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I fuckin hate life 1
#14115037 - 03/13/11 04:48 PM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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Just on facebook looking at my friend who I was in love with for half my life but never managed to get with her...
Makes me want to cry. I fucking loved that girl and I'm a complete failure. Never even had a girlfriend for longer than a few days and I'm middle aged.
Might as well fucking shoot myself. I'm a fucking wreck. I fail at life. Just waiting to fucking die because im fuckin useless.
Theres nothing in this world for me. All I want is someone to love and its too late now, im a complete fuckin failure
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Superide
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Just hating on yourself isn't gonna do a damn bit of good. Before I met my girlfriend I have now I was in a very similar situation to you. Hadn't had sex hardly at all or had many girlfriends because I'm shy with girls and never knew what to say to make it happen.
Whenever I get in those types of moods I always try to make positive changes to make me as a person more appealing. Start going to the gym, find a new hobby that you can experience with other people (I like snowboarding) Buy some new clothes, change your look and go out to bars and clubs, see what happens.
Self loathing and talking about it isn't going to change ANYTHING, you have to go out and make the changes yourself.
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durantz
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Hey man It sounds like you're going through a VERY tough time!
I would seriously recommend going to see a professional mental health provider...
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pureserenity
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I'm sorry that you are going through these hard times, But with that mentality nothing will ever get better. You need to love yourself before anyone can love you.
-------------------- "We are because the universe allows us."
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Re: I fuckin hate life [Re: Superide]
#14115143 - 03/13/11 05:10 PM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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Superide said: Just hating on yourself isn't gonna do a damn bit of good. Before I met my girlfriend I have now I was in a very similar situation to you. Hadn't had sex hardly at all or had many girlfriends because I'm shy with girls and never knew what to say to make it happen.
Whenever I get in those types of moods I always try to make positive changes to make me as a person more appealing. Start going to the gym, find a new hobby that you can experience with other people (I like snowboarding) Buy some new clothes, change your look and go out to bars and clubs, see what happens.
Self loathing and talking about it isn't going to change ANYTHING, you have to go out and make the changes yourself.
Sorry to take it out here 
You give me a bit of hope. I'm going to try to change and make something happen.
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Anonymous #1
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pureserenity said: You need to love yourself before anyone can love you.
I dunno how to do that. Ive always hated myself.
I feel like I'm in a world where everything has to be perfect. Its coming from all angles. TV, work my friends. But im never gonna be perfect.
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godisanastronaut
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if you feel like you got nothing to lose - and i claim hereby that anyone has that feeling at some point in life - is a great time to really change your view of things. like, for example, being shy. if you dont have any reputation to lose you might as well hit the bars or clubs and fool around with people and eventually you'll learn that you're not a boring fuck at all and have actually people liking you very much. not all do, of course, but that's an impossible goal to achieve. making something happen is a procedure where you have to MAKE something happen sitting at home ranting will just make things worse.
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Complexicated
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If it makes you feel any better there a tons of people out there who feel the exact same way. You'd be surprised. A lot of people put up a facade to make it look like they're living this perfect wonderful life but behind closed doors they're miserable just like anybody.
I know how you feel man. Unfortunately I've been there on too many occasions. You're right, you're never gonna be perfect. Neither is anyone else. Why would you want to be perfect in an imperfect world?
Life is hard as fuck dude! Well for most people it is. Don't worry about how perfect others lives seem because nobody has a perfect life.
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Superide
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You give me a bit of hope. I'm going to try to change and make something happen.
Good Luck. It's not an easy thing making change happen, it's making those little decisions each day that will turn into habits and into lifestyle changes. No one is ever too old to fall in love, you just put in the work to make yourself a fun, well-rounded person and love will find you.
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Anonymous said: Just on facebook looking at my friend who I was in love with for half my life but never managed to get with her...
Makes me want to cry. I fucking loved that girl and I'm a complete failure. Never even had a girlfriend for longer than a few days and I'm middle aged.
Might as well fucking shoot myself. I'm a fucking wreck. I fail at life. Just waiting to fucking die because im fuckin useless.
Theres nothing in this world for me. All I want is someone to love and its too late now, im a complete fuckin failure
get some putang
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dummy
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everyone one needs love op. you should accept the fact that this woman you loved doesn't love you and just move on. someone out there will love you if you go out and find her. but like someone said, you won't be able to build a solid relationship with anyone until you love yourself.
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plustax
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Re: I fuckin hate life [Re: dummy]
#14118860 - 03/14/11 11:19 AM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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you say you're a failure, but you mention a job. That's better than some people, now if you do better than some people it's entirely possible to do better than lots of people. Figure out what makes you happy (for me it's realizing that I just need to be happy) and work towards it. Also, remember happiness is a state of mind.
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JesusGoneRogue


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Re: I fuckin hate life [Re: plustax]
#14118869 - 03/14/11 11:21 AM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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their is hope man. just gotta make it. i suggest deactivating your facebook as a good start.
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Humility
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make an okcupid profile
I'm serious, I highly recommend this.
Pussy is important and it can be difficult for some people but it's never impossible.
Think about it man - you want another persons body. Do you know how many bodies there are out there? The odds are astronomically IN YOUR FAVOR.
You're not digging for diamonds, you're looking for sand in the desert!
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Complexicated
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JesusGoneRogue said: their is hope man. just gotta make it. i suggest deactivating your facebook as a good start.
Just curious why you think he should deactivate his facebook.
I'm in a similar situation as the OP and I just got onto facebook because I thought it might help.
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dummy
I am you and what I see is me


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i think he said that because OP is deriving a lot of pain from stalking a particular person on FB.
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Complexicated
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Re: I fuckin hate life [Re: dummy]
#14121057 - 03/14/11 06:44 PM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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Oh I see. In that case I totally agree.
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Bipolarbear
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Damn OP I'm sorry to hear how raw you feel. I'll give you some advice and I GUARANTEE it WILL work but it takes a lot of dedication from you.
What you need is confidence to go out there and get a girl and the easiest way to build confidence is to get in shape. I don't know what kind of shape you're in but you need to shift your whole attitude to being all about working out in your spare time. I'm dead serious. It is not unusual for me to work out 3 times a day. Not only will you be healthier but you'll be happier in all aspects of your life. You will start to look really good and your confidence will shine and when all this coalesces then women will take notice. At the very least you will stop hating yourself so much and when you start minimizing the self-hate you will notice a very positive trend in your daily life.
Work out now and the confidence to attract women will just come naturally. Trust me. Hang in there and make this change!
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tripp23
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dude.. go out and be happy. if you have a positive attitude with ladies, they will come. the main thing is tho.. u gotta get out to parties. theres a whole world of ppl to meet. it aint that hard.
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Re: I fuckin hate life [Re: tripp23]
#14242358 - 04/05/11 03:00 PM (12 years, 9 months ago) |
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make an okcupid profile
I'm serious, I highly recommend this.
OKCupid is the BOMB! After my ex-wife left me, I jumped on this site. I never messaged a single girl and was swimming in offers to meet up and "hang out." My current girlfriend is the best thing that's happened to me in years, and she found me there. I'm not a bad looking guy, but I'm no stud either. OKCupid ROCKS.
The other thing to remember: YOUR WORTH IS A PERSON DOES NOT EQUAL HOW MUCH PUSSY YOU GET. Sorry, it's just not true. I have a friend who's pushing 30 who is still a virgin because of a major weight problem, but he's one of the best people I know, and I'd be devastated if he decided to off himself.
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