay extra for everything on purpose so that he gets the message that it's not worth for him, and if he doesn't well then your benefiting from it anyway.


If he wants you to drive him somewhere say alright ill do it for $10, and if he says no then you say no.


Same with drugs etc.


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Re: How to tell your room mate & friend to not be so using [Re: Dosile Kouki]
    #14202266 - 03/29/11 04:22 AM (12 years, 10 months ago)

Thanks guys for your help :smile:
Will see how this goes!


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Something abut that anaesthetic rush... :inlove:

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Re: How to tell your room mate & friend to not be so using [Re: Cyclohexylamine]
    #14202298 - 03/29/11 04:47 AM (12 years, 9 months ago)

Ass, Grass or gas for a ride.

As far as the computer is concerned, I don't see a prob if your not using it, but if he is taking up your time and like "wait  a min" etc, then tell him he can't use it anymore if he doesn't get off when you need it.

Some people only know how to take, it's up to you to put your foot down.

If he says he's not your friend then or something gradeschool like that, then he probably never was in the 1st place. If he is violent, then you prob won't want to live with him anyway.

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Re: How to tell your room mate & friend to not be so using [Re: teknix]
    #14202437 - 03/29/11 06:17 AM (12 years, 9 months ago)

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Ass, Grass or gas for a ride.






Lmao
Once I drove someone for grass.
He offered a fucking half pound.
He ended giving a half oz.
He said he had to wait till he got to his buddies.
Will never make that mistake again.
Stuff up front.
Except ass. That usually comes later :wink:


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Have you ever had a dream that you were so sure was real? What if you were unable to awake from that dream? How would you know the difference between that dream world and the real world?


There is NOTHING better than feeling that warm dissociative fuzz creeping up your body from IM K
Something abut that anaesthetic rush... :inlove:

Qualitative Research Chemical Effects and Experiences
The Wonderful World of Methoxetamine
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Re: How to tell your room mate & friend to not be so using [Re: Cyclohexylamine]
    #14202502 - 03/29/11 06:53 AM (12 years, 9 months ago)

Your going to have some fun with that roommate. if hes been living off of free room and board and he doesn't know how to save money, hes going to have a rude awaking when it comes time for him to put up his half of the rent and utilities.


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Re: How to tell your room mate & friend to not be so using [Re: vinsue]
    #14202513 - 03/29/11 07:00 AM (12 years, 9 months ago)

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tymoteusz3 said:
However this friend has some issues when it comes to using me and my stuff like its his own - for example he mentioned that he doesn't need a computer because he intends to use mine. He also wants me to drive him about.




:dudewtf: you need to tell that bitch to fuck off

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Lock your computer, and lock it in your room. If he has not sold the laptop, tell him not to - that you don't want him spanking on yours.

If he wants a ride, charge "gas" money up front.

Don't let him start mooching, or it will be harder to stop.



THIS . . . :peace:



Charge him for the gas but :kingcrankey: if he uses your laptop.


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Re: How to tell your room mate & friend to not be so using [Re: mellowparty]
    #14202526 - 03/29/11 07:07 AM (12 years, 9 months ago)

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Your going to have some fun with that roommate. if hes been living off of free room and board and he doesn't know how to save money, hes going to have a rude awaking when it comes time for him to put up his half of the rent and utilities.




Yeah I agree. But he makes pretty much the same amount as me yet I pay for way more (and have for years) - car, insurance, apt, drugs, etc.

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tymoteusz3 said:
However this friend has some issues when it comes to using me and my stuff like its his own - for example he mentioned that he doesn't need a computer because he intends to use mine. He also wants me to drive him about.




:dudewtf: you need to tell that bitch to fuck off

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Quote:

SWIM Jr said:
Lock your computer, and lock it in your room. If he has not sold the laptop, tell him not to - that you don't want him spanking on yours.

If he wants a ride, charge "gas" money up front.

Don't let him start mooching, or it will be harder to stop.



THIS . . . :peace:



Charge him for the gas but :kingcrankey: if he uses your laptop.




Yeah. My room is going to be locked.
I will say it has to be locked for legal reasons. So that my room is considered separate.


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Something abut that anaesthetic rush... :inlove:

Qualitative Research Chemical Effects and Experiences
The Wonderful World of Methoxetamine
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Re: How to tell your room mate & friend to not be so using [Re: Cyclohexylamine]
    #14202535 - 03/29/11 07:13 AM (12 years, 9 months ago)

you need to just tell him exactly what you just said. if thats the way he treats you then he does not RESPECT you. i had a freind like that, any time we were together he`d always try to get me to buy- and he had money! i started calling him on it and we are not freinds anymore, i have to say i dont even miss him. i do enjoy all the money i save and i go threw alot less drugs with out him around. i always knew when he was holding- id never see him!


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Re: How to tell your room mate & friend to not be so using [Re: jacobensis]
    #14202559 - 03/29/11 07:30 AM (12 years, 9 months ago)

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you need to just tell him exactly what you just said. if thats the way he treats you then he does not RESPECT you. i had a freind like that, any time we were together he`d always try to get me to buy- and he had money! i started calling him on it and we are not freinds anymore, i have to say i dont even miss him. i do enjoy all the money i save and i go threw alot less drugs with out him around. i always knew when he was holding- id never see him!




Lol I am keeping my drugs locked up in my room.
But its just an awkward conversation to have.
The first week will be bad. But I am not budging so I guess he will have to adapt lol


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Have you ever had a dream that you were so sure was real? What if you were unable to awake from that dream? How would you know the difference between that dream world and the real world?


