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BothHands
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I don't think it's any more likely to go wrong than a relationship without marriage. And if it goes wrong, you get divorced. If you have a prenup, marriage doesn't have any cons that I see. That's assuming you feel it's going to be a relatively long lasting relationship, even if you have no intention of staying together forever.
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joe666
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marriage is hard sometimes. you have to work at it.
my wife wants to choke me out somedays. other way around other days. but, at the end of the day we got each others back till death.
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DieCommie

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Re: I don't 'get' marriage. [Re: DieCommie]
#14068660 - 03/04/11 10:22 PM (13 years, 1 day ago) |
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What are these legal benifits are you all talking about? 
I believe we pay more taxes married than we would separate, and also our student loan payments are screwy because we are married. Ive known old people to divorce in order to get more social security. I think if economic hardship hit us, we would get a legal divorce to save money and get more govt. benefits.
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AlphaFalfa
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Re: I don't 'get' marriage. [Re: DieCommie]
#14068689 - 03/04/11 10:28 PM (13 years, 1 day ago) |
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Mairrage sucks balls. i was married once, you feel like you have to love the person and that always sucks .
1. The is always the threat of failure.
2. Even when its succeeding and your feeling the love, you still get anxiety about the failure.
3. Actions have so much more at stake and you have far more expectations as a husband/wife.
Mairrage is good because people in your family respect your views more.
it gives you more influence in those situations.
Other than that, is licks monkey crack.
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4runner


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Re: I don't 'get' marriage. [Re: AlphaFalfa]
#14068724 - 03/04/11 10:33 PM (13 years, 1 day ago) |
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you obviously have not found the right person.
Marriage is not a game.
It is for life.
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Bodhi of Ankou
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Re: I don't 'get' marriage. [Re: 4runner]
#14068765 - 03/04/11 10:39 PM (13 years, 1 day ago) |
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Arnt pre-nups such a bitch slap to the trust in the relationship, I love you with all my heart and I believe to my core were gonna be together forever Buuuuuttt I want to get some lawyers to write up a contract for you to sign to protect my assets.
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ROFL_my_ WAFFLE


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Quote:
Bodhi of Ankou said: Arnt pre-nups such a bitch slap to the trust in the relationship, I love you with all my heart and I believe to my core were gonna be together forever Buuuuuttt I want to get some lawyers to write up a contract for you to sign to protect my assets.
Hahaha
"It's not that I don't trust you..."
"Then what the FUCK do you want a pre-nup for?"
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Herbal said: Your all idiots and my opinion is the only correct one 
I'd say you're the idiot based on your DEA post: http://www.shroomery.org/forums/showflat.php/Number/14068246
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BothHands
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Re: I don't 'get' marriage. [Re: 4HO-DMT]
#14068866 - 03/04/11 11:01 PM (13 years, 1 day ago) |
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DieCommie said: What are these legal benifits are you all talking about? 
I believe we pay more taxes married than we would separate, and also our student loan payments are screwy because we are married. Ive known old people to divorce in order to get more social security. I think if economic hardship hit us, we would get a legal divorce to save money and get more govt. benefits.
Hmm, well it seems you're right, but only in some cases. And considering the money you'd save on auto, homeowners', and medical insurance should make up for it, unless you're both earning like 100k a year or something.
But looking around, it seems that there are something like 1400 benefits that married couples get that other couples don't. They're not all tax benefits, there are so many other things to consider. I could be wrong on the 1400, the number is uncited, but it seems to show up everywhere, so that's what I'm going with until I find something else. Still looking.
Edit: Looks like I found the citation:
http://frwebgate.access.gpo.gov/cgi-bin/getdoc.cgi?dbname=gao&docid=f:og97016.txt
It lists the 1400, but the number might be inflated. I'm not going to read though all of them and make sure they're all actual benefits, and not just laws that mention marriage.
Edited by BothHands (03/04/11 11:08 PM)
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Cakk


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Re: I don't 'get' marriage. [Re: BothHands]
#14069113 - 03/05/11 12:06 AM (13 years, 1 day ago) |
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Good old society.
If your happy that's all that matters in the end
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PNW FunGuy
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Re: I don't 'get' marriage. [Re: 4runner]
#14069141 - 03/05/11 12:15 AM (13 years, 1 day ago) |
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anunnakian said: you obviously have not found the right person.
Marriage is not a game.
It is for life.
yup yup, I know that I always wanted to get married some day and so did my wife, after 3 years of hardly touching a woman and rediscovering the friendship and attraction with my wife we basically said "why the fuck not?" we spent about $800 and had a neato tie-dye wedding on the OR coast with some friends and some family and a bunch of ganja lol, it was the best day ever, and I have no regrets, we're one hell of a team
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Re: I don't 'get' marriage. [Re: Cakk]
#14069161 - 03/05/11 12:20 AM (13 years, 1 day ago) |
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Cakk said: Good old society.
If your happy that's all that matters in the end

I dont see the meaning behind the ritual of marriage other then its a cultural norm and somewhat of a expectation to most women and those fuckin golddiggers.
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Plok
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I don't understand marriage at all either. It makes no sense to me.
There are certain legal repercussions to getting married, which I neither want nor need.
The bottom line is that I don't need anybody else to validate or approve of or license my relationship with someone.
In fact the concept of licensing my relationship with a government entity seems ludicrous on it's face. Does it not?
People get married because it's a cultural norm. It's traditional. To do otherwise requires explanation.
My personal relationships require no license, registration, ceremony, or approval. I find that very notion offensive.
This is all beside the fact that I think it's incredibly naive to "know" that you will want to be with someone for the rest of your life. Especially at a young age.
If you feel love and affection for someone, show them that in your own way. There is no need to get the government involved.
Why bother with the ceremony, license, rings and all that shit?
Do it if it will make you happy. But I don't believe that there's any real logic to the whole thing. It's a concept with deep roots in religion, something else that I want no part of.
To me marriage only makes sense if you need others to believe in, approve, and regulate your most intimate personal relationship.
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AlphaFalfa
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Re: I don't 'get' marriage. [Re: 4runner]
#14069235 - 03/05/11 12:44 AM (13 years, 1 day ago) |
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anunnakian said: you obviously have not found the right person.
Marriage is not a game.
It is for life.
Thanks Oprah.
Real encouraging advice.

