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gerryjarcia
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big energy people
#14092301 - 03/09/11 12:28 PM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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i had a good friend convince me to go along with him on a road trip to visit some mutual friends of ours that live 12 hours away. i knew going into the trip that the people we were going to visit were "big energy" personalities (when i say "big energy" i mean the kind of people with opinions about everything, lots of energy and an insatiable need to be conversing all the time).
i've learned over the years that i can only handle big energy people for small periods of time. i'm an introvert and regain my energy by being alone so it takes all the energy i can muster just to hang out with extroverts for a few hours, much less a few days.
last night we went out to a couple of bars and i was the D.D.. i was sitting at the table watching my friends and the people in the bar, just kind of soaking it all in quietly. i think my extroverted friends didn't know how to deal with someone who was just quietly taking it all in and the vibes at the table started to get weird.
I just rolled with the weirdness and tried not to let it get to me. my one friend kept looking at me and asking if everything was allright. i got annoyed at one point and said, "yeah man, i'm all good but it's fuckin' annoying when you keep asking me if i'm allright".
this morning i opted out of exploring the city with them (it's shitty weather out) and choose to chill around the nice quiet house by myself. it's fuckin' great! i can feel my energy coming back and i can actually hear myself think.
anyone else have big energy friends that don't know how to just chill and "be"?
also, i took a rather mild shroom trip (2 grams) at the beginning of the week. i'm thinking that also has something to do with my extreme sensitivity to the energy of others.
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Yeah, I can't really stand big energy people. (Never heard this term before.) None of my friends are like this.
It's funny though because big energy people usually seem to like me. I'll laugh at their jokes or feign minimum interest. I think that's why. They'll be like, "I like this guy!" I'll think, "You really don't know me but cool!"
I get very sick of them very fast. And eventually I'll just smile and nod as they talk about their boring shit. I'll try to pretend like I'm listening, but I think it quickly becomes clear that I'm not.
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gerryjarcia
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ifoundwaldo said: Yeah, I can't really stand big energy people. (Never heard this term before.) None of my friends are like this.
It's funny though because big energy people usually seem to like me. I'll laugh at their jokes or feign minimum interest. I think that's why. They'll be like, "I like this guy!" I'll think, "You really don't know me but cool!"
I get very sick of them very fast. And eventually I'll just smile and nod as they talk about their boring shit. I'll try to pretend like I'm listening, but I think it quickly becomes clear that I'm not.
yeah, i've never heard the term "big energy people" either. i just made it up 'cause it seems to fit what i feel emanating from these kinds of folks. i've also heard the term "psychic vampire" used to describe this personality type.
i too seem to be some sort of dynamic attractor for this kind of personality type. i'm not really all that into it
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gerryjarcia said: i've learned over the years that i can only handle big energy people for small periods of time. i'm an introvert and regain my energy by being alone so it takes all the energy i can muster just to hang out with extroverts for a few hours, much less a few days.
anyone else have big energy friends that don't know how to just chill and "be"?
yeh
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Neo Skywalker



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gerryjarcia said: i've learned over the years that i can only handle big energy people for small periods of time. i'm an introvert and regain my energy by being alone so it takes all the energy i can muster just to hang out with extroverts for a few hours, much less a few days.
same here, Ive been a hermit all my life because of this, and seeked out a few introverts to chill with.
anyone else have big energy friends that don't know how to just chill and "be"?
Yes , and i can relate to "is something wrong man "
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ifoundwaldo


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Neo Skywalker said:
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gerryjarcia said: i've learned over the years that i can only handle big energy people for small periods of time. i'm an introvert and regain my energy by being alone so it takes all the energy i can muster just to hang out with extroverts for a few hours, much less a few days.
same here, Ive been a hermit all my life because of this, and seeked out a few introverts to chill with.
anyone else have big energy friends that don't know how to just chill and "be"?
Yes , and i can relate to "is something wrong man "
Ha. I especially hate this when you're on psychedelics.
It's funny though because when I give others psychedelics for their first time... I find myself wanting to ask the question. Because without communication, it's hard to see if they're having a bad time, you know?
I don't get asked it all that much, but I imagine when I do... it's because I look bored.
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ifoundwaldo said: I'll just smile and nod as they talk about their boring shit. I'll try to pretend like I'm listening, but I think it quickly becomes clear that I'm not.
yes dude, yes
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Big energy people seem to need small energy people to exist and vice versa. If you're telling a story really loudly-somebodies gotta listen. If nobody is talking then there's a void left in the social environment.
Someone has to dominate the social stratosphere while others observe from orbit.  I'm both depending on what's happening.
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gerryjarcia
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ifoundwaldo said: I'll just smile and nod as they talk about their boring shit. I'll try to pretend like I'm listening, but I think it quickly becomes clear that I'm not.
yes dude, yes 
phew, nice to know i'm not the only one experiencing this
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Neo Skywalker



