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Anthony917
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I always seem to notice that when I talk to people, sometimes they make very little eye contact. It makes me feel like they're uninterested in what I'm saying, but I think it might have to do with people's insecurities, and feeling uncomfortable making eye contact.
I sometimes feel uncomfortable when people NEVER break eye contact, but what's wrong with looking someone in the eyes when you talk to them??
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your right on the money, its people's insecurities (unless your just a boring asshole :-P).
but really, i sometimes look people in the eyes extra intensely when i talk to them just cause i know it makes them uncomfortable and they look down/away etc.
in the animal world when one animal can't keep eye contact with another it is admitting submission, so just relish in your dominance.
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I'm one of those people.
I like to concentrate and visualize what I'm saying.
When I'm looking into someone's eyes, I'm always thinking about what they're thinking and seeing-- kind of a self-conscious thing but not really even that-- and it all becomes a big mind fuck to me.
When I stare off into the distance, I feel that I can better think out what I want to say-- and better express myself.
I figure a lot of people must think I'm weird, but that's how I roll.
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I dunno I use eye contact pretty heavily
It's a strange power.
I try to return all eye contact given in full
Like someone said earlier, relishing my dominance haha
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ifoundwaldo said: I'm one of those people.
I like to concentrate and visualize what I'm saying.
When I'm looking into someone's eyes, I'm always thinking about what they're thinking and seeing-- kind of a self-conscious thing but not really even that-- and it all becomes a big mind fuck to me.
When I stare off into the distance, I feel that I can better think out what I want to say-- and better express myself.
I figure a lot of people must think I'm weird, but that's how I roll.
Ya i find this to be true also. Staring into someones eyes is making too much connection most of the time for casual conversation with random people. I got no problem doing it but i dont see why i should go out of my way. Besides i constant eye contact makes some people uncomfortable and i prefer to just be as courteous as possible go get w.e i need out of that person and be on to other things.
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Eye contact leads to better conversations in my experience. It allows each person to better feel the others reactions... has anyone EVER had an awesome (in person) conversation where you weren't more or less directly staring into each others eyes? It adds a lot of emotional depth in my opinion.
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Anthony917
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stranger_danger said: your right on the money, its people's insecurities (unless your just a boring asshole :-P).
but really, i sometimes look people in the eyes extra intensely when i talk to them just cause i know it makes them uncomfortable and they look down/away etc.
in the animal world when one animal can't keep eye contact with another it is admitting submission, so just relish in your dominance.
Relishing in dominance!
For example, yesterday I was riding the bus home and I struck up conversation with the couple sitting across from me. We actually had a pretty decent conversation, but after a few words, the guy would shift his eyes towards the ground, or over at his girlfriend, while I just stared at the top of his head. Hahah, I think looking away makes it more awkward for both parties
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I've been trying to have better eye contact... Last time i was tripping I felt like the mushrooms were teaching me to look and focus and look deeper and deeper... All the emotionally moving encounters I've had with super spiritual people were all characterized by the LOOK they gave me, like they were looking right through me to my soul. Eyes are the gateway to the soul, they say. So true. I also read somewhere that that's how Jesus and other healers heal people, by looking through them and recognizing their true, healthy, innermost being. Eye contact is important!!!! But I suck at it like most everyone else.
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twighead said: Eye contact leads to better conversations in my experience. It allows each person to better feel the others reactions... has anyone EVER had an awesome (in person) conversation where you weren't more or less directly staring into each others eyes? It adds a lot of emotional depth in my opinion.
then you start touchin their wiener right?
im listening...
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I see it happen more often than not. I am guilty of doing it too sometimes
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im all over the place so its hard for me to focus but im still listening. im always sure to remind the person and say "keep going, or sorry im still listening.." if u want my attention sometimes you have to grab both my shoulders and snap your fingers and say LOOK, THIS IS IMPORTANT! and i usually listen and retain what is said. i also get very mild Syncope's a lot, and sometimes mid conversation i just stop and zone. its kind of like a seizure but not as intense. just kind of randomly zone out for 15-20 min. ive always had them, hasnt been happening in the past week tho
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ifoundwaldo said: I like to concentrate and visualize what I'm saying.
When I'm looking into someone's eyes, I'm always thinking about what they're thinking and seeing-- kind of a self-conscious thing but not really even that-- and it all becomes a big mind fuck to me.
When I stare off into the distance, I feel that I can better think out what I want to say-- and better express myself.
this for me as well
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twighead said: Eye contact leads to better conversations in my experience. It allows each person to better feel the others reactions... has anyone EVER had an awesome (in person) conversation where you weren't more or less directly staring into each others eyes? It adds a lot of emotional depth in my opinion.
A bunch of times. Ive had awesome intellectual conventions with people sitting in the back seat of my car who i couldn't see at all.
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Anthony917 said: I always seem to notice that when I talk to people, sometimes they make very little eye contact. It makes me feel like they're uninterested in what I'm saying, but I think it might have to do with people's insecurities, and feeling uncomfortable making eye contact.
