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Synesthetic said: The Ex The Ex The Ex The Ex The Ex The Ex The Ex The Ex The Ex The Ex The Ex The Ex The Ex The Ex The Ex The Ex The Ex
There's your problem. You're looking for sympathy from someone who has lost a lot of sympathy for you. She may be a generally sympathetic person but no matter how much respect you think she has for you it is most likely less respect than she had for you while you were going out.
She has her own life with her own troubles and she may be just as tired of running in circles with your families as you are. Fortunately, for her, unlike you, she can just brush it off and not have it effect her.
She may have been a little too blunt, but I think the lesson here is to find some else who is willing to give you this level of sympathy.
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Re: Did I overreact? [Re: Idiot]
#14170305 - 03/23/11 01:57 PM (12 years, 11 months ago) |
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I didn't get kicked out of my dad's house, I left because I'd had enough. There's a big difference.
No one knew about the heroin until when he was throwing all my shit in to boxes he found a couple of spore syringes, and since there was no way he'd believe me if I said what they were really for, I just let him think the worst.
I was overemotional last night, but that's what happens with me. It has nothing to do with needing to grow up or being immature, I easily get overwhelmed by my mood swings and do or say stupid things.
I did overreact last night, but I was vulnerable and irrational when I talked to her. I thought she'd always be there for me those times when I needed her, because contrary to popular belief, most of the people around me don't know anything's wrong until I've gone off the deep end.
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Unless you make a conscious decision to own your emotions and take unswerving responsibility for them, they're going to keep kicking your ass until the day you die.
I don't understand your situation psychologically, but it appears that you speak a language of excuses. You speak of your emotions as though they are imposed from above rather than from within. Even if they ARE imposed from above, you will never master them if you take your subjugation by them for granted.
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Edited by Tchan909 (03/23/11 02:09 PM)
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Poid
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If emotions were easy to control, then the human race would look much different.
-------------------- Well I try my best to be just like I am, but everybody wants you to be just like them. -- Bob Dylan  fireworks_god said:It's one thing to simply enjoy a style of life that one enjoys, but it's another thing altogether to refer to another person's choice as "wrong" or to rationalize their behavior as being pathological or resulting from some sort of inadequacy or failing so as to create a sense of superiority or separation as yet another projection of a personal fear or control issue.
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Re: Did I overreact? [Re: Poid]
#14170395 - 03/23/11 02:10 PM (12 years, 11 months ago) |
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I'm not saying he should take total control of his emotions, that's impossible. I'm just saying that he should learn to view them as a part of his own psyche and life experience, rather than as some kind of external motivator for which he can't be held responsible.
You can't control your emotions but you can sure as hell control yourself and your actions. I mean, how can you ever expect to learn from your mistakes if you blame every one of them on factors beyond your control?
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Edited by Tchan909 (03/23/11 02:23 PM)
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Poid
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Tchan909 said: I'm not saying he should take total control of his emotions, that's impossible. I'm just saying that he should learn to view them as a part of his own psyche and life experience, rather than as some kind of external motivator for which he can't be held responsible.
What if he views that external motivator for which he can't be held responsible as part of his own psyche and life experience?
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Tchan909 said: You can't control your emotions but you can sure as hell control yourself and your actions. I mean, how can you ever expect to learn from your mistakes if you blame every one of them on factors beyond your control? 
I'm not sure if he blames every one of his mistakes on his uncontrollable emotions; if he does, though, I would agree that it would be better for him to not do this.
-------------------- Well I try my best to be just like I am, but everybody wants you to be just like them. -- Bob Dylan  fireworks_god said:It's one thing to simply enjoy a style of life that one enjoys, but it's another thing altogether to refer to another person's choice as "wrong" or to rationalize their behavior as being pathological or resulting from some sort of inadequacy or failing so as to create a sense of superiority or separation as yet another projection of a personal fear or control issue.
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Re: Did I overreact? [Re: Poid]
#14170518 - 03/23/11 02:35 PM (12 years, 11 months ago) |
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Poid said: If emotions were easy to control, then the human race would exist much differently. 
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Re: Did I overreact? [Re: Poid]
#14170524 - 03/23/11 02:36 PM (12 years, 11 months ago) |
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Like I said I don't perfectly understand the circumstances he's coming from, but in my experiences there are two ways to look at your mistakes.
a) I snorted my entire adderall prescription up my nose and jerked off for the entire weekend because I was stressed, bored, and lonely.
b) I made a terrible mistake and I should try to find ways to prevent its recurrence.
Certainly, train of thought a) can inform and assist train of thought b), but getting off the train at the end of line a) is only setting you up to make the exact same mistake over, and over, and over again.
Synesthetic's posts are rife with "I did so and so BUT I was overemotional" as though that's the end of the story, and as though he is praying it doesn't "happen" again.
Anyway, it's entirely possible I've read this whole thing wrong, and if so I apologize to you, Synesthetic, for my insensitivity.
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Edited by Tchan909 (03/23/11 02:42 PM)
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Re: Did I overreact? [Re: Poid]
#14170544 - 03/23/11 02:41 PM (12 years, 11 months ago) |
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Poid said:
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Tchan909 said: I'm not saying he should take total control of his emotions, that's impossible. I'm just saying that he should learn to view them as a part of his own psyche and life experience, rather than as some kind of external motivator for which he can't be held responsible.
What if he views that external motivator for which he can't be held responsible as part of his own psyche and life experience?
