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Role Play
#14143694 - 03/18/11 03:04 PM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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To begin with, I am by no means a troll so I would appreciate it if I would receive some constructive feedback: My girl and I have been going out for around 3 years now. The intercourse has been good except I have become some what bored and wanted to spice things up a bit. I was thinking about 'role-playing' and what I came up with is I would be a trainer and I would be helping her with pre-work out stretches which would intentionally lead to sex. The out fits would be that of work out clothes: me in a tank-top/shorts and her in these tight sweat pants which make her ass look delicious.
Anyways, the whole scenario would be me helping her stretch or whatever and our bodies touching would inevitably lead to the good stuff. I don't know why, but it seems like a fun idea. However, when I presented the idea to my girlfriend, she did not react in the manner I would have liked. In fact, she was rather bewildered regarding how this would 'spice' things up. In addition, she asked me why we have to be 'other' people (trainer) and furthermore suggested that it seems as if I want to fuck some one else. So, I would like some feedback on whether my idea was just ridiculous, and if I am wrong for wanting this from our relationship, and how does she think I want to fuck someone else from this?
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mikehauncho


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Anonymous #1
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mikehauncho said: Ask her if she would rather spice it up with anal?
We have tried that once, but it didn't go too well. I stuck it in her butt and as soon as I penetrated she started screaming in excruciating pain and i had to pull out. Since then we she has not been willing to even attempt this again. I told her we have to go slow but she has absolutely no interest in this type of activity and thinks that it is unneccesary.
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JesusGoneRogue


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op's girl is no fun. fuckin prude
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JesusGoneRogue said: op's girl is no fun. fuckin prude
DSHSB!!! Someone had to say it 
Also, try anal again when she is drunk - it works better. (Won't hurt - alcohol relaxes + cuts down pain. Or Ketamine too)

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Edited by Cyclohexylamine (03/18/11 05:59 PM)
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The feedback I have received is to a great extent subordinate to what I what I would have preferred to hear.
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Cyclohexylamine
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Anonymous said: The feedback I have received is to a great extent subordinate to what I what I would have preferred to hear.

Honestly I have always found roll playing weir so I am afraid I am not much help
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Your scenario seems a bit weird to me, but that is usually how a fetish seems to someone who doesn't share it.
The best advice I can offer is not to push the issue because even if she forces herself to play along it won't feel authentic and it will be disappointing for you. Then she'll pick up on your disappointment and feel like a failure or that you don't think she's hot.
Perhaps it is best to surreptitiously act out your fantasy by leading into sex after you work out together though not quite so obviously as you described.
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koraks
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Try to get your gf to acknowledge that: 1. Most people have fetishes 2. Your fetishes tend to be weird to people with other fetishes 3. Having a fetish doesn't mean you think your current partner is lacking or that you'd rather be with someone else. If she can't understand the above points, then run like hell, 'cause she needs the one-in-a-million man who _only_ likes missionary on Sunday morning between 10am and 11am, and you're obviously not that dude.
Sounds harsh, but I myself have little patience with people who don't respect the fetishes of others.
Oh and btw, your role playing script of the trainer is not weird at all; I'd say it's quite common and middle-of-the-road. If this freaks your gf out, she'd rather be lucky she isn't with me.
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Re: Role Play [Re: koraks]
#14149829 - 03/19/11 06:19 PM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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I think if it's not something she's into, it's something that will not happen immediately. Let it die for now and bring it up again in a couple of months. Or, suggesting other role playing options might help. She may be thinking that you saw some woman exercising and you wanted to bone her, so thinking of different scenarios might help. You could also ask her what scenario she might think is fun. Try hers first (and rock her world) to help her loosen up a bit and I'm sure she'll fall into the role you wish perfectly.
Some people have a "role playing" block.. it's much the same as the "dirty talking" block. They get very anxious, nervous, and unsure of what to say or how to act which leads them to think too much instead of living in the sexual moment or delving into their character. Start of slow with some dirty talk or smaller role playing dialogues without fully going into character.
Good luck!
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Did you use lube when you've tried anal? I haven't heard of a single chick who liked anal w/o lube. The problem is most guys just stick it in there without a clue of what they're doing.
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Anonymous said: Did you use lube when you've tried anal? I haven't heard of a single chick who liked anal w/o lube. The problem is most guys just stick it in there without a clue of what they're doing.
I'm pretty sure we used lube, however the pain apparently was so bad that she just never ever wants to try it again...
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Anonymous said: Did you use lube when you've tried anal? I haven't heard of a single chick who liked anal w/o lube. The problem is most guys just stick it in there without a clue of what they're doing.
I'm pretty sure we used lube, however the pain apparently was so bad that she just never ever wants to try it again...
If she relaxes and you use lube it shouldnt be painful. But sometimes shit just don't fit.
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