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XUL
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did I fail on my date? and other stuff.
#14083077 - 03/07/11 07:06 PM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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Sheesh man. Here is what happened.
This girl and I planned on getting together and running. She told me we could get together and run, but the rest of her day was full. I was cool with that. It turned out way different though...
First we went running and it was really fun. After the run I thought I was heading home but then she suggested that we go get a beer at the bar. We went to the bar and had 3 beers and a pizza together. I had alot of fun. Then she invited me to her place to drink wine and beer. We kept drinking, talking, and watching movies. Eventually we got dinner together. We had sushi. Then we went back to her place again and had a couple more drinks. She even lent me a book to read and I am supposed to let her know how I am liking it.
Well. I didnt make a move. I didnt even put my arm around her. And when I left we gave eachother 5. lol.... I wanted to ask her out again but I didnt even do it. Well, I did but I didnt do it to her face like I had planned. I left and then texted her and asked her if she wanted to catch a movie or a show next time. She said yea.
I just feel like I totally failed. My dad asked me if I made out with her. I feel like I should have, and I feel like she wanted me to. I think she even called me out on it. She said something like.. are you a MERP? Someone who doesnt know what to do in certain situations. BLAH.
The truth is I am bad at those kind of situations. I remember sitting there thinking... just go for it.. who gives a fuck. Im not scared of rejection. I dont know why I didnt do anything.
Im bad at this stuff. ARG!
Also I quit taking my medication (klonopin) which I had originally started because I couldnt get over the heartbreak of my ex. I can feel the sadness seeping in again. It makes it worse when I think I failed with this new girl too. I just dunno. Maybe im too hard on myself.
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Re: did I fail on my date? and other stuff. [Re: XUL]
#14083160 - 03/07/11 07:17 PM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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Nah , man ur in the clear.. if she didnt want to anything to do with you, or for you to make out with her, she would have just said no to the text, she seems interested , girls aren't hard . just try n be yourself and try not to act shy .
you worst thing you can is be too critical or get irational thoughts, of how it went, if u had fun then she probably did too
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Re: did I fail on my date? and other stuff. [Re: Run]
#14112164 - 03/12/11 11:32 PM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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I think you should even try with this girl until you can be completely happy by yourself. Otherwise you will always suck at relationships becuase of insecurites and baggage.
And dude, no fucking woman is worth needing medication when they're gone. Dont identify yourself by the people in your life.
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Re: did I fail on my date? and other stuff. [Re: Azure Essence]
#14113006 - 03/13/11 04:51 AM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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At least you didnt fail it by being TOO forward.
Sounds like you both had fun, thats a good thing isnt it? Whats the point in moving too fast? Just enjoy and just say if it didnt work out there's nothing to loose. Think about relaxing as yourself a bit more before proper dating imo.
And yeah, you are being too hard on yourself!
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Re: did I fail on my date? and other stuff. [Re: XUL]
#14113626 - 03/13/11 10:52 AM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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You're supposed to pull your cock and slap her with it after dinner. Thats why she called you a merp.
Naaa, next time you go see her you shud tongue her face. She'll like that.
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Re: did I fail on my date? and other stuff. [Re: Anonymous #1]
#14113991 - 03/13/11 12:12 PM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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What is a merp?
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Re: did I fail on my date? and other stuff. [Re: XUL]
#14115171 - 03/13/11 05:15 PM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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Someone that doesn't expose themself in gratitude after a good meal
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Re: did I fail on my date? and other stuff. [Re: XUL]
#14115613 - 03/13/11 06:25 PM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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Sounds like she probably had a good time with you. Just ask her out again and if she says "yes" then you still have an opportunity for something to happen.
If it ever came up in conversation as to why you haven't made a move then you can say "I'm in no hurry. Should I be?" *knowing look*
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