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quinn
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caring about what other ppl think of you
#14082146 - 03/07/11 04:24 PM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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just about every one cares about how others think of them.
there was once an experiment where the person was told they were being tested on perception. they would go into a room with 4 other people and be shown two lines and asked which was longer.
A. <------> B. >----<
now the trick was that all other participants were actors. they would always pick the wrong answer "B".
the person who was really being tested would go against them for maybe one or two rounds but eventually would just conform to whatever everyone else was saying, despite it being wrong.
now i bet most of you who read this or who have heard of this thought to yerself "Well i am sure I would have stayed strong and not given the wrong answer." or something along those lines.
to me this shows two things. 1 that we do care about what others think of us. and 2 that we don't like to believe we do.
i also see this kind of stuff often in the well being forum, where people come on talking about their self consciousness or something. and other ppl respond advising them "why do you care about what other people think of you." as if it is a bad thing. and as if they themselves do not.
funnily enough the ppl who offer this advice i would bet 99/100 times, do it exactly because they want other ppl to think of them as a person who doesnt care about what they think of them ...
i reckn that almost every human does care and yet almost every human thinks it is a bad thing.
so i have 2 questions.
1. Why do we all care about what others think of us? 2. Why do we all think this is a bad thing?... to the point that we will even lie to ourselves that we dont care precisely because we do???
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Re: caring about what other ppl think of you [Re: quinn]
#14082225 - 03/07/11 04:39 PM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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idk, its natural to care somewhat about what others think of you, at least those close to you. But generally, i dont really care about what random people think of me. Reminds me of highschool lol, life's so much easier to just be yourself and go about the day with less to worry about than trying to impress a bunch of people you dont care about
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HippieChick8
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Re: caring about what other ppl think of you [Re: quinn]
#14082232 - 03/07/11 04:40 PM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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Quote:
quinn said: just about every one cares about how others think of them.
there was once an experiment where the person was told they were being tested on perception. they would go into a room with 4 other people and be shown two lines and asked which was longer.
A. <------> B. >----<
now the trick was that all other participants were actors. they would always pick the wrong answer "B".
the person who was really being tested would go against them for maybe one or two rounds but eventually would just conform to whatever everyone else was saying, despite it being wrong.
now i bet most of you who read this or who have heard of this thought to yerself "Well i am sure I would have stayed strong and not given the wrong answer." or something along those lines.
to me this shows two things. 1 that we do care about what others think of us. and 2 that we don't like to believe we do.
i also see this kind of stuff often in the well being forum, where people come on talking about their self consciousness or something. and other ppl respond advising them "why do you care about what other people think of you." as if it is a bad thing. and as if they themselves do not.
funnily enough the ppl who offer this advice i would bet 99/100 times, do it exactly because they want other ppl to think of them as a person who doesnt care about what they think of them ...
i reckn that almost every human does care and yet almost every human thinks it is a bad thing.
so i have 2 questions.
1. Why do we all care about what others think of us? 2. Why do we all think this is a bad thing?... to the point that we will even lie to ourselves that we dont care precisely because we do???

I think we care about what others think of us because we all depend on others for our physical survival and also for our psychological and emotional well being.
I'm not sure why we think it's a bad thing. I guess we all want to feel independent and self-reliant. I think men have a harder time admitting that they care what others think because they are programmed to not care as much.
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Re: caring about what other ppl think of you [Re: HippieChick8]
#14082258 - 03/07/11 04:45 PM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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When one is insecure with themselves, they will seek others opinions to help eliminate the insecurity.
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Icelander
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Re: caring about what other ppl think of you [Re: HippieChick8]
#14082265 - 03/07/11 04:47 PM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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I think we care about what others think of us because we all depend on others for our physical survival and also for our psychological and emotional well being.
I'm not sure why we think it's a bad thing. I guess we all want to feel independent and self-reliant. I think men have a harder time admitting that they care what others think because they are programmed to not care as much.
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-------------------- "Don't believe everything you think". -Anom. " All that lives was born to die"-Anom. With much wisdom comes much sorrow, The more knowledge, the more grief. Ecclesiastes circa 350 BC
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