There is NOTHING better than feeling that warm dissociative fuzz creeping up your body from IM K
Something abut that anaesthetic rush... :inlove:

Qualitative Research Chemical Effects and Experiences
The Wonderful World of Methoxetamine
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Re: How to tell your room mate & friend to not be so using [Re: Cyclohexylamine]
    #14202576 - 03/29/11 07:39 AM (12 years, 9 months ago)

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Re: How to tell your room mate & friend to not be so using [Re: Epilson Lyrae]
    #14203659 - 03/29/11 01:04 PM (12 years, 9 months ago)

Dude, don't listen to all these people and try to weasle your way around confronting him. Communicating when something is bothering you is a considerate thing to do, so don't let him make YOU feel like a dick because you're trying to be open about how you feel.

There's this fucked up thing in our culture where we feel like it's rude to say when something is bothering us, or to tell people exactly what we want or expect.

IME, when dealing with room mates (anybody really, but especially roomies), you need to be completely DIRECT about what you expect from each other, and be open to listening to each other.

It goes like this:

"He dude, if I was doing something that bothered you, you'd tell me right? I mean, I would want you to tell me because I don't want to do anything that upsets you..."

"yeah of course"

"and if you were doing something that bothered me, I should tell you about it right?"

"uhh I guess..." *gets awkward*"

"And so we're not trying to be dicks, but it's better that we get shit out in the open instead of letting it build up until it turns into a big fight over something really stupid like dirty dishes in the sink"

"Yeah, that's sounds like a good idea."

"okay, cool. So, I don't feel comfortable with the way you think you can just use my stuff all the time like my computer. Or how you expect me to give you rides all the time. I mean I don't mind that stuff every once in a while, but I have boundaries, and I just feel like you are encroaching on my boundaries when you treat all my stuff like it were your stuff."

etc etc.

see, that's easy. It's awkward and uncomfortable, but it seriously is way better than being all passive aggressive and letting shit fester into something way more hostile.


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Re: How to tell your room mate & friend to not be so using [Re: Cyclohexylamine]
    #14203681 - 03/29/11 01:10 PM (12 years, 9 months ago)

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tymoteusz3 said:
I just don't want to come off as a dick.
A few years ago when I was going to uni this guy in my class asked me if he could get a ride occasionally to school - he was near where I lived so I agreed. Long story short it turned out into an every day thing, he was about 10 - 15 minutes out of my way. I finally told him I couldn't do it anymore, and he basically blew up and started calling me a dick and stuff.

I know I am in the right I just find it hard to be firm some times :frown:




hahah you're easy to push around, you should have called that guy a worthless faggot and to get his own fucking car

jesus

quit being pushed around and assert yourself, or everyone is going to think you're a pussy that's good for using


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Re: How to tell your room mate & friend to not be so using [Re: Nunbuh_Chrubble]
    #14203701 - 03/29/11 01:14 PM (12 years, 9 months ago)

Dear OP:

Don't fucking move in with this guy, really man? He is acting like you owe him something. Your desktop? You gotta drive him places?

I bet you he is gonna eat your food, not pick up, not have enough money for rent (His first time moving out and no money saved?)

Yeah...

good luck. If you decide to move in with this dude, I feel sorry for you for not listening to us

:shrug:

PS. Find a better roomate, or live by yourself. You can always invite friends over, but its hard to get rid of them if you live with em.


Edited by Uzziel (03/29/11 01:15 PM)


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Re: How to tell your room mate & friend to not be so using [Re: HELLA_TIGHT]
    #14203716 - 03/29/11 01:16 PM (12 years, 9 months ago)

****EDIT**** ^^^^What that guy said.


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"Sick of you always calling asking 'where have I been?', I'm at the same place bitch, getting high with my friends."

"I'm holding my gut when the rush hits, it's subtle at first--the worst is done
This ain't nothing, until my blood is pumping, shit hits like percussion
And the club suddenly changes into something it wasn't..."


Edited by Hellboy (03/29/11 01:18 PM)


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Re: How to tell your room mate & friend to not be so using [Re: Cyclohexylamine]
    #14203822 - 03/29/11 01:40 PM (12 years, 9 months ago)

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tymoteusz3 said:
Long story short, I am moving in with a friend of mine instead of being in an apartment alone, because that is where my music career is taking me.

However this friend has some issues when it comes to using me and my stuff like its his own - for example he mentioned that he doesn't need a computer because he intends to use mine. He also wants me to drive him about.

I already told him I was not driving him about, if he wants to go places he can either bus or something. Its not like I am any richer, I just saved money to have stuff instead of spending it all. In fact I have been living on my own for several years, paying rent and all, while he has been with his aunt & uncle getting free room and board.

I don't want to be a dick but how do you nicely put that my stuff is not really his and vise versa.

I don't want to share food, I eat almost nothing (literally I exist on not even a full meal a day if that) and he eats nice big meals.

I don't want to share drugs, because what usually happens is he uses all my drugs and never reciprocates. Every time I get drugs from him he hounds me for money, but I have had so many fucking parties over the last summer and winter where I supplied the drugs and didn't ask any payment because it seemed like a dick thing to do.

I have nothing against sharing, but I have something against being used. But I don't know how to nicely say that my stuff is mine and to fuck off or reciprocate 100%.





From experience. Dont share anything, ever.

Always leads to bullshit.

Let him get is own stuff. If he asks you to help him out, hound him for cash too.


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Re: How to tell your room mate & friend to not be so using [Re: Spiralout112]
    #14203870 - 03/29/11 01:53 PM (12 years, 9 months ago)

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Spiralout112 said:
when I tested him he went 3 days without tp instead of just driving down to the store to get some.



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