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Candy Baron



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Standard loneliness thread
#14114056 - 03/13/11 12:26 PM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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So I broke up with my ex a while back and I miss her. I know why we broke up and I know it's for the best, but intense feelings of loneliness keep enveloping me. I put myself out there and get dates here and there, but things never seem to work out, I feel really empty inside and don't know what to do.
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automan
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You are just going through the grieving process of losing someone that was part of your life. I went through that last year after ending my marriage. You just need to find cool people to hang out with, whether or not they are romantic interests. I dated 6 or 7 people last fall and winter before I found the girl I am dating now. She is beautiful, amazing, and smart. You'll get there too. It just takes time.
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Candy Baron



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Re: Standard loneliness thread [Re: automan]
#14114127 - 03/13/11 12:51 PM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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Thanks for the advice. It really gives me a lot of hope. I hate the empty feelings that I wake to everyday. Sometimes it feels like there's no hope, but I guess I just gotta keep going.
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godisanastronaut
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going thru the same. gonna be alright. how long has it been that you broke up and how long were you together?
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rackem



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hey man your ahead of teh curve.. most people that look back at their previous relationships cant for the life of themselves figure out why they broke up in the first place.
time will heal it, and keep going on dates and such.. sooner than later you wont have the empty feeling any more
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Azure Essence


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Re: Standard loneliness thread [Re: rackem]
#14115727 - 03/13/11 06:45 PM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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Have you considered things arent working out with other BECAUSE you feel lonely and empty?
Sit with that thought for a while.
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Candy Baron



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We were together for two years and were eachother's first time's. I broke up with her during my fall semester of college and we became sex friends. Then she finally found a new boyfriend and I feel more alone then ever.
Yes Azure I've given heavy though the notion of self-love attracting other's and I believe it is true, but I'm extremely demoralized right now.
I haven't ate all day because I've been so stressed and I'm only 125 pounds to begin with and can't gain weight. I feel like there's a void in me consuming me as cliche as it might sound.
Thanks for the advice everyone.
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Azure Essence


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If it makes you feel any better, in a year, none of this will matter. Thinking of it like that, then you'll find in 6 months it will be easier than you thought. And with that knowledge, 3 months from now, you will be surprised at how good you already feel. Knowing that, in 1 month you'll already be amazed at the progress you made. And in one week you wont believe you felt so bad a week ago.
And starting tomorrow, you're going to wake up already feeling relieved over this. I recommend a big intense hard cry. It's healthy for you, tears are pure toxin. and Also to make you feel any better, the relationship after your first, doesnt mean anything but rebound so you can forget someone you cared for.
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atayia
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thank you for that last reply
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Candy Baron



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Quote:
Azure Essence said: If it makes you feel any better, in a year, none of this will matter. Thinking of it like that, then you'll find in 6 months it will be easier than you thought. And with that knowledge, 3 months from now, you will be surprised at how good you already feel. Knowing that, in 1 month you'll already be amazed at the progress you made. And in one week you wont believe you felt so bad a week ago.
And starting tomorrow, you're going to wake up already feeling relieved over this. I recommend a big intense hard cry. It's healthy for you, tears are pure toxin. and Also to make you feel any better, the relationship after your first, doesnt mean anything but rebound so you can forget someone you cared for.
Quoted for Truth, thankyou
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Candy Baron



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So I sucked it up and asked another girl to the movies today, she said yesh, so things are looking up.
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Candy Baron



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So now we are going to a roller skating rink and I am sorta excited. I've known her for a bit and we have a lot in common...wish me luck you assholes!
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Azur Essence, you seem to know a little bit of covert hypnosis, no? Haha, it works subtly even in writing.
I went through two debilitating break-ups in the past 4 years that left me in a shitty place. But you eventually find ways to supplement the empty feelings with other things, and your sorrow wanes and weakens.
Just take this into consideration when you feel like there is no hope...
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godisanastronaut
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Re: Standard loneliness thread [Re: Microppose]
#14141736 - 03/18/11 05:52 AM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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way to go, op. but i'd say you better not hop straight into the next relationship. dunno, but i find it hard to let go and be "all-in" yet again. have some fun first.
cheers
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Azure Essence


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Re: Standard loneliness thread [Re: Microppose]
#14143336 - 03/18/11 01:55 PM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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Azurascender said: Azur Essence, you seem to know a little bit of covert hypnosis, no? Haha, it works subtly even in writing.
I went through two debilitating break-ups in the past 4 years that left me in a shitty place. But you eventually find ways to supplement the empty feelings with other things, and your sorrow wanes and weakens.
Just take this into consideration when you feel like there is no hope...
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Haha guilty..... dont make anyone privvy to it tho
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tripp23
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weve all been there brotha. youll pull through. its depressing as hell i know.. extremely lonely and depressing. it just takes time. just keep going out and dating. itll take your mind off your ex and try to avoid contact with the ex as well. cut it off completely. and as long as you keep dating, youll eventually find her. it may take alittle while, it may take no time at all but itll come. before you even know it.
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