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g00ru
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gimme some advice on my sex life. or lack there of.
#14142091 - 03/18/11 08:28 AM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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Okay so, my whole life I've been very introverted and not very successful with girls. Like, girls really seem to like me, and think I'm attractive, but I'm just fucking HORRIBLE at making a move on a girl. Idk what it is. Like, my mental programming just doesn't seem to allow me to commit to the idea of just moving in on a girl and hooking up-->fucking her, even though I've had sex and I know what to do and all that sheet.
For example, last night this girl who I've been good friends with for a long time slept in my bed with me. This has happened a few times over the years and it was always totally chill and I never felt any awkwardness because there was just a mutual understanding that we weren't gonna hook up (or so I thought). But last night, something was different, I'd been playin it cool all night and I seriously think she would have hooked up with me. But....I pussed out, did not get it, went to sleep without doing anything about it. And this girl has been my dream girl for a long time, even though I don't particularly need her to be the one, she's just really hot and a good example.
I feel like most girls out there that I would want to have sex with are gonna be more experienced then me and on a different level, but in our society it's like the guy has to be the one to make it happen in 90% of desirable cases. Lately I've been doing all the right things to make myself more attractive to girls, just succeeding and advancing in other areas (music, school, money), and it's working, but I still can't overcome my own fucking mind on this shit.
Give me thoughts/advice.
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Re: gimme some advice on my sex life. or lack there of. [Re: g00ru]
#14142606 - 03/18/11 10:55 AM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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Well, if you keep having and blowing these opportunities, you'll eventually get so mad at your weakness that it'll give you the courage to give it a try.
Next time you're standing across the room from a beautiful girl, think about how a girl that may have wanted to fuck you slept in your bed and you didn't do diddley bucket, and how you feel right now about it.
Then go talk to that beautiful girl, so you don't have to feel that way.
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Re: gimme some advice on my sex life. or lack there of. [Re: Kid_Orgo]
#14142674 - 03/18/11 11:09 AM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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I was sorta like that in highschool.. You just have to man up..If a girl is sleeping in your bed more than likely shes down to bang.. Next time shes in your bed... Just start rubbing her back or something and slowly start moving closer to the good spots.. If shes offended you will be able to tell w/out making urself look like a complete jackass. The more success you have the more your confidence will go up. Girls are very self conscious. That girl may think you arent attracted to her since you all have never hooked up. Its on you to make it happen! Good luck!
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Re: gimme some advice on my sex life. or lack there of. [Re: g00ru]
#14142693 - 03/18/11 11:14 AM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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Don't think, just do.
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g00ru
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Re: gimme some advice on my sex life. or lack there of. [Re: thoughts]
#14143133 - 03/18/11 01:11 PM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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Quote:
iwasaClown said: Don't think, just do.
so easy yet so hard
my girl software is srsly fucked up
thanks for the advice all, ya i know i just need to fucking sack up and make a move and it doesn't matter and what's the worst that could happen etc.etc. I really don't understand the specific reason why it's even a problem for me, maybe one day I will.
It was helpful just writing that and sharing it with people honestly.
one day i will bang dat pussy
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Re: gimme some advice on my sex life. or lack there of. [Re: g00ru]
#14150947 - 03/19/11 09:49 PM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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Not trying = 100% of fail. Going for it > 0% chance.
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somuchbeautyndirt
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Re: gimme some advice on my sex life. or lack there of. [Re: Kid_Orgo]
#14155143 - 03/20/11 06:01 PM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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Not related but you said diddley bucket hehe. I have to use this!
Anywho, I love guys who are assertive, but not cocky dicks! There is a difference btw a guy who makes you feel good with a "yea, I am really into you" attitude vs a guy who's like "yea, I'm fucking you bc I can and I am awesome." If that makes sense then you are good! And don't feel that shyness is bad it is not! In fact cute when combined with sex so your ahead of most guys whether you think so or not
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g00ru
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Re: gimme some advice on my sex life. or lack there of. [Re: somuchbeautyndirt]
#14182152 - 03/25/11 01:29 PM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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success ^thanks all
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Re: gimme some advice on my sex life. or lack there of. [Re: g00ru]
#14186448 - 03/26/11 11:49 AM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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def do something dude. if she is sleeping in your bed she feels comfortable with you and youve got a one way ticket to poundtown.
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TTT
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Re: gimme some advice on my sex life. or lack there of. [Re: Smk2Joints]
#14190848 - 03/27/11 06:51 AM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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As a female, I personally hate when my male friends try to bang me. I can always sense the difference in how close they sit, how their weight is shifted, tone, etc so I shut them down fast but its very .
Consider that she might be more logical than you are when commanding your actions with your other head and may value your friendship too much to bring in other shit. You should be able to tell if she likes you. Eye contact is a good measure, IME.
btw, All my friends with the exception of one are male. I have slept in many a guys bed without wanting anything remotely sexual with them, I just trusted them.
Edited by TTT (03/27/11 06:52 AM)
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Kid_Orgo



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Re: gimme some advice on my sex life. or lack there of. [Re: TTT]
#14190997 - 03/27/11 08:09 AM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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Quote:
TTT said: You should be able to tell if she likes you.
I'm pretty sure RP is far too shy for that, too worried about what he's doing to pay close attention to what she is.
You know girls are always "I can't believe he can't tell that I like him!"
And guys are always "ARRRGH, WHY AM I SUCH A PUSSY!"
I think this is like that.
(Of course we're both projecting our own history onto the situation, it remains to the RP to see what fits)
-------------------- He was a cowboy in one of the seven days a week fights. No business, no hangout; no friends, nothing; just what you pick up and what you need.
Edited by Kid_Orgo (03/27/11 08:27 AM)
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g00ru
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Re: gimme some advice on my sex life. or lack there of. [Re: Kid_Orgo]
#14191382 - 03/27/11 10:15 AM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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okay i'm gonna say it more explicitly: i hooked up with her, it's all good. TTT, I'm glad i didn't read that a few days ago
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