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BeverageFace said: You can't control your emotions but you can sure as hell control yourself and your actions. I mean, how can you ever expect to learn from your mistakes if you blame every one of them on factors beyond your control? 
I'm not sure if he blames every one of his mistakes on his uncontrollable emotions; if he does, though, I would agree that it would be better for him to not do this.
I never said that. where did i type that?
What do you go around and make up quotes people never said, and then respond to them to boost your ego?
youre nuts man.
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I said that. I think it's an honest mistake.
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Poid
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Tchan909 said: I think it's an honest mistake.
He doesn't. 
Dude's been following me around talking shit all day, it's fucking gay. I think he has a boner for me or something.
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Tchan909 said: I said that. I think it's an honest mistake.
lol, poid just pm'd me threatening to beat me up.
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Re: Did I overreact? [Re: Poid]
#14170573 - 03/23/11 02:47 PM (12 years, 11 months ago) |
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Wasn't BeverageFace the guy who was trolling Prisoner#1 in that Coaster thread the other day?
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Poid
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Tchan909 said: Like I said I don't perfectly understand the circumstances he's coming from, but in my experiences there are two ways to look at your mistakes.
a) I snorted my entire adderall prescription up my nose and jerked off for the entire weekend because I was stressed, bored, and lonely.
b) I made a terrible mistake and I should try to find ways to prevent its recurrence.
Certainly, train of thought a) can inform and assist train of thought b), but getting off the train at the end of line a) is only setting you up to make the exact same mistake over, and over, and over again.
Well yeah, but that's kind of an extreme example, don't you think? 
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Tchan909 said: Synesthetic's posts are rife with "I did so and so BUT I was overemotional" as though that's the end of the story, and as though he is praying it doesn't "happen" again.
What he did is not comparable to snorting his entire adderall prescription up his nose and jerking off for the entire weekend because I was stressed, bored, and lonely, though; if it was, I'd be more inclined to agree with the general theme of what you're saying.
-------------------- Well I try my best to be just like I am, but everybody wants you to be just like them. -- Bob Dylan  fireworks_god said:It's one thing to simply enjoy a style of life that one enjoys, but it's another thing altogether to refer to another person's choice as "wrong" or to rationalize their behavior as being pathological or resulting from some sort of inadequacy or failing so as to create a sense of superiority or separation as yet another projection of a personal fear or control issue.
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Tchan909 said: I said that. I think it's an honest mistake.
lol, poid just pm'd me threatening to beat me up.
No I didn't, I said we should meet up and settle our disagreements--you're about to be banned! 
-------------------- Well I try my best to be just like I am, but everybody wants you to be just like them. -- Bob Dylan  fireworks_god said:It's one thing to simply enjoy a style of life that one enjoys, but it's another thing altogether to refer to another person's choice as "wrong" or to rationalize their behavior as being pathological or resulting from some sort of inadequacy or failing so as to create a sense of superiority or separation as yet another projection of a personal fear or control issue.
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Tchan909 said: Wasn't BeverageFace the guy who was trolling Prisoner#1 in that Coaster thread the other day? 
I dunno, I think he's a puppet, though.
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Look, I don't sit and wallow in these horrible feelings because I like it or because it's easier than trying to do something about them.
If they weren't beyond my control, I wouldn't have been diagnosed as having a mood disorder.
I didn't ask for help getting back on my meds, which is all I can do to get this somewhere I can manage them, because when I'm feeling as low as I have, I irrationally think no one cares, no one will help, because I'm just a worthless waste of space who would do the world a favor by ceasing to exist.
I'm not being overly dramatic for whatever sake, that's how I really feel about life when I let myself go this far.
But now I'm going to get back on my meds because being a slave to those feelings is no way to live.
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Re: Did I overreact? [Re: Poid]
#14170609 - 03/23/11 02:52 PM (12 years, 11 months ago) |
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Poid said:
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Tchan909 said: I said that. I think it's an honest mistake.
lol, poid just pm'd me threatening to beat me up.
No I didn't, I said we should meet up and settle our disagreements--you're about to be banned!  
Take this to the other thread i created, quit dirtying this one up.
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Re: Did I overreact? [Re: Poid]
#14170610 - 03/23/11 02:52 PM (12 years, 11 months ago) |
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Poid said:
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Tchan909 said: Like I said I don't perfectly understand the circumstances he's coming from, but in my experiences there are two ways to look at your mistakes.
a) I snorted my entire adderall prescription up my nose and jerked off for the entire weekend because I was stressed, bored, and lonely.
b) I made a terrible mistake and I should try to find ways to prevent its recurrence.
Certainly, train of thought a) can inform and assist train of thought b), but getting off the train at the end of line a) is only setting you up to make the exact same mistake over, and over, and over again.
Well yeah, but that's kind of an extreme example, don't you think? 
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Tchan909 said: Synesthetic's posts are rife with "I did so and so BUT I was overemotional" as though that's the end of the story, and as though he is praying it doesn't "happen" again.
What he did is not comparable to snorting his entire adderall prescription up his nose and jerking off for the entire weekend because I was stressed, bored, and lonely, though; if it was, I'd be more inclined to agree with the general theme of what you're saying.
Fair enough, it's not really a comparable situation. I believe strongly in writing what you know, though. 
My only real point here is that if you make excuses for your mistakes then you're going to keep repeating them until you either die or learn to stop making excuses.
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you are an emo
you also need more cathartic
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