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Anonymous #1
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How is moving in with your GF for the first time?
#14055353 - 03/02/11 03:39 PM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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Please describe your experience when you first moved in with your girlfriend. How did it go? How did it change the relationship? Everything!
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dummy
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Re: How is moving in with your GF for the first time? [Re: Anonymous #1]
#14055695 - 03/02/11 04:47 PM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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lol you seem scared.
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Anonymous #2
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Re: How is moving in with your GF for the first time? [Re: dummy]
#14055821 - 03/02/11 05:09 PM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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It was pretty bad, to be completely honest.
She was a completely different person when we were living together. I saw sides of her that I never knew existed. Dark, horrid, depressed, angry sides.
Be careful, man.. and make sure you have some sort of backup plan if it doesn't work out so that you have somewhere else to go.
We are now living apart again and things have repaired themselves; it will be years before I decide to make that jump again.
Good luck!
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Anonymous #3
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Re: How is moving in with your GF for the first time? [Re: Anonymous #1]
#14056051 - 03/02/11 05:50 PM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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Anonymous said: Please describe your experience when you first moved in with your girlfriend. How did it go? How did it change the relationship? Everything!
It was good for the first year or so. It gets to the point where just hearing her talk is enough to make your blood boil. After that, the excitement of having sex goes away. Its like watching the same boring porn. Then it gets to the point where shes just like a really annoying room mate. I made it about 3 or 4 years with my last one. Good fucking riddance.
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Re: How is moving in with your GF for the first time? [Re: Anonymous #3]
#14056382 - 03/02/11 06:54 PM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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It brings a lot out into the open, no doubt. What I think happens is that both people undergo a degree of "mean reversion" whereby you lose some of the motivation to be your better self around your SO that exists when you see them of a less constant basis. Perhaps you won't want to keep your happy face on as much, you'll just want to be yourself. Maybe this isn't true for everyone though.
You have no escape when there's static. Sometimes a little space can go a long way, and not having it can be suffocating. If you have a volatile relationship, tread wearily about moving in together!
You'll become much more aware of your partner's financial habits, which isn't always encouraging to say the least. Personally I would NOT move in with someone, or let them move in with me, unless they could pull their own weight (or I was making coin and was OK with having them as a live-in sex goddess).
The bottom line is that it's a mixed bag, same as with any other roommates, but with the whole relationship dynamic thrown in on top. It depends very much on the personalities involved, and like I said there tends to be some "mean reversion" involved with that; you might see that the other person isn't quite what you envisioned.
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Re: How is moving in with your GF for the first time? [Re: Grok]
#14070584 - 03/05/11 11:54 AM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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Any more beautiful insight?
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Re: How is moving in with your GF for the first time? [Re: Anonymous #1] 1
#14071858 - 03/05/11 05:05 PM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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its blows don't do it. You know how now you can't wait to see her and all that junk. After see moves in you won't be able to wait to get away from her. Hold off as long as you can.
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Re: How is moving in with your GF for the first time? [Re: siko887]
#14072015 - 03/05/11 05:41 PM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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I say do it. Its a good experience to get out of the way while youre young. Youll get back on your feet faster and still be young when shit hits the fan and you break up.
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