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Psychopathic666
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What to do?
#14028511 - 02/26/11 12:31 AM (12 years, 11 months ago) |
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I met this girl, and she's amazing. We are in fucking love.
Here's the awkward part - she's bi. I am totally cool with this, but she has a girlfriend. She also talks to lots of guys, and I am a very jealous person sometimes. Should we date or not? I know she wants to, and I do too. We say 'I love you so much' and shit like that all night long. We've been texting/calling eachother for almost 3 weeks straight.
She also has many similar problems as me. She enjoys stabbing/sticking needles in herself. She is bipolar, and I am schizophrenic. (The only difference is that she's on medication and I'm not).
Should we date or should we just stay friends? I am really confused.
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Eminence



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You say I love you so much often to a girl you recently met and not even dating? Sounds a little fast..It's up to you to date a bi..My friends that are dating bu's say it's complicated. I mean if you say you "love" her why not?
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Psychopathic666
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Re: What to do? [Re: Eminence]
#14028591 - 02/26/11 12:50 AM (12 years, 11 months ago) |
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frylock91 said: You say I love you so much often to a girl you recently met and not even dating? Sounds a little fast..It's up to you to date a bi..My friends that are dating bu's say it's complicated. I mean if you say you "love" her why not?
She said it first. The first week we started hanging out she said she loves me a lot.
I want to jump into this relationship, but I have a serious phobia of rejection. The last time I got rejected, I attempted suicide. If she rejected me, I might lose it. I don't want to let that happen.
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Eminence



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Rejection is just something you have to deal with from time to time. It's not a big deal, and can teach modesty. She doesn't sound like she'd reject you though by the way she's talking, although idk how her having a girfriend affects the situation. Good luck. But whatever happens, just remember, suicide is selfish. Think about the people that care about you and how that would affect them..all over some girl. They'll be hurting way more than you would be. You can find another girl, they can't find another you. Don't be stupid, to be honest though it doesn't seem like a good match in the first place.
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wow
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Re: What to do? [Re: Eminence]
#14028673 - 02/26/11 01:21 AM (12 years, 11 months ago) |
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im pretty mentally stable and i had a hard time getting over my last girl.. first off, if you fear her making you jealous and rejecting you maybe you should evaluate and fix your mental state before you just jump into something.. and dont mistake lust for love.. be careful brother.. you dont gotta give up your feelings so easily.. give her some walls to climb and pump them brakes man.. just my 2cent..
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I_was_the_walrus
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She also talks to lots of guys, and I am a very jealous person sometimes.
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She is bipolar, and I am schizophrenic. (The only difference is that she's on medication and I'm not).
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I want to jump into this relationship, but I have a serious phobia of rejection. The last time I got rejected, I attempted suicide.
IMHO this sounds like a train wreck. Take it slow...use your head. Is this really a path you want to head down?
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Grok
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^Agreed. Seems like a heap of unstable infatuation rather than some of kind of enduring 'love', but you can only infer so much from words on a screen.
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Re: What to do? [Re: Grok]
#14029707 - 02/26/11 10:31 AM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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I can't believe you aren't sure of whether or not you should do this.
No, is the agreed-upon, resounding answer.
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Anonymous #1
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You both sound like junkies waiting to happen, then once the heroin is gone - breakup/suicide
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mr.711
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how could you possibly love someone who you've just me anyways, i would have my fun with this girl and wouldn't take this relationship seriously until you guys actually know each other better. as far as being afraid of rejection, thats a part of life bro. rejection only makes you a stronger person in the end i think.
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Re: What to do? [Re: mr.711]
#14035157 - 02/27/11 10:38 AM (12 years, 10 months ago) |
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Well, unstable infatuation can be fun if you don't take it seriously. she's into girls already, usually means she's more promiscuous than you're going for, so I wouldn't put my whole heart into it... although.... man this is a good opportunity for some fun if you don't get sucked too far in! if she's into girls already tell her to bring her girl over
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Psychopathic666
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Asked her out today. She said she doesn't know. Then we talked all sexual and shit over the phone.
Whatever. We are going to the movies on Saturday and after that I'm going back to her place...
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I dont see how anything could possibly go wrong...full speed ahead!
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stranger_danger
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You, sir, have answered your in question in the process of asking it. You said you are the jealous type. She is dating a girl and talking to a lot of other guys... unless your into jealous rage, hurt feelings, arguing, confrontation, etc, etc, etc.... then i would keep looking for love elsewhere bro... but thats just the opinion of some dude you dont even know.... so....
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