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Mind Transcribing said: Big energy people seem to need small energy people to exist and vice versa.
very true in certain situations i am thankful for big energy people they can talk there way out of a jam.
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koraks
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I know exactly what you mean. Every time I hang out with BEP, I tend to go with their flow, and end up exhausted. At some point, I really need to take a break from all that shit. Maybe I'm just highly sensitive or something, I dunno.
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Re: big energy people [Re: koraks]
#14092475 - 03/09/11 01:08 PM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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i think it's called ADHD these days, RP
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Re: big energy people [Re: koraks]
#14092522 - 03/09/11 01:18 PM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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koraks said: I know exactly what you mean. Every time I hang out with BEP, I tend to go with their flow, and end up exhausted. At some point, I really need to take a break from all that shit. Maybe I'm just highly sensitive or something, I dunno.
that wikipedia link is the good 
the one thing that sucks is i often forget how difficult it can be hanging around BEP and then i start acting like an asshole to my friends which 
then i remember i just need to be alone and it
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yea i hate being around people that need me to constantly say something to them or laugh at their jokes or some stupid shit.
i have a friend who's brother is like this, he needs to be making jokes and talking big about himself every other second- needless to say i avoid that guy at any costs
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RP im totally that guy. When i go visit friends in differnet cities for a week or two at a time, there will always be a day or two where i skip out and just sleep, get high and go on shroomery all day. Especially if theyre girl hunting 'cause i got a gf.
traveling is tiring as fuck
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gerryjarcia
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realfuzzhead said: RP im totally that guy. When i go visit friends in differnet cities for a week or two at a time, there will always be a day or two where i skip out and just sleep, get high and go on shroomery all day. Especially if theyre girl hunting 'cause i got a gf.
traveling is tiring as fuck
it's funny cause of all my friends i am known as "the traveler". i've fuckin traipsed around half the world for the last decade but for some reason i've recently enjoyed "staying put" and have little patience for the eccentricities and energies of others.
meh, maybe i'm just gettin' old
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I'm always the silent one. I listen to everybody's crap, memorize the secrets they are spilling out, get to know them and yet to their eyes at the end of the conversation, i'm still the stranger at the table.
Ive become quite good a simply listening without talking. I am also amazed at the shit people tell to each other (ex: 6 person at the table, some dude goes out and says: ok, dont tell this to anyone, its between us.... than says something very bad bout someone else)
I laugh on the inside cause he's talking shit behind someones back to a bunch of people that talks all the time and he actually expects them to keep a secret. Now personally, I'm a safe. I tell noone. I just know someone else will anyways.
Big energy people talk a lot cause theey attract drama, then talk about it to others, which creates more drama, which they feel to talk about yet again...
Cant live like that. I need my peace and quiet
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Re: big energy people [Re: Patlal]
#14093437 - 03/09/11 04:24 PM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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Woah, I'm pretty confused here.
First of all, every single who has posted in this thread seems to not talk when in a group of people.
Secondly, in the last few posts people have been relating extroverted/high energy to attracting drama/talking themselves up/being self-centered assholes.
I'm pretty extroverted, and I like to talk and whatnot, but I don't go around telling people about how awesome I am, or talk about that girl who Billy has been seeing, and how she's a bitch, and bla bla drama etc.
I just like to chill and talk with people, see what's up, and just generally enjoy good conversation.
You guys have got me super confused - is your ideal get together a bunch of people in a room staring at each other? Cause that's what it sounds like from this thread.
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Re: big energy people [Re: Patlal]
#14093455 - 03/09/11 04:28 PM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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I can definitely relate you OP. I find the same thing happening to me, people always asking me if im OK or if something is up just because im not constantly excited or chatting my face off. A very close friend of mine is a very high energy type person and he always thought I had such an amazing memory, and I do compared to him. I realized it's because hes really never in the moment hes constantly thinking about the future or the past - so in a way there is nothing for him to remember.
It's good to not have a constant need for continuous excitement, I think its more "advanced".
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pwnasaurus said: Woah, I'm pretty confused here.
First of all, every single who has posted in this thread seems to not talk when in a group of people.
Secondly, in the last few posts people have been relating extroverted/high energy to attracting drama/talking themselves up/being self-centered assholes.
I'm pretty extroverted, and I like to talk and whatnot, but I don't go around telling people about how awesome I am, or talk about that girl who Billy has been seeing, and how she's a bitch, and bla bla drama etc.
I just like to chill and talk with people, see what's up, and just generally enjoy good conversation.
You guys have got me super confused - is your ideal get together a bunch of people in a room staring at each other? Cause that's what it sounds like from this thread.
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I like to be the loud mouthed dude ranting on about crazy stories, so if somebody wants to be quiet and listen I couldn't care less what they actually think. One less foe in the never ending quest for social dominance
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pwnasaurus said: Woah, I'm pretty confused here.
First of all, every single who has posted in this thread seems to not talk when in a group of people.
I'm a pretty quiet guy. Unless I have a pretty god damn amazing story, I'll usually be pretty quiet.
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Secondly, in the last few posts people have been relating extroverted/high energy to attracting drama/talking themselves up/being self-centered assholes.
I'm pretty extroverted, and I like to talk and whatnot, but I don't go around telling people about how awesome I am, or talk about that girl who Billy has been seeing, and how she's a bitch, and bla bla drama etc.
Although it's a gross generalization... If you're talking about current events or your surroundings, you run out of things pretty fast.
Most people will then move onto dumb stories. ("I got cut off on the way over here!") and shit like that.
I don't necessarily associate big energy people with drama though.
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I just like to chill and talk with people, see what's up, and just generally enjoy good conversation.
You guys have got me super confused - is your ideal get together a bunch of people in a room staring at each other? Cause that's what it sounds like from this thread.
I like chill, laid back conversation. That is not what this thread is about.
This thread is about people who talk just to hear themselves talk. There's a point where it's like, "Don't you realize that no one cares?" But talk away, my good sir.
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pwnasaurus said: is your ideal get together a bunch of people in a room staring at each other? Cause that's what it sounds like from this thread.
Hell yeah, its all about telepathy
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