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Offlinemindbentempire
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I need serious help!
    #14191876 - 03/27/11 12:07 PM (12 years, 11 months ago)

I have a porn addiction..
And it is getting out of control!
I end up jerking about 2-5 times a day.. And I cant do it without porn.
Sometimes I might have a day here and there where I wont, but mainly because I will have a lot of work/study to do.
I also have a girlfriend of a year and a half and most of the time when we have sex she'll cum a few times and I wont.
I feel like it is effecting my life and our relationship in very negative ways.
Can anyone guide me to how I can start on fixing this? :S

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OfflineMaharishi_2_U
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Re: I need serious help! [Re: mindbentempire]
    #14191890 - 03/27/11 12:09 PM (12 years, 11 months ago)

Don't fap.....
Lol
glad I am in my thirties
serious, stop jerkin it...
bc

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Offlinestranger_danger
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Re: I need serious help! [Re: Maharishi_2_U] * 1
    #14191898 - 03/27/11 12:10 PM (12 years, 11 months ago)

:whacker:.............:laugh2:

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Offlinemindbentempire
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Re: I need serious help! [Re: stranger_danger]
    #14191910 - 03/27/11 12:12 PM (12 years, 11 months ago)

I cant! Thats the problem!
Ill be driving home from work and say to myself "i wont wank this week, no matter what, i wont, just no"
Then Ill get home and go "fuck it", and pull 3 rounds :frown:

Edited by mindbentempire (03/27/11 12:13 PM)

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Re: I need serious help! [Re: mindbentempire]
    #14191923 - 03/27/11 12:14 PM (12 years, 11 months ago)

You need to find something better to do with your time than serial masturbating.

Its a waste of time and semen. Occasional masturbation isn't a horrible thing, but this sounds like its more than occasional.

If you jerk off too much it can be difficult to finish while having sex. Stop jerking off. Reduce it to once a day, then go to every other day.

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Offlinestranger_danger
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Re: I need serious help! [Re: mindbentempire]
    #14191963 - 03/27/11 12:20 PM (12 years, 11 months ago)

Quote:

mindbentempire said:
Then Ill get home and go "fuck it", and pull 3 rounds :frown:




:laugh2::laugh2::laugh2: .... i cant take it... :Awemazing:

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Offlinemindbentempire
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Re: I need serious help! [Re: stranger_danger]
    #14191976 - 03/27/11 12:22 PM (12 years, 11 months ago)

Quote:

stranger_danger said:
Quote:

mindbentempire said:
Then Ill get home and go "fuck it", and pull 3 rounds :frown:




:laugh2::laugh2::laugh2: .... i cant take it... :Awemazing:




Thanks for your awesome contribution dude. I really could not have done without it.

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Offlinestranger_danger
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Re: I need serious help! [Re: mindbentempire]
    #14191997 - 03/27/11 12:26 PM (12 years, 11 months ago)

im sorry ... i shouldn't laugh, it is a real problem and I am an asshole....

u said u dont get off with your girl.... is it cause of how it feels or that your not attracted to her or..?
maybe thats why u wanna jerk it so much?

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Offlinemindbentempire
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Re: I need serious help! [Re: stranger_danger]
    #14192021 - 03/27/11 12:31 PM (12 years, 11 months ago)

Its all good.

Well, the reason why I dont get off is because I jerk so much.
And I jerk so much because I go nuts over her.
But we only get to see each other once or twice a week if we're lucky. We're both busy and running on different schedules.
I really need help guys, any techniques on how to stop wanking would be appreciated. Its getting really bad. Me not cumming is basically sending her a message that shes not attractive and spirals from there. Think about it, if you were nailing your girl, and she hardly ever came. How would you feel?

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Offlinestranger_danger
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Re: I need serious help! [Re: mindbentempire]
    #14192035 - 03/27/11 12:33 PM (12 years, 11 months ago)

hmmmmm.... get a chastity belt and give ur mom the key?

idk bro

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Re: I need serious help! [Re: stranger_danger]
    #14192054 - 03/27/11 12:37 PM (12 years, 11 months ago)

you could do all that AA stuff and surrender to god blah blah blah.... if im not mistaken admiting you have a problem is the first step


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Offlinemindbentempire
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Re: I need serious help! [Re: stranger_danger]
    #14192078 - 03/27/11 12:43 PM (12 years, 11 months ago)

Wont be surrendering to god mostly because I dont believe in him. If I did, he would be a black left handed guitarist. Anyway

I just found  a sex addicts anonymous group in my town on saturday nights. Probably my best option.

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Re: I need serious help! [Re: Picoloco]
    #14192082 - 03/27/11 12:44 PM (12 years, 11 months ago)

Learn to orgasm without ejaculation? :smile:  Search for the book ' The multi orgasmic man '. That if the ejaculation is the problem. Yet I have to say, your sexual life might have to suffer from this much jerking off. You are wasting TOOOO much sexual energy. Try self-restricting yourself the porn websites.I can`t understand why you must fantasize ,since you have a person you love,and with who you can have sexual interactions at a decent interval of time.:smile:


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Invisiblesazzelb
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Re: I need serious help! [Re: Damkina]
    #14192107 - 03/27/11 12:51 PM (12 years, 11 months ago)

You've got a good addiction, Crack on mate....


