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How to tell your room mate & friend to not be so using *DELETED*
#14201750 - 03/29/11 01:18 AM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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-------------------- Yes this is tymo - I just changed my name Have you ever had a dream that you were so sure was real? What if you were unable to awake from that dream? How would you know the difference between that dream world and the real world? There is NOTHING better than feeling that warm dissociative fuzz creeping up your body from IM K Something abut that anaesthetic rush... Qualitative Research Chemical Effects and Experiences The Wonderful World of Methoxetamine The 3-Meo-PCP Chapters, Part One
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Re: How to tell your room mate & friend to not be so using [Re: Cyclohexylamine]
#14201769 - 03/29/11 01:22 AM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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are you paying rent with him?
if not you kinda owe him.
if so then just tell him he's getting a little too accustomed to your stuff and that you want to solve this little annoyance before it becomes a real problem
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Re: How to tell your room mate & friend to not be so using [Re: Cyclohexylamine]
#14201780 - 03/29/11 01:26 AM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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computer wise make him pay for the interwho and set him up with a user account. Charge him taxi like rates if you do drive him. Its different if his car was in the chop or something or maybe the weather is nice 99% of the time but happens to be a terrible day out but to expect it all the time is a bit much. I would be happy to have him pay the interwebs then maybe garbage pic him an old computer later or something.
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Re: How to tell your room mate & friend to not be so using [Re: Cyclohexylamine]
#14201783 - 03/29/11 01:26 AM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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just be a man when you need to
dont over think shit
also move to tibet
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Re: How to tell your room mate & friend to not be so using [Re: argg]
#14201792 - 03/29/11 01:28 AM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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Edited by Cyclohexylamine (05/31/11 08:23 PM)
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Re: How to tell your room mate & friend to not be so using [Re: Cyclohexylamine]
#14201902 - 03/29/11 01:59 AM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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Lock your computer, and lock it in your room. If he has not sold the laptop, tell him not to - that you don't want him spanking on yours.
If he wants a ride, charge "gas" money up front.
Don't let him start mooching, or it will be harder to stop.
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Re: How to tell your room mate & friend to not be so using [Re: Cyclohexylamine]
#14202040 - 03/29/11 02:36 AM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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argg said: computer wise make him pay for the interwho and set him up with a user account. Charge him taxi like rates if you do drive him. Its different if his car was in the chop or something or maybe the weather is nice 99% of the time but happens to be a terrible day out but to expect it all the time is a bit much. I would be happy to have him pay the interwebs then maybe garbage pic him an old computer later or something.
We will split internet 50/50. The thing which really pissed me off today is that he said that he intends to be using my desktop - he didn't even ask me. He was selling his laptop so I asked him what he was going to use and he was like "your desktop" totally serious.
I didn't know how to say "No fucking way, sorry" and not sound like a dick. I want my computer in my room. Not out in a living room like a communal computer. I am not dating the guy.
I don't mind the occasional drive here and there. But I have a life and I am busy too, I don't want to spend my time driving people about.
Dude you just gotta say "no". It's really not that hard.
"What are you gonna do without a computer?" "I'm gonna use yours, obviously." "Sorry man, but I use my computer pretty much all the time, that's not really cool. Probably best to keep the laptop."
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Re: How to tell your room mate & friend to not be so using [Re: SWIM Jr]
#14202075 - 03/29/11 02:47 AM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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SWIM Jr said: Lock your computer, and lock it in your room. If he has not sold the laptop, tell him not to - that you don't want him spanking on yours.
If he wants a ride, charge "gas" money up front.
Don't let him start mooching, or it will be harder to stop.
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Re: How to tell your room mate & friend to not be so using [Re: pwnasaurus]
#14202078 - 03/29/11 02:49 AM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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I have almost the exact same problem with one of my room mates, I try to keep us all with our own bag of weed because this other guy always smokes my shit and never buys his own except for once in a blue moon. To put it short he's broke unemployed until spring and so lazy that when I tested him he went 3 days without tp instead of just driving down to the store to get some. I've just learned though that Im gonna stand my ground and thats tough with this guy because he usually goes from cool to flying off the handle at the flip of a switch, I guess what helped is that I got so pissed off I didnt give a fuck what the reaction was, thats probably the key right there.
