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Anthony917
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Parents smoking pot?
#14017774 - 02/24/11 01:10 AM (12 years, 11 months ago) |
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Hey shroomery, I need some advice. First a little back story:
My dad and I have never been too close. I mean, I love him very much and he's been a great father, we just never really got close to the point where I felt comfortable sharing personal details about my life with him. The same goes for my mom. Maybe it's just me. Regardless, him and I have a good relationship. My parents divorced a little over a year ago, and I live at home with my dad. It's just the two of us here.
Well, one day I was in my dad's room looking for this huge jar of quarters he keeps stashed away (so I can't steal any), and I stumbled upon a coke can that had been bent and made into a make-shift pipe. This kind of surprised me, as I didn't picture my dad as the weed smoking type. He likes to drink, but I never suspected him of smoking. Hahah, I thought it would be funny if one day I went in and replaced the coke can with my pipe to see what he says 
After that I was determined to find his stash (not to steal any, just so I could check out what kind of quality weed he had), but to no avail. This made me think that maybe his girlfriend was the one who was the smoker...but tonight I found a nice looking bag in my truck that my dad forgot about (i pinched a little nug so I can smoke it to see what he's workin with here)
Well, now I'm sort of torn. I am a regular smoker, and I don't know if my dad knows or not! I have reason to believe that he knows I smoke (my room sometimes gets pretty dank from grinding up weed), but I just can't be sure. One time he walked in my room while my buddy was over and he said "hey, why does it smell like weed in here??" and I just looked at him and shrugged my shoulders. As if that's not solid enough proof, right? 
I want to say something to him, but I just don't know how to bring it up, or what I would say once I did. We're going to Las Vegas for my 21st birthday in a week, I figure that would be a good time to spark up a conversation about it. Anyone have parents that smoke? Any advice shroomery??
tl;dr - I found out my dad smokes pot and don't know how to approach him about it.
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Re: Parents smoking pot? [Re: Anthony917]
#14017787 - 02/24/11 01:13 AM (12 years, 11 months ago) |
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from what it sounds like, you know he smokes, he in all likelihood knows you smoke, and you're about to turn 21. I don't see what you could possibly lose by asking your dad if he wants to smoke together with you...
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Re: Parents smoking pot? [Re: Pigasus]
#14017798 - 02/24/11 01:18 AM (12 years, 11 months ago) |
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just wait till he catches u smoking and offer him a toke
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Re: Parents smoking pot? [Re: Anthony917]
#14017804 - 02/24/11 01:18 AM (12 years, 11 months ago) |
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My dad smoked before he passed away, to be honest and we smoked together a few times, I wouldn't say that's the right thing to do in this situation because from then on he treated me like his buddy, and he wasn't a father to me anymore, in a sense.
First off, he probably knows you smoke. My dad knew I smoked without me telling him, and I thought I had done a perfect job hiding it. You can casually bring it up, but tread lightly. I would say since you're going to Vegas, to wait til he's liquored up and slip it into a conversation but that would seem a little deceiving. You can mention some friends of yours smoking, ask his opinion on it. Ask him what he thinks about parents smoking, you know, just ease into it. If you just start bombarding him with questions he's likely to either deny it or get extremely defensive.
I don't think anyone will have the perfect advice for you here, you're the only one who knows your dad, we don't know what kind of reaction he will have in this situation. But like I said, just tread lightly and keep in mind that it might be a real problem for him, maybe it's his escape, just like it's a lot of other people's escapes. Hope it all works out.
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Re: Parents smoking pot? [Re: Jukon]
#14017844 - 02/24/11 01:31 AM (12 years, 11 months ago) |
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you would be surprised but divorce can fuckin change people you and your pa might see eye to eye more because he might have felt trapped or required to be concealed when he was involved in his marriage but now your really his priority... to see you succeed or just plain happy before he dies someday is his real goal don't think any different. ive seen this happen to a friend with a real snobby mom and after his dad left she decide that she would experiment with pot when my friend found out he was completly open about his habit and eventually they both quit together for the most part but she surprises him with some on holidays lol
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over a plant... and you stepping into real adult hood, I would want my son to tell me and not feel like he had to hide something that we both obviously accepted. That thin ice shit is no good, only the full truth will make it right between you two.