I sometimes feel uncomfortable when people NEVER break eye contact, but what's wrong with looking someone in the eyes when you talk to them??
i will look someone right in the eyes unless i feel like its making them uncomfortable. in which case i'll look away and act like im deeply contemplating what they say.
i notice that as soon as you look away people will start looking directly at you again.
eye contact rules but not a lot of people are good with it non-stop. when someone and i are looking directly into each others eyes for too long, it seems like they start to lose their train of thought. like they start to realize "Hey this dude has not stopped looking at me."
hehe. i love eye contact. theres something about the eyes
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Re: Eye Contact [Re: igwna]
#14098491 - 03/10/11 03:01 PM (13 years, 21 days ago) |
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hehe. i love eye contact. theres something about the eyes
they are the windows to the soul and they tell the truth.... no only about what is being said but about the person ( their state of mind, level of seriousness, intoxicated or not, etc.)
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Eye contact is gay.
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If they look away and bow slighlty it suggests they are being humble, gracious or nervous about holding your gaze.
If they look away and up then they are visualising what you talk about in their mind.
If they look away horizontally regularly you are boring them with your tone or content.
Of course there are exceptions but I can usually work it out by subtle cues like that.
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Re: Eye Contact [Re: nice1]
#14098645 - 03/10/11 03:27 PM (13 years, 21 days ago) |
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There was a picture I saw a while ago that said something along the lines of "theres people that listing to you like they're in a car at a drive thru but they're actually intently listening to you"
I used to be like that, just look forward and listen, but now I tend to make I contact sometimes. Not all the time though.
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Re: Eye Contact [Re: Idiot]
#14099093 - 03/10/11 04:50 PM (13 years, 21 days ago) |
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When I was younger I used to sit in front of a mirror and talk (dunno why) but it's helped me to learn to read lips.
Normally when I talk to someone I look them in the mouth, it's like playing a game or watching a movie with subtitles
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Re: Eye Contact [Re: Idiot]
#14099234 - 03/10/11 05:08 PM (13 years, 21 days ago) |
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I think its more annoying when people freak out about you not looking at them when they talk than whether or not you look at them. My mom does it quite a bit. Like.. my ears work just fine.. why do i also need to be staring at your face for you to be comfortable talking to me?
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Although I'm bad at making eye contact during conversation, I will admit that good eye contact during sex is a must. At least IMHO.
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ifoundwaldo said: Although I'm bad at making eye contact during conversation, I will admit that good eye contact during sex is a must. At least IMHO.
What if you're crosseyed?
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I fucking give someone eye contact if I feel like giving them eye contact, and if I don't I simply don't. If I know that some people in particular don't like eye contact I stare into their soul. But being good at eye contact is good because it helps you lie if the need arises.
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ifoundwaldo said: Although I'm bad at making eye contact during conversation, I will admit that good eye contact during sex is a must. At least IMHO.
What if you're crosseyed?
Pet peeve of mine. Really bugs me. Even if a chick is otherwise smoking hot...
But still. Eye contact. Sex is intimate; you gotta get up in each other's space, you know?
I was just trying to breathe some new life into the thread.
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I usually give eye contact as I'm listening and then look away as I talk and focus my eyes on my hand gestures. Which usually makes them look at my hands and allows my point to get across much better, because they are getting a visual as well as auditory input.
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Re: Eye Contact [Re: pmb]
#14099682 - 03/10/11 06:21 PM (13 years, 21 days ago) |
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I hate the casual conversation with a weirrrd amount of eye contact. good eye contact is necessary for a deep conversation but If we're just making small talk then you have to know when to look away.
I'm like why u staring at my eyes? you don't know me like that bro so eye contact is good if its meaningful, otherwise it's feels weird man
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i walawy look people in the right eye
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and I'm not saying eye contact with strangers is always weird.
just depends on the situation
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Dr. P. Silocybin said: I hate the casual conversation with a weirrrd amount of eye contact. good eye contact is necessary for a deep conversation but If we're just making small talk then you have to know when to look away.
I'm like why u staring at my eyes? you don't know me like that bro so eye contact is good if its meaningful, otherwise it's feels weird man
Yeah i made contact with the cashier at the 7-11 today. I felt so violated i had to take a long shower when i got home.
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I find when it's small talk or something I couldn't care less about, I make eye contact a decent number of times.
When it's a personal or deep conversation, I keep eye contact a lot.
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eye contact is scarey
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dude its the difference between deep and meaningful eye contact and weird serial killer eye contact
its subtle, and of course im giong to make eye contact with a cashier or anyone I have an interaction with
but I'm not going to stare into their eyes uncomfortably long or super intensely unless the conversation is intense
that shit is just weird
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Re: Eye Contact [Re: x Ju x]
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x Ju x said: I find when it's small talk or something I couldn't care less about, I make eye contact a decent number of times.
When it's a personal or deep conversation, I keep eye contact a lot.
exactly its weird to stare at someone during small talk, but to be polite you make occasional eye contact to acknowledge that you are listening.
if the conversation has some emotional depth then you stare into their eyes to try and fully understand what they are thinking because words can be inadequate by themselves.
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Eye contact can be tough for me cause when the majority of people speak I get bored and zone out. Unless I'm really high or tripping; then I'll pay attention to their words.
I always use eye contact when addressing people in direct conversation. Talking with friends and girls too, the eyes express things words can't. I found this thread interesting because I struggle with keeping eye contact with most strangers; people are boring! or bad speakers, or they have no vocabulary. I was thinking about that today. Shroomery reads my mind once again...
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