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The idea of only having a kid if your mate is perfectly ideal
#14027993 - 02/25/11 10:25 PM (12 years, 11 months ago) |
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My current GF was talking about children and I said I would never have kids with her, of course she asked why. I explained to her that I didn't think her genetics were on par with my families and I didn't want my child to have subpar characteristics. Her family is loaded with drug addicts, people you can’t hold a conversation with because of their low IQ, and health/mental problems. I obviously shouldn’t have said those things, but I can be a dick sometimes for being honest.
I just feel like if I had a child I would want my mate to be even above my genetics, which are pretty good. No one in my family has hair loss, hardly any cases of mental disease, no health problems, 90% of my family is drug free or knows the meaning of moderation, almost everyone in my family has high IQ plus most are entrepreneurs. Again I feel like it’s my duty to give my child the best of the best and before they are even born I want to hold true to my duty.
I’m just wondering about others thoughts on this subject.
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Re: The idea of only having a kid if your mate is perfectly ideal [Re: pmb] 1
#14028000 - 02/25/11 10:28 PM (12 years, 11 months ago) |
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i dont want any kids at all because i know i am #1.
there is no genetic material on par with mine.
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Re: The idea of only having a kid if your mate is perfectly ideal [Re: pmb] 2
#14028006 - 02/25/11 10:30 PM (12 years, 11 months ago) |
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Wow... why the fuck are you dating her? Wow... That's a dick move if I ever heard one. Should have just said "I don't see children in my future" and then told her that you you're not right for her.
That's just really uncalled for.
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#14028011 - 02/25/11 10:31 PM (12 years, 11 months ago) |
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I see no pussy for you in the near future, so I wouldn't worry about kids....
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Re: The idea of only having a kid if your mate is perfectly ideal [Re: pmb] 1
#14028014 - 02/25/11 10:32 PM (12 years, 11 months ago) |
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Wow. your like hitler only less charismatic and probably less attractive. Maybe you should start testing cyanide pills on your dog now for the day you inevitably realize that there's nothing left for you.
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#14028017 - 02/25/11 10:32 PM (12 years, 11 months ago) |
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Good luck finding someone you think as highly of as yourself.
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Re: The idea of only having a kid if your mate is perfectly ideal [Re: pmb]
#14028037 - 02/25/11 10:38 PM (12 years, 11 months ago) |
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So you pretty much just shut your girl down and told her shes not the one. Thats dick mang.
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Re: The idea of only having a kid if your mate is perfectly ideal [Re: blewmeanie]
#14028040 - 02/25/11 10:38 PM (12 years, 11 months ago) |
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Re: The idea of only having a kid if your mate is perfectly ideal [Re: pmb]
#14028046 - 02/25/11 10:40 PM (12 years, 11 months ago) |
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Your girlfriend stayed with you after this?
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Re: The idea of only having a kid if your mate is perfectly ideal [Re: AlmostAsCoolAs] 1
#14028055 - 02/25/11 10:42 PM (12 years, 11 months ago) |
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AlmostAsCoolAs said: Your girlfriend stayed with you after this?
why is he even staying with her? Anyone else think he could possibly be a narcissist?
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Re: The idea of only having a kid if your mate is perfectly ideal [Re: bbl337]
#14028071 - 02/25/11 10:46 PM (12 years, 11 months ago) |
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It's called dating jesus christ. Obviously everyone you date you are not going to want to have kids with. She was pissed for a while but then realized we have fun together and its good sex but its not going to last forever.
What's the problem with being with someone but not wanting to have kids with that person.
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Re: The idea of only having a kid if your mate is perfectly ideal [Re: pmb]
#14028082 - 02/25/11 10:48 PM (12 years, 11 months ago) |
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Nothing, but a relationship based off of sex? What do you do when you aren't banging?
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Re: The idea of only having a kid if your mate is perfectly ideal [Re: pmb] 1
#14028087 - 02/25/11 10:50 PM (12 years, 11 months ago) |
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Hahaha, I see what you're saying but you gotta work on your delivery!
I've fucked girls who I would never have a kid with. If I met a good chick and then found out her family was full of idiots and addicts I wouldn't have a kid with her either, it's clearly a dominant trait in her family.
Everyone got all uptight b/c you come of as an asshole but the truth hurts. We all subconsciously want positive traits in the people we reproduce with. If you knocked a girl up and then found out she had two autistic brothers you know you'd be sweating everything odd thing your kid ever does til a certain age.
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Re: The idea of only having a kid if your mate is perfectly ideal [Re: uber_aj]
#14028116 - 02/25/11 10:57 PM (12 years, 11 months ago) |
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uber_aj said: Hahaha, I see what you're saying but you gotta work on your delivery!
