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People that dont respect your choice not to use drugs
#14176808 - 03/24/11 04:10 PM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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I had to quit all drugs when I got into legal trouble and was put on probation. The only drugs I take now are my Rx'd suboxone and benzos, other than that I dont even drink (drinking isnt allowed on probation where I live). Ive been in drug treatment for 7 months and while I do still want to get high I have 7 months clean and all my friends know this and know how hard Im trying to stay clean and comply with probation, they also know if I fuck up and get high that I will go to jail for 6 months so naturaly Im doing everything I can to stay clean. Yet these people still call me religiously every friday/saturday night and try to convince me to come out and get drunk and high with them, I know I could get away with drinking but I dont realy like it and I also dont want to go to my treatment and have to look my counselor in the face and tell a lie when I have lots of respect for her and the fact that she's very proud of my progress and considers me one of her success stories and feels strongly that I can make it.
My friends just wont stop calling despite the frustration I convey to them about what they are doing and how it doesnt do anything but make it harder for me. I would just not answer but its my house phone that they call and I dont have caller ID so I never know if its them calling or someone I actualy want to talk to. I have cut my ties with all of them and havent called or seen any of em for the entire 7 months ive been clean, its not because Im a dick and dont like them its because its not safe for me to be around people I used with it triggers me to much. Getting clean just seems so impossible and not worth it at times, it just feels like there isnt anyone on this earth who doesnt do drugs or drink to have fun, I dont know how much longer I can hold out and I am only like 2 months into a 2 year probation stint it feels like I'll never be free at this point. Sorry for the rant just been feeling pretty down about this alot lately.
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Re: People that dont respect your choice not to use drugs [Re: PeterGriffin467]
#14176841 - 03/24/11 04:14 PM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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If you wanna meet people who don't drink or do drugs, you have to go to places where these people congregate. Sorry but a lot of these people may just not be your "type" having come from the world of drug use.
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Re: People that dont respect your choice not to use drugs [Re: LoveYourLife]
#14176852 - 03/24/11 04:17 PM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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Friends need to be supportive of you no matter what decision you make in your life, if they can't then they probably aren't good friends
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Re: People that dont respect your choice not to use drugs [Re: Devlish2]
#14176888 - 03/24/11 04:21 PM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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Thats how I feel to, maybe these people aren't the friends I thought they were.
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Re: People that dont respect your choice not to use drugs [Re: PeterGriffin467]
#14176897 - 03/24/11 04:23 PM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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PeterGriffin467 said: Thats how I feel to, maybe these people aren't the friends I thought they were.
It happens man, don't let that get you down. You can and will meet some people that will truly care about you in this world.
Stay positive.
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Re: People that dont respect your choice not to use drugs [Re: Devlish2]
#14176951 - 03/24/11 04:31 PM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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Im def gonna smoke weed again when Im not on probation and may even get some jwh powder to smoke before then so I def dont think any less of my friends for getting high cuz I still want to get high too, its the fact that they cant respect my decision to not use while on probation that gets me mad at them.
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Re: People that dont respect your choice not to use drugs [Re: PeterGriffin467]
#14177101 - 03/24/11 04:53 PM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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Dude I Feel for you, i have had a best friend for 10 years who has basically been bringing me down, I try to do better and he sucks me into his endless shit hole. I moved in with my girlfriend and he couldn't even be happy he had to make it about him.. I never realized how much better off I am, until I told him off. friendship is a two way street and if all they care about is getting high with you and don't support your decisions you don't need them, right? but ultimately the choice is yours.
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Re: People that dont respect your choice not to use drugs [Re: Devlish2]
#14177152 - 03/24/11 04:59 PM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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Devlish2 said: Friends need to be supportive of you no matter what decision you make in your life, if they can't then they probably aren't good friends 
Co-sign.
To what extent have you told 'em to leave you alone? You know, a good ol' "Fuck Off!" does the trick most of the times.
It just seems very hard for me to comprehend as to why your friends are still inviting you to drink and get high. They really must not give a shit about you, or what's going to happen with you.
You don't need to cut them off completely, but I would definitely send out a message that they'll undoubtedly understand.
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Re: People that dont respect your choice not to use drugs [Re: DueceNickelTray]
#14177161 - 03/24/11 05:00 PM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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good for you for staying strong. i did 8 years out of a 10 year probation sentence. i partied though, just gave myself enough of a window to pass my ua's. my po didn't care if i drank either.
good luck man.
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Re: People that dont respect your choice not to use drugs [Re: millzy]
#14177197 - 03/24/11 05:07 PM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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Yeah Ive been on probation before but this was when i was a teenager and I never stopped doing drugs and would drink water to pass my drug tests so maybe my friends dont understand that its different this time (although I have told them a million times Im taking it seriously and not going to mess up so I dont see how they dont get it), Im older now and its not worth the effort and worry to have to always be paranoid about failing drug tests and fucking up, even if I decided to say fuck it and try to get high and get away with it all of my highs would be tainted with anxiety that would ruin any of the fun so its just not something Im gonna do. Jwh is realy the only drug I will even consider using on probation but with all the attention its gotten this year and the fact that my PO has asked me if I smoke or have smoked k2 worries me that they will at some point start paying for jwh tests makes me weary of it.
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Re: People that dont respect your choice not to use drugs [Re: PeterGriffin467]
#14177227 - 03/24/11 05:12 PM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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Should've never gotten in that scene, buddy.
