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PeterGriffin467
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I think I just blew it with this girl because of my stupid social anxiety
#14104962 - 03/11/11 05:11 PM (12 years, 11 months ago) |
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Met this new girl who is realy cool and good looking and we have been talking for a bit on the phone and she wanted to come over today. I picked her up and it was the first time we had ever hung out. She just broke up with her BF like a couple weeks ago so I figured maybe she just wanted to be friends and that was cool with me but if something came out of it that would be nice. She came over and we had a good time and she was laying her head on my shoulder and sending me positive vibes and I pussed out and didnt try to make a move or anything with her because I had anxiety that she would reject my advance since she just broke up with her BF and when we talked on the phone before she said how she was glad to be single and its good for her life right now.
So we just hung out and I dropped her off wondering if I should of tried to at least kiss her (Shes not a slutty girl so thats the most I figured would happen the first time we hung out wasnt expecting to have sex esp since she just broke up with her BF) and then like 30 minutes later she calls me and talks for a bit and then says to me "why didnt you kiss me when we were sitting on your couch I realy wanted you to?" and I just felt so stupid. Im worried I blew my chance with her and she is gonna think Im a pussy but I realy just didnt want to make an unwanted advance and get rejected since she was saying a few days before how she was glad to be single and blah blah. Im so frustrated over this and feel like the biggest idiot.
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KingSpade
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Re: I think I just blew it with this girl because of my stupid social anxiety [Re: PeterGriffin467] 4
#14104972 - 03/11/11 05:14 PM (12 years, 11 months ago) |
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Just tell her the truth and ask her on another date man
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ifoundwaldo


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Re: I think I just blew it with this girl because of my stupid social anxiety [Re: PeterGriffin467]
#14104978 - 03/11/11 05:15 PM (12 years, 11 months ago) |
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Hmmm...
Well, what was the reason you gave for not kissing her?
Definitely go for the kiss on the second date. If I'm feeling the girl, I'll usually try to put my lips somewhere on the first date. I'm fuckin shy as fuck too BTW.
I don't think you blew it with her if she is in any way reasonable.
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Re: I think I just blew it with this girl because of my stupid social anxiety [Re: KingSpade]
#14104989 - 03/11/11 05:17 PM (12 years, 11 months ago) |
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Quote:
KingSpade said: Just tell her the truth and ask her on another date man
Good advice.
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Love2trip


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Re: I think I just blew it with this girl because of my stupid social anxiety [Re: ben_dover0802]
#14105027 - 03/11/11 05:26 PM (12 years, 11 months ago) |
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Deff ask her out again dude
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Re: I think I just blew it with this girl because of my stupid social anxiety [Re: ben_dover0802]
#14105037 - 03/11/11 05:29 PM (12 years, 11 months ago) |
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Tell her the truth that you didn't want to rush in, that you want to make sure she's comfortable with the idea before you go jumping her.
Anxiety my ass.
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PeterGriffin467
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Re: I think I just blew it with this girl because of my stupid social anxiety [Re: KingSpade]
#14105077 - 03/11/11 05:39 PM (12 years, 11 months ago) |
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KingSpade said: Just tell her the truth and ask her on another date man
Yeah I told her that I realy wanted to and was about to a couple times but I wasnt sure if she wanted me to. She said she could tell I wanted to by the way I looked at her a couple times and she said she was thinking "I hope he kisses me" She said shes gonna call me tomorrow but she has to work everyday till wednesday so thats the earliest it will be until I possibly will hang out with her again and I cant stop thinking about how I should of just manned up.
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The Boat
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Re: I think I just blew it with this girl because of my stupid social anxiety [Re: PeterGriffin467] 4
#14105087 - 03/11/11 05:42 PM (12 years, 11 months ago) |
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dry smash your phone buttons and tell her you want to chill tomorrow.
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PeterGriffin467
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Re: I think I just blew it with this girl because of my stupid social anxiety [Re: The Boat]
#14105107 - 03/11/11 05:48 PM (12 years, 11 months ago) |
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She has to work unfortunately so she cant hang out tomorrow. She's always working and it took awhile for her to even have a little time off to come over today and I had been hoping we'd hang out for like 3 weeks now and her work kept interfering with our plans and she finaly had some time and called me and came over and i fucking blow it
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Re: I think I just blew it with this girl because of my stupid social anxiety [Re: PeterGriffin467] 3
#14105133 - 03/11/11 06:00 PM (12 years, 11 months ago) |
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Dude you're way overreacting. You obviously didn't blow it, you're going to hang out with her again...
And that has nothing to do with social anxiety - that's being a gentleman and not a pig.
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Shroomerette
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Re: I think I just blew it with this girl because of my stupid social anxiety [Re: pwnasaurus]
#14105141 - 03/11/11 06:01 PM (12 years, 11 months ago) |
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pwnasaurus said: Dude you're way overreacting. You obviously didn't blow it, you're going to hang out with her again...