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Offlinemindbentempire
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Re: I need serious help! [Re: mindbentempire]
    #14192121 - 03/27/11 12:53 PM (12 years, 11 months ago)

Thanks, Ill make sure to get that book.
And yes, the intimacy has taken a hit a little bit with her. That is why I want to fix this.

As picoloco said, admiting I have a problem is the first step. It is a monday morning here, almost 6am, here in Oz, so I will try really hard starting today.


I have to disagree with you there sazzelb.
Nothing healthy about cumming 6 times on your hand every day, and then not cumming when you actually do have sex.

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Offlinetwboss
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Re: I need serious help! [Re: Picoloco]
    #14192150 - 03/27/11 12:58 PM (12 years, 11 months ago)

Ok here's some serious advice...

You really have 2 options for 2 separate problems...first thing and the most important is that you need to ejaculate when your with your girl. Thats completely connected to the fact that your contestant masturbation is "dulling" your sensations during sex. Most likely you need it to be a "new" experience or something more erotic because your either building up a tolerance for casual sex with the same woman which can get old. Trust me. Or because your "addiction" has made it impossible to focus on her during the experience...do you think more of going straight to the internet porn while your having sex with her?

The problem here is that you HAVE a ACTUAL mental issue that probably needs professional help to solve. If you'd like to forgo that embarrassment than the solution is easy.

Either you stop jerking off so damn much...cut it back at very least, and in order to do so you need to keep yourself from the situation which allows you to do so (alone with a CPU I assume). Force yourself to take a walk through the woods or do something out doors etc. and since you need to do work on a CPU do it in a cafe setting instead.

Or you can simply learn some way to cum for your lady while maintaining this indulgent hobby of yours.

Honestly the real danger in over masturbating to internet porn is the way you begin to develop a tolerance level to the normal stuff and need more and more exotic stuff just to get off. I'm willing to bet you know half the porn stars by name by now. Just be careful of the tolerance build up...this can lead a normal male down strange paths he probably would not have taken otherwise.

If I was you I would force myself to stop one way or another. At least a day or more before you see your girl. And realize you may need a woman 24x7 to satisfy your current appetite. You grow older and this will fade but if you don't do something you will loose this current girl and waste tons of time in your life. Use some mental discipline.

I'm out of it at the moment but I hope some of this sounds reasonable. It's all mental and if you don't learn how to control it (which you may need help with) you won't succeed. I can't imagine how much your spending on Kleenex's and lotion also...


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I would turn on the tv, but its so embarrassing
to see all the other people, i dont know what they mean
it was magic at first, when they spoke without sound
but now this world is gonna hurt, you better turn that thing down
turn it around

you cant blame me, sure the killer was my son
but i didnt teach him to pull the trigger of the gun
its the killing on his tv screen
you cant blame me, its those images he seen

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Invisiblesazzelb
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Re: I need serious help! [Re: twboss]
    #14192184 - 03/27/11 01:05 PM (12 years, 11 months ago)

Mental issues...  Could that be down to the drugs he might take???


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Offlinemindbentempire
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Re: I need serious help! [Re: mindbentempire]
    #14192203 - 03/27/11 01:09 PM (12 years, 11 months ago)

Thanks a lot twboss. To answer your question, when we have sex I am fully present there with her and do not think of anything else but her and me.
Like you said, I have built up that tolerance already.
I wouldnt mind getting some professional help, but sadly I cant afford it, being a uni student.
I was thinking of maybe putting a filter to block pornsites and then punch in a password with closed eyes so I dont know what it is and cant take it off.
I think that would help. It probably wont stop me from wanking, but at least Ill have to use my imagination this time, and I think that would be an improvement.
Again, thank you guys.

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OfflineMushroomTrip
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Re: I need serious help! [Re: mindbentempire]
    #14198981 - 03/28/11 05:25 PM (12 years, 11 months ago)

Quote:

mindbentempire said:
I have a porn addiction..
And it is getting out of control!
I end up jerking about 2-5 times a day.. And I cant do it without porn.
Sometimes I might have a day here and there where I wont, but mainly because I will have a lot of work/study to do.
I also have a girlfriend of a year and a half and most of the time when we have sex she'll cum a few times and I wont.
I feel like it is effecting my life and our relationship in very negative ways.
Can anyone guide me to how I can start on fixing this? :S




Imagine your mom as all the women and men in the porn.


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:bunny::bunnyhug:
All this time I've loved you
And never known your face
All this time I've missed you
And searched this human race
Here is true peace
Here my heart knows calm
Safe in your soul
Bathed in your sighs

:bunnyhug: :yinyang2:

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Anonymous #2

Re: I need serious help! [Re: MushroomTrip]
    #14198987 - 03/28/11 05:26 PM (12 years, 11 months ago)

gain an opiate addiction

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