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Re: How to tell your room mate & friend to not be so using [Re: Spiralout112]
#14202117 - 03/29/11 03:09 AM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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I honestly don't know how you put up with that kinda shit.
If someone was using my stuff without my permission I'd go apeshit on them.
You just gotta tell him upfront; My shit IS NOT your shit. DO NOT use my shit without my permission.
If he continues to use your stuff without your permission I suggest buying some yogurt and putting dead cockroaches in it, that'll teach him. Go striptease on his ass.
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Re: How to tell your room mate & friend to not be so using [Re: Cyclohexylamine]
#14202121 - 03/29/11 03:09 AM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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why don't you just tell him everything you just told us? he's probably not gonna cry about it and might actually realize your sincerity.
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Re: How to tell your room mate & friend to not be so using [Re: meatcakeman]
#14202138 - 03/29/11 03:20 AM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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Edited by Cyclohexylamine (05/31/11 08:23 PM)
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Re: How to tell your room mate & friend to not be so using [Re: Cyclohexylamine]
#14202149 - 03/29/11 03:24 AM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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I see. you're one of those people who have a hard time saying no. Therefore people will take advantage of that and walk all over you.
Do you want that?
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Re: How to tell your room mate & friend to not be so using [Re: Cyclohexylamine]
#14202154 - 03/29/11 03:25 AM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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can i hear your music?
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Re: How to tell your room mate & friend to not be so using [Re: NewWavePeace]
#14202158 - 03/29/11 03:26 AM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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I HAD THIS EXACT SAME ISSUE WHEN I MOVED IN WITH MY ROOMMATE
The only way to solve this is to get him to free up an hour, stop, look him the eyes and write down the rules. You need to make this serious so he knows, and you need to explain to him that you are doing this because of "" reason. Make him sign the piece of paper and tell him you will give him chance first couple days as he remembers but after that he signed the contract and it needs to be kept that way.
It sounds lame but it worked for someone 20 and 21. If we can do it, so can you.
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Re: How to tell your room mate & friend to not be so using [Re: Cyclohexylamine]
#14202167 - 03/29/11 03:28 AM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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you shouldn't sell hard drugs
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Re: How to tell your room mate & friend to not be so using [Re: Cherk]
#14202176 - 03/29/11 03:31 AM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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You should also have him write out the rules he wants so it feels equal. Respect them carefully. those first four weeks are very important, and if you try hard to follow the rules for each other then it becomes habit and are no longer "rules".
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Re: How to tell your room mate & friend to not be so using [Re: Cyclohexylamine]
#14202189 - 03/29/11 03:36 AM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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tymoteusz3 said: I just don't want to come off as a dick. A few years ago when I was going to uni this guy in my class asked me if he could get a ride occasionally to school - he was near where I lived so I agreed. Long story short it turned out into an every day thing, he was about 10 - 15 minutes out of my way. I finally told him I couldn't do it anymore, and he basically blew up and started calling me a dick and stuff.
I know I am in the right I just find it hard to be firm some times 
sometimes you have to come off as a dick. some people are more prone to getting butthurt than others. do you really want to risk your own wellbeing over a seemingly superficial relationship between you and your roommate?
if you're really that concerned, you could try easing in to it. you should start asking him for stuff and using him as well. create a symbiotic relationship. if he starts to say "no," you now have a strong basis for argument.
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Re: How to tell your room mate & friend to not be so using [Re: Cyclohexylamine]
#14202232 - 03/29/11 03:56 AM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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Just make him pay extra for everything on purpose so that he gets the message that it's not worth for him, and if he doesn't well then your benefiting from it anyway.
If he wants you to drive him somewhere say alright ill do it for $10, and if he says no then you say no.
Same with drugs etc.
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Re: How to tell your room mate & friend to not be so using [Re: Dosile Kouki]
#14202266 - 03/29/11 04:22 AM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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Thanks guys for your help  Will see how this goes!
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