Next time you want to fore something down my throat atleast make a stronger case of it.
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AlphaFalfa
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Re: I don't 'get' marriage. [Re: Plok]
#14069248 - 03/05/11 12:48 AM (13 years, 1 day ago) |
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Plok said: I don't understand marriage at all either. It makes no sense to me.
There are certain legal repercussions to getting married, which I neither want nor need.
The bottom line is that I don't need anybody else to validate or approve of or license my relationship with someone.
In fact the concept of licensing my relationship with a government entity seems ludicrous on it's face. Does it not?
People get married because it's a cultural norm. It's traditional. To do otherwise requires explanation.
My personal relationships require no license, registration, ceremony, or approval. I find that very notion offensive.
This is all beside the fact that I think it's incredibly naive to "know" that you will want to be with someone for the rest of your life. Especially at a young age.
If you feel love and affection for someone, show them that in your own way. There is no need to get the government involved.
Why bother with the ceremony, license, rings and all that shit?
Do it if it will make you happy. But I don't believe that there's any real logic to the whole thing. It's a concept with deep roots in religion, something else that I want no part of.
To me marriage only makes sense if you need others to believe in, approve, and regulate your most intimate personal relationship.
The bold stands out.
Thats my issue with mairrage. its a big fucking game that no one really knows what they are getting themselves into for and usually ends in divorce. 50% of all marriages end within 15 years.
Almost 75% experience some level of infidelity.
mairrage...its useless and heart wrenching.
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PNW FunGuy
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Re: I don't 'get' marriage. [Re: AlphaFalfa]
#14069326 - 03/05/11 01:15 AM (13 years, 1 day ago) |
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Meh, to each their own, i used to think the same way of marriage (I've had some EXTREMELY bad relationships), I'm no 18 year old that married my high school sweetheart the day after she turned 16. Sure it's a LEGAL thing, but sho0o0o0ot son if you want to get married should you give a damn what the norm is? and we were anything but the norm, I'll post our pictures if you guys want 
Not everyone that gets married is making a hasty stupid decision influenced by religion/family/cpt planet though I do agree that a large portion of married couples are.
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AlphaFalfa
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Re: I don't 'get' marriage. [Re: PNW FunGuy]
#14069372 - 03/05/11 01:38 AM (13 years, 1 day ago) |
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PNW FunGuy said: Meh, to each their own, i used to think the same way of marriage (I've had some EXTREMELY bad relationships), I'm no 18 year old that married my high school sweetheart the day after she turned 16. Sure it's a LEGAL thing, but sho0o0o0ot son if you want to get married should you give a damn what the norm is? and we were anything but the norm, I'll post our pictures if you guys want 
Not everyone that gets married is making a hasty stupid decision influenced by religion/family/cpt planet though I do agree that a large portion of married couples are.
So it begs the question; why did you get married.
You clearly can't predict if you are going to love this person in the next 20-40 years....let alone 5.
if you think you can predict, i can't agree with you at all.
i think its childish to believe that you can predict who you can love, in such a large timeframe.
Sure maybe a few months to a year, you'll have some success but it seems that its not the case at all.
Pray tell, why did you get married? What use is there in getting marriage????
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xiiooo


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i feel that a stronger bond comes from a partnership that relies on love and trust of the other person enough to trust them to not leave/fuck up/or whatever. i mean, why pay the man to recognize a partnership? that's all bullshit, and i can find wayyy better things to do than spend tons of money on a marriage that probably isn't going to last forever either way. i don't get marriage either.
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Bodhi of Ankou
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Re: I don't 'get' marriage. [Re: xiiooo]
#14069402 - 03/05/11 01:49 AM (13 years, 1 day ago) |
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I think this thread needs some married woman input
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PNW FunGuy
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Re: I don't 'get' marriage. [Re: AlphaFalfa]
#14069408 - 03/05/11 01:51 AM (13 years, 1 day ago) |
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you raise good points, I'm not trying to say you're wrong or anything, it's very hard to describe, I guess the best way i can put it is that we are basically the same person, I can think of two things we disagree on; cinnamon and reality tv lol. We have a, for lack of better wording, telepathic connection, literally speaking each others thoughts before the other can get it out and beginning the exact same sentences at the exact same time, it almost never fails, and I emphasize almost. As for use, well I suppose you've got me there, other than the fact that it made us both very happy to have our weirdo-hippy wedding and that she wanted my last name it doesn't serve much of a purpose in itself, but that being said I have no doubt that I will have children with this woman in the next few years (kids with parents that had different last names but were biologically the parents always "weirded" me out as a kid) and we'll more than likely have a blast making it through whatever time together that our lives allow, 8 years together so far has proved to be as good as day one.
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