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yogabunny said: im finding this thread wildly fascinating. i was dating a guy back in november who was a "little bit bi". like, he said he found other guys attractive but would probably only be with one again if there was a girl involved as well. this led to us having a conversation about experimentation and he confessed that he had experimented with his friends in high school, and that "all boys do". i know that girls do, and we're able to be open about it because it's socially acceptable.
anyway, im really glad that some of you are sharing, i bet it feels good to get it out there!!!

I think sexual "deviation" from "norm" (notice the quotes) is one of the last really taboo things, in terms of what we discuss interpersonally.
Especially homosexuality with men.
Being very "trendy" right now, and especially being particularly arousing for men to watch or think of, female bisexuality and homosexuality have had a lot of the stigma taken away (particularly the bisexuality, but even still for lesbians, I think)
On the other hand, despite the fact that a lot of girls are actually turned on by this, most of them are unwilling to admit it for the same reason that most of the guys won't talk about it. Some even going so far as the typical social posturing-- "ew, that's gross."
(I'm not saying some don't ACTUALLY find it gross. But I'll tell you I have known plenty people who talk ONE way in public, and a whole OTHER way in private.)
To me, the saddest ones are the ones who have to keep up this social posturing even in their own heads.
Edited by CidneyIndole (02/24/11 08:26 PM)
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