I've fucked girls who I would never have a kid with. If I met a good chick and then found out her family was full of idiots and addicts I wouldn't have a kid with her either, it's clearly a dominant trait in her family.
Everyone got all uptight b/c you come of as an asshole but the truth hurts. We all subconsciously want positive traits in the people we reproduce with. If you knocked a girl up and then found out she had two autistic brothers you know you'd be sweating everything odd thing your kid ever does til a certain age.

This is what I was trying to get at, I'm just too honest when I talk to people when they ask "what do you think", I tell them what I think. I don't tell them what I think they want to hear.
I guess that offends a lot of people though.
To the guy that asked what we do when we are not banging. Well we usually talk about sex or watch movies and cuddle, go out to eat, normal BF/GF stuff.
I have to say being with her has greatly improved my sexual performance. She is a very hard woman to please so I'm constantly needing to improve my game.
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Re: The idea of only having a kid if your mate is perfectly ideal [Re: uber_aj]
#14028147 - 02/25/11 11:04 PM (12 years, 11 months ago) |
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Meh, the only thing that's important to me as far as having a kid is intelligence and good nature. Also, I'd never be with a guy who wasn't intelligent and good natured, so it kind of works out.
I can't understand how anyone of a good amount of intelligence could stand being with someone who wasn't intelligent for more than a couple months.
I wouldn't necessarily base anything off of birth defects that don't affect the brain, diseases, or addiction problems, but I wouldn't be with a guy who had addiction problems, so...
My boyfriend of 3 years has a strong family history of heart attacks, but I'd still have a kid with him (if I thought I was ready for a kid).
In fact, if we do have a kid, all of it's bad genetics will probably come from him.... I have fucking kick ass genetics in my family multiple great grandparents have lived to late nineties or I think one lived to one hundred. My two grampas are both dead though, but both from alcoholism and emphysema.
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Re: The idea of only having a kid if your mate is perfectly ideal [Re: pmb]
#14028169 - 02/25/11 11:10 PM (12 years, 11 months ago) |
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pmb said: This is what I was trying to get at, I'm just too honest when I talk to people when they ask "what do you think", I tell them what I think. I don't tell them what I think they want to hear.
I guess that offends a lot of people though.
Me too. I'm learning how to be subtle about it, though. Instead of saying, "I think your opinion is fucking retarded and based on absolutely nothing," you gotta position it like, "What do you base that opinion off of?" Much fewer misunderstandings this way and you don't have to puss out on what you really think. Of course it's not nearly as fun(ny), but I prefer to make the trade-off for less shouting matches.
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Re: The idea of only having a kid if your mate is perfectly ideal [Re: BlueJayWay]
#14028170 - 02/25/11 11:10 PM (12 years, 11 months ago) |
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All emotions aside I just don't see my self having a child unless I have a very good connection with someone I feel is on par with myself. To the people that think im narcissistic, I believe im only above average nothing bounds above anyone else. I just want my child to have the "best of the best".
It's not easy being with someone below you intelligence or even above for that matter. I've been with both and below is definitely harder though, because they don't even want to try to understand anything they just flat out refuse to talk about anything math or science related. Which is the sort of subjects I love. The sex life keeps the relationship in check though.
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Re: The idea of only having a kid if your mate is perfectly ideal [Re: pmb]
#14028204 - 02/25/11 11:17 PM (12 years, 11 months ago) |
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Me too. I'm learning how to be subtle about it, though. Instead of saying, "I think your opinion is fucking retarded and based on absolutely nothing," you gotta position it like, "What do you base that opinion off of?" Much fewer misunderstandings this way and you don't have to puss out on what you really think. Of course it's not nearly as fun(ny), but I prefer to make the trade-off for less shouting matches.
Exactly, and it works that way with everything. Even with people I hate and think are absofuckinglutely retarded, I try to maintain the peace. After all, just because I hate them doesn't mean I want them to hate me. Hell, maybe I'll hate them a little less if they can appreciate me. Plus burning bridges does no good; the people who piss you off can change, or worse, become in a position of influence.
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#14028221 - 02/25/11 11:20 PM (12 years, 11 months ago) |
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so her dna is not good enough to actually create life with, but its fine for getting your dick wet? NICE.
I don't know if I hope you get hit by an asteroid or if a simple bus would be sufficient.
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Re: The idea of only having a kid if your mate is perfectly ideal [Re: pmb]
#14028230 - 02/25/11 11:21 PM (12 years, 11 months ago) |
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I like most of my characteristics, but I can trace the addiction/suicide gene in my blood.
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