And that has nothing to do with social anxiety - that's being a gentleman and not a pig.
I agree with this. Chill out!
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Re: I think I just blew it with this girl because of my stupid social anxiety [Re: PeterGriffin467]
#14105146 - 03/11/11 06:03 PM (12 years, 11 months ago) |
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call her up again sometime and ask her out again, kiss her next time if it happens. if shes into you, one kiss isnt going to be the deal-breaker.
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Re: I think I just blew it with this girl because of my stupid social anxiety [Re: Shroomerette]
#14105152 - 03/11/11 06:03 PM (12 years, 11 months ago) |
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Dude, the fact she said anything means she clearly still likes you and wants your dick
Play it smooth, and then kiss her, but not too soon, but dont wait too long.
DSHSB
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snitchelpowerz37
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Re: I think I just blew it with this girl because of my stupid social anxiety [Re: Azure Essence]
#14105209 - 03/11/11 06:16 PM (12 years, 11 months ago) |
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I have the same problem but probably even worse. I would still feel nervous and as though I don't have control over my body and mind even if I knew the girl liked me and still would have a lot of trouble making a move.
I'm hopeless It sucks wanting to experience a relationship but being unable too because I simply cannot control my anxiety IN THOSE SPECIFIC SITUATIONS. The only times I feel that intensely nervous is around girls I like and doing presentations in front of large groups of people. It sucks even more seeing how easy it is for everyone else.
Edited by snitchelpowerz37 (03/11/11 06:21 PM)
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withoutawire
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Re: I think I just blew it with this girl because of my stupid social anxiety [Re: KingSpade]
#14105450 - 03/11/11 06:58 PM (12 years, 11 months ago) |
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KingSpade said: Just tell her the truth and ask her on another date man
If the truth isn't enough for her then she isn't worth your time. Anyone who is worth while will spend a couple days getting comfortable if they are worth while.
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biff
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Re: I think I just blew it with this girl because of my stupid social anxiety [Re: withoutawire]
#14105463 - 03/11/11 07:02 PM (12 years, 11 months ago) |
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just remember: You are the baddest mother fucker to ever walk this planet.
Sounds to me like you didn't blow it at all. Minor setback, maybe. Blown it? Definitely not.
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withoutawire
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Re: I think I just blew it with this girl because of my stupid social anxiety [Re: biff]
#14105500 - 03/11/11 07:11 PM (12 years, 11 months ago) |
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Being on suboxone brings up a lot of social anxiety too peter. I was NOT myself on suboxone. Feeling not high but still with really low *tested* testosterone levels from the opioid suppressing my hormones made shit really awkward in life. It was like going through puberty again.
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c1dh3d
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Re: I think I just blew it with this girl because of my stupid social anxiety [Re: withoutawire] 1
#14105531 - 03/11/11 07:17 PM (12 years, 11 months ago) |
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Same thing happened to me once, and the girl was so hot I completely fucking pussed out. Shortly afyer she stopped taking my calls, and one of my co workers fucked hear like a week later 
That killed me, and since then I haven't been on a first date that I didn't fuck the girl, that was the worst fucking feeling ever.
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Hakim0777
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Re: I think I just blew it with this girl because of my stupid social anxiety [Re: c1dh3d]
#14105746 - 03/11/11 08:04 PM (12 years, 11 months ago) |
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Dude youre so money its not even cool. Not only are you hella in but she called you back man. she called you back...
Dont stress -take it easy, be the awesome super cool dude thats shes obviously attracted to.
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PeterGriffin467
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Re: I think I just blew it with this girl because of my stupid social anxiety [Re: Hakim0777]
#14114435 - 03/13/11 02:16 PM (12 years, 11 months ago) |
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I invited her over again last night so I went and got her and we ate dinner and watched a movie. Everything went pretty good she was laying all on me and I made out with her for a bit but then she gets a call from her ex bf and suddenly has "to go". I drove her home and she started making out with me again in the car when we pulled in her driveway before she got out which was confusing since she was kinda acting weird after she got that call. Right now Im just like WTF, I know she didnt go over to the bf's though because she told me to call her once I got home and when I called her she was at home and I could hear her parents in the background so at least she didnt go over to the dudes house.
I just dont wanna be a rebound so she can make her ex bf jealous and get back with her because he broke up with her and I think she still wants to be with him. Shits just frustrating this is the second girl in the last month that Ive been talking to/hanging out with who had just broke up with her bf and put me in this weird situation. Whats most frustrating is I didnt initiate any of this realy, she was the one who started calling me out of the blue and calls me very frequently and says how she wants to hang out. I dont know I may just say fuck it its not worth getting my hopes up only to be strung along and end up getting depressed in the end
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