-------------------- Well I try my best to be just like I am, but everybody wants you to be just like them. -- Bob Dylan  fireworks_god said:It's one thing to simply enjoy a style of life that one enjoys, but it's another thing altogether to refer to another person's choice as "wrong" or to rationalize their behavior as being pathological or resulting from some sort of inadequacy or failing so as to create a sense of superiority or separation as yet another projection of a personal fear or control issue.
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Re: People that dont respect your choice not to use drugs [Re: Poid]
#14177235 - 03/24/11 05:14 PM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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in texas parole/probation officers were recommending jwh/k2 when it was legal so people wouldn't get busted.
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Re: People that dont respect your choice not to use drugs [Re: PeterGriffin467]
#14177267 - 03/24/11 05:19 PM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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Props man! Shit is hard to do, even more so with people bugging you to get high. I finally went fully sober at the start of this year and feel great about. On probation as well, and when I would get high on whatever it would be ruined by paranoia of getting caught, plus I have a hard time controlling my use.
I am more of a solitude type of person, but the friends and people I hang out with don't do drugs, and don't encourage me to do so, which is good because my self-control can suck sometimes. Going back to an old job this summer where everyone smokes and drinks and I am going to be around it for 3 days week (work and sleep together for the weekend) so that's going to be a trial.
Anyway, just on keepin on
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Re: People that dont respect your choice not to use drugs [Re: Poid]
#14177272 - 03/24/11 05:19 PM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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Poid said: Should've never gotten in that scene, buddy. 
That's a helpful post. You little shit...
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Re: People that dont respect your choice not to use drugs [Re: Poid]
#14177287 - 03/24/11 05:21 PM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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Poid said: Should've never gotten in that scene, buddy. 
What the fuck are you talking about, you mean the "scene" I grew up in and have been in all my life? I just happened to get into some trouble and now I gotta follow the law for a couple years.
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Re: People that dont respect your choice not to use drugs [Re: JohnnyZampano]
#14177292 - 03/24/11 05:22 PM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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I'm basically saying "Mistakes are to learn from."--what is wrong about that?
-------------------- Well I try my best to be just like I am, but everybody wants you to be just like them. -- Bob Dylan  fireworks_god said:It's one thing to simply enjoy a style of life that one enjoys, but it's another thing altogether to refer to another person's choice as "wrong" or to rationalize their behavior as being pathological or resulting from some sort of inadequacy or failing so as to create a sense of superiority or separation as yet another projection of a personal fear or control issue.
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Re: People that dont respect your choice not to use drugs [Re: PeterGriffin467]
#14177297 - 03/24/11 05:23 PM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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I don't care if they don't respect my choice 
The only thing I find annoying is that people try to push alcohol on me but I don't like it at all, better drugs out there . Ethanol is lame :x
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Re: People that dont respect your choice not to use drugs [Re: PeterGriffin467]
#14177302 - 03/24/11 05:23 PM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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Poid said: Should've never gotten in that scene, buddy. 
What the fuck are you talking about, you mean the "scene" I grew up in and have been in all my life? I just happened to get into some trouble and now I gotta follow the law for a couple years.
I'm talking about your unsupportive friends.
-------------------- Well I try my best to be just like I am, but everybody wants you to be just like them. -- Bob Dylan  fireworks_god said:It's one thing to simply enjoy a style of life that one enjoys, but it's another thing altogether to refer to another person's choice as "wrong" or to rationalize their behavior as being pathological or resulting from some sort of inadequacy or failing so as to create a sense of superiority or separation as yet another projection of a personal fear or control issue.
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Re: People that dont respect your choice not to use drugs [Re: LoveYourLife]
#14177305 - 03/24/11 05:24 PM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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You should repeat that with them word for word and if they can't get past it then fuck them. True friends know limits
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Re: People that dont respect your choice not to use drugs [Re: Beanhead]
#14177317 - 03/24/11 05:25 PM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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^^^ same here man I hate alcohol and people look at me like Im crazy when I tell em "nah Im good I dont like to drink" when they offer me a beer.
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Re: People that dont respect your choice not to use drugs [Re: PeterGriffin467]
#14177378 - 03/24/11 05:34 PM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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^I know what you mean, I don't drink either. It seems like it's the norm to drink, and if you turn it down you're the 'weirdo'...but dare you mention psychedelics, they'll go ape shit about how it 'melts' your brain and what not
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Re: People that dont respect your choice not to use drugs [Re: AaronEruditus]
#14177393 - 03/24/11 05:36 PM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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The funniest is when someone will offer me a beer at like 10 in the morning at their house and when i say no Im the one who's weird
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Re: People that dont respect your choice not to use drugs [Re: PeterGriffin467]
#14177422 - 03/24/11 05:40 PM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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^HAHAHAHA, yeah I know, right. I never got how people can drink alcohol in the morning
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Re: People that dont respect your choice not to use drugs [Re: AaronEruditus]
#14177482 - 03/24/11 05:50 PM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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Guinness Draught is the best beer in the world.
-------------------- Well I try my best to be just like I am, but everybody wants you to be just like them. -- Bob Dylan  fireworks_god said:It's one thing to simply enjoy a style of life that one enjoys, but it's another thing altogether to refer to another person's choice as "wrong" or to rationalize their behavior as being pathological or resulting from some sort of inadequacy or failing so as to create a sense of superiority or separation as yet another projection of a personal fear or control issue.
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