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ToughLove78
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LOVED ONE LOCKED UP
#14189753 - 03/26/11 11:58 PM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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It has been a while since I have been on here I posted the pic of my hippy baby, anyway superblingtheory is my man and just got sentenced to one year...I miss him and I am raising our child and payin the bills.. Its getting harder not easier can anyone relate?
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Cherk
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i am really fucked in the head so I understand the shit not getting easier part
was the sentence stiff? no chance to parole out?
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ToughLove78
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Re: LOVED ONE LOCKED UP [Re: Cherk]
#14189785 - 03/27/11 12:07 AM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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SC is 51% so he will do half if he behaves, he was an extreme alcoholic so I hope this solves that problem. He can be out 5 days before his daughter's 1st bday. I am lost right now.... my best friend and my lover and the father of my child fuckin system!
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Cherk
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well shit extreme alcoholism is no kinda mind to raise a kid...is it his first go round? yeah hopefully he gets his act together again or for the first time whatever
he is probably in there feeling like shit about what this means for you and the girl or will eventually when he comes to
i cant help financially im all poor and shit and looking for a job...but if it comes to it don't be afraid to go to churches/foundations/authorities whatever for help
stay strong and shit....6months isn't shit really but a newborn makes things different
prepare yourself for when he gets out I guess so he has an easy transition...lay some kind of foundation with you and the kid and the real world so when he comes back he sees how things are and need to be...
just be strong mostly...
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Re: LOVED ONE LOCKED UP [Re: Cherk]
#14189857 - 03/27/11 12:26 AM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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that is a really nice thing to say most people say get the hell over it. yes he was not doing well drinkin at 6 am and a case before work, but he functions and worked hard for us and insisted I stay home with our baby. Now this came outta nowhere and I am the sole provider so I am pulling my hair out... I am trying to keep our residence and I write and send him money when I can. I have got help from several places and I feel like a failure as a mom when I ask.. Thanks I am strong most of the time, I feel weak though by complaining..I just don't know what to do on my off time
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you can probably qualify for temporary welfare or shit if it comes to that...
if you're just bored pick up a new hobby
read some books (i can suggest shit if you tell me what you like) make, art, draw or if you dont have the patience for that kind of torture go for a walk or meet with your friends that are good influences...
if you're the enterprising type learn how to develop web sites or anything you can do at home for extra dough
or just piss away your time on here if the juvenile content doesnt just make you depressed
talk to me anytime....whatever
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You're in no way a failure as a Mom; you were just thrown a curve-ball that changed your plans. There's no shame in asking for assistance.
If you really feel that way, just remember to pass it on if you're ever in a more secure position and able to help someone else who's having a hard time.
As far as what to do with yourself, might there be any opportunity to make a little coin working from home? I've never looked into it, but I imagine there could be opportunities.
I really hope things work out for you.
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Re: LOVED ONE LOCKED UP [Re: Fischer]
#14189949 - 03/27/11 12:47 AM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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Cool man Going to the drive thru right now gots to eat! I have a sitter tonight and did not even go out..just chillin with my friend, he is a night owl like me and most of the time I work 3rd so I am UP U R 2 sweet Yea I need a new hobby or perhaps just some new friends.. I quit drinkin since he left so I am like now what? B backQuote:
Fischer said: You're in no way a failure as a Mom; you were just thrown a curve-ball that changed your plans. There's no shame in asking for assistance.
If you really feel that way, just remember to pass it on if you're ever in a more secure position and able to help someone else who's having a hard time.
As far as what to do with yourself, might there be any opportunity to make a little coin working from home? I've never looked into it, but I imagine there could be opportunities.
I really hope things work out for you.
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Re: LOVED ONE LOCKED UP [Re: Fischer]
#14189973 - 03/27/11 12:52 AM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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yea I was not lookin for this it was not in my plans as a woman or a mother to be so freakin BROKE and alone. I am doin things on the side, my job sucks big time and I keep lookin for better everyday... I am not stupid this damn economy doesn't help things and DSS gives me a whole 126/mo. WHOA but its somethin my life has to get better...
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Poid
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ToughLove78 said: SC is 51% so he will do half if he behaves, he was an extreme alcoholic so I hope this solves that problem.
Alcoholism is inheritable.
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Re: LOVED ONE LOCKED UP [Re: Poid]
#14190034 - 03/27/11 01:05 AM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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Poid said:
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ToughLove78 said: SC is 51% so he will do half if he behaves, he was an extreme alcoholic so I hope this solves that problem.
Alcoholism is inheritable. 
TYPICAL POID IS TYPICAL
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Re: LOVED ONE LOCKED UP [Re: Cherk]
#14190042 - 03/27/11 01:06 AM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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-------------------- Well I try my best to be just like I am, but everybody wants you to be just like them. -- Bob Dylan  fireworks_god said:It's one thing to simply enjoy a style of life that one enjoys, but it's another thing altogether to refer to another person's choice as "wrong" or to rationalize their behavior as being pathological or resulting from some sort of inadequacy or failing so as to create a sense of superiority or separation as yet another projection of a personal fear or control issue.
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Re: LOVED ONE LOCKED UP [Re: Poid]
#14190570 - 03/27/11 04:55 AM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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Poid said:
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ToughLove78 said: SC is 51% so he will do half if he behaves, he was an extreme alcoholic so I hope this solves that problem.
Alcoholism is inheritable. 
that's bullshit, there is a gene that allows for the addictive behavior but it doesnt mean shit, substance use/abuse comes down to personal choice
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Re: LOVED ONE LOCKED UP [Re: Prisoner#1]
#14190579 - 03/27/11 04:57 AM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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http://psychiatry.healthse.com/psy/more/alcoholism/
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Twin studies tend to show heritability of drinking behavior and heritability of alcoholism.
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Re: LOVED ONE LOCKED UP [Re: Poid]
#14190580 - 03/27/11 04:59 AM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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It's still your choice when it comes down to it.
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Poid
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It's still inheritable.
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Re: LOVED ONE LOCKED UP [Re: Poid]
#14190593 - 03/27/11 05:05 AM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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Re: LOVED ONE LOCKED UP [Re: Shroomism]
#14190597 - 03/27/11 05:07 AM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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Poid said: http://psychiatry.healthse.com/psy/more/alcoholism/
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Twin studies tend to show heritability of drinking behavior and heritability of alcoholism.
-------------------- Well I try my best to be just like I am, but everybody wants you to be just like them. -- Bob Dylan  fireworks_god said:It's one thing to simply enjoy a style of life that one enjoys, but it's another thing altogether to refer to another person's choice as "wrong" or to rationalize their behavior as being pathological or resulting from some sort of inadequacy or failing so as to create a sense of superiority or separation as yet another projection of a personal fear or control issue.
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Re: LOVED ONE LOCKED UP [Re: Poid]
#14190607 - 03/27/11 05:14 AM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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Poid said: It's still inheritable.
and yet if you make the choice not to, have you inherited alcoholism?
do the children of alcoholics start life and continue through school as alcoholics?
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Prisoner#1
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Re: LOVED ONE LOCKED UP [Re: Poid]
#14190608 - 03/27/11 05:15 AM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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Poid said:
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Poid said: http://psychiatry.healthse.com/psy/more/alcoholism/
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Twin studies tend to show heritability of drinking behavior and heritability of alcoholism.
alcoholism isnt a disease and this pseudoscience should stop making excuses for alcoholics
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