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Re: Parents smoking pot? [Re: Anthony917]
#14017878 - 02/24/11 01:43 AM (12 years, 11 months ago) |
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Anthony917 said: I went in and replaced the coke can with my pipe to see what he says 
Do that, or buy him a cheapo glasser for himself.
aluminum cans are bad to smoke 
maybe he'll pay you in quarters
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Re: Parents smoking pot? [Re: Anthony917]
#14017882 - 02/24/11 01:45 AM (12 years, 11 months ago) |
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Stealing money from your dad.
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Grungeman17 said: over a plant... and you stepping into real adult hood, I would want my son to tell me and not feel like he had to hide something that we both obviously accepted. That thin ice shit is no good, only the full truth will make it right between you two.
I am just wary because of some experiences I've had in the past. I ALWAYS pictured my dad as an anti-pot type of guy. I also don't want to make things awkward between us, because what if my dad doesn't want me to know about his use? He's obviously hiding it from me. I figure if my dad wanted me to know, he would tell me... Then again I don't know...maybe he's waiting til vegas to bring it up to me! bleeehhhhQuote:
AlmostAsCoolAs said: Stealing money from your dad.
stealing quarters for the bus to go to work  I make my own money
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where I come from, even if your parents didn't agree with what you do they expect you to be a man and tell them because thats what real men do what real families do... I would feel like the bigest peice of shit father there was if my son couldn't tell me something he really wanted to.
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My dad smokes weed 1-2 year. Mom doesn't. Once I got into college they encouraged it because I wasn't drinking and it's much healthier.
Then again I got strung out as fuck couple years later, but they don't see any connection between that and weed. They are fine with it.
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Re: Parents smoking pot? [Re: Anthony917]
#14017902 - 02/24/11 01:52 AM (12 years, 11 months ago) |
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approach him about. i wish i had a chance like this. you do. so make something of it.
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Anthony917
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Grungeman17 said: where I come from, even if your parents didn't agree with what you do they expect you to be a man and tell them because thats what real men do what real families do... I would feel like the bigest peice of shit father there was if my son couldn't tell me something he really wanted to.
well we obviously have very different families. my dad has never been emotional with me. I've never talked to him about my problems, etc. To be honest I never talked to either of my parents about my problems. I just don't feel comfortable doing it, because my parents were never very responsive, or very busy with work. I've also always had this thing of solving my problems by myself, so I never really reached out for help from them. It's an interesting relationship.
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you hold your ground man... prove to him that he raised one, i know this situation all to well and i can tell you now that "awkwardness" your afraid of manififest itself hiding or avoiding the truth. jesus is right... this will enpower you when you know you talked man to man with your dad and said what was up.
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Re: Parents smoking pot? [Re: Anthony917]
#14017920 - 02/24/11 01:57 AM (12 years, 11 months ago) |
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Anthony917 said:
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Grungeman17 said: where I come from, even if your parents didn't agree with what you do they expect you to be a man and tell them because thats what real men do what real families do... I would feel like the bigest peice of shit father there was if my son couldn't tell me something he really wanted to.
well we obviously have very different families. my dad has never been emotional with me. I've never talked to him about my problems, etc. To be honest I never talked to either of my parents about my problems. I just don't feel comfortable doing it, because my parents were never very responsive, or very busy with work. I've also always had this thing of solving my problems by myself, so I never really reached out for help from them. It's an interesting relationship.
he's just trying to not let on that he's stoned out of his gourd
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sounds like a dead one, no offense
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Re: Parents smoking pot? [Re: Anthony917]
#14017930 - 02/24/11 01:59 AM (12 years, 11 months ago) |
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Personally i WOULDNT approach him. Just get high as possible and wait till he calls you out.
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Anthony917
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MisterMuscaria said: Personally i WOULDNT approach him. Just get high as possible and wait till he calls you out.
I get high every day. I'm around him all the time while ripped out of my mind... I am pretty sure I can tell when he's high too, but he's never called me out.
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Re: Parents smoking pot? [Re: Anthony917]
#14017972 - 02/24/11 02:09 AM (12 years, 11 months ago) |
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GIVE HIM SOME GLASS!
It's your Dad, don't let him rip coke cans.
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Re: Parents smoking pot? [Re: DrMambo]
#14017978 - 02/24/11 02:11 AM (12 years, 11 months ago) |
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Many people have their reasons for not carrying or using glass.
I know a guy who blows glass djembes but he smokes out of coke cans.
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