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marriage question
    #14016642 - 02/23/11 09:38 PM (12 years, 11 months ago)

so say you wanna get married for financial stability

work offers me more money & offers to pay for my house if i'm married

would you do it?

this girl I know is pretty awesome, and she cooks, i haven't known her long but I'm kind of considering asking her if she'd do it (for the $)


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Re: marriage question [Re: pfxtc]
    #14016651 - 02/23/11 09:39 PM (12 years, 11 months ago)

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work offers me more money & offers to pay for my house if i'm married





Sounds illegal. Unless you're in the military?


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Re: marriage question [Re: pfxtc]
    #14016652 - 02/23/11 09:39 PM (12 years, 11 months ago)

Work pays for your house if you're married?


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Re: marriage question [Re: Doc_T]
    #14016662 - 02/23/11 09:40 PM (12 years, 11 months ago)

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Doc_T said:
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pfxtc said:
work offers me more money & offers to pay for my house if i'm married





Sounds illegal. Unless you're in the military?




it's just a benefit they offer :shrug:

never heard of it being illegal

it's a shitty area. the more money is for like food and crap.


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Young male going by the name "Bassfreak" entered Worcester General complaining of a sharp pain in his buttock region after attending EDM event. Attending physician considered a possible diagnosis of acute rave anus, but upon further investigation it was determined there was nothing cute about patient's anus.

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Re: marriage question [Re: pfxtc]
    #14016671 - 02/23/11 09:41 PM (12 years, 11 months ago)

They're discriminating against single people. You ought to demand the same pay for the same work.


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Re: marriage question [Re: Doc_T]
    #14016675 - 02/23/11 09:42 PM (12 years, 11 months ago)

q : would you do it?

a : "they're discriminating"

not a good answer

let me rephrase.

would you marry someone for the money?


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Young male going by the name "Bassfreak" entered Worcester General complaining of a sharp pain in his buttock region after attending EDM event. Attending physician considered a possible diagnosis of acute rave anus, but upon further investigation it was determined there was nothing cute about patient's anus.

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Re: marriage question [Re: pfxtc]
    #14016681 - 02/23/11 09:43 PM (12 years, 11 months ago)

Well it sounds like a good plan. Getting married to someone you barely know is risky though. Once you're legally together they can do a lot of shit to mess up your finances.


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Re: marriage question [Re: JT]
    #14016686 - 02/23/11 09:43 PM (12 years, 11 months ago)

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Well it sounds like a good plan. Getting married to someone you barely know is risky though. Once you're legally together they can do a lot of shit to mess up your finances.




yeah that's what i'm worried about...


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Re: marriage question [Re: JT] * 2
    #14016694 - 02/23/11 09:45 PM (12 years, 11 months ago)

dont forget to sign a prenup!


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Re: marriage question [Re: pfxtc]
    #14018367 - 02/24/11 05:37 AM (12 years, 11 months ago)

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pfxtc said:
q : would you do it?

a : "they're discriminating"

not a good answer

let me rephrase.

would you marry someone for the money?




Would and did, the military does something like this.
We were together long-term, but formalized with a ceremony and papers for the money.


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Re: marriage question [Re: pfxtc]
    #14018389 - 02/24/11 05:47 AM (12 years, 11 months ago)

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would you marry someone for the money?



I wouldn't marry someone for money today if I knew that it meant a very realistic possibility of losing much more money in the future.

And from the viewpoint of your perhaps-soon-to-be-wife, I'd probably feel bad if the only reason my man would marry me was because of the money. But your gf might not see it that way, just theorizing here.

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They're discriminating against single people. You ought to demand the same pay for the same work



I agree with this.


Edited by koraks (02/24/11 05:48 AM)


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Re: marriage question *DELETED* [Re: Doc_T]
    #14018391 - 02/24/11 05:49 AM (12 years, 11 months ago)

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Re: marriage question [Re: Oldgregg]
    #14018400 - 02/24/11 05:53 AM (12 years, 11 months ago)

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i probably won't get married though because of this reasoning, the idea of meeting a woman that i can spend the rest of my life with just seems unlikely



There you have your answer. Don't do it because of the money. Don't do it at all. Turning it around, if you'd marry her now, that would mean that you're setting aside one of the apparently more important principles you live by for a bit of cash. Personally, I'd feel bad about that.


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Re: marriage question [Re: pfxtc]
    #14018407 - 02/24/11 05:56 AM (12 years, 11 months ago)

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Well it sounds like a good plan. Getting married to someone you barely know is risky though. Once you're legally together they can do a lot of shit to mess up your finances.




yeah that's what i'm worried about...




you dont have to have joint accounts or have her on your credit card or any of that other crap


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Re: marriage question [Re: Oldgregg]
    #14018414 - 02/24/11 05:58 AM (12 years, 11 months ago)

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i probably won't get married though because of this reasoning, the idea of meeting a woman that i can spend the rest of my life with just seems unlikely





nah... that's easy to accomplish, you just have to commit suicide on your honeymoon


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Re: marriage question [Re: Prisoner#1]
    #14018417 - 02/24/11 06:00 AM (12 years, 11 months ago)

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you dont have to have joint accounts or have her on your credit card or any of that other crap




Agreed. Have one joint account that you both pay into from your personal accounts.
More issues over money than anything else.


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    #14018423 - 02/24/11 06:05 AM (12 years, 11 months ago)

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Re: marriage question [Re: Oldgregg]
    #14018426 - 02/24/11 06:07 AM (12 years, 11 months ago)

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i probably won't get married though because of this reasoning, the idea of meeting a woman that i can spend the rest of my life with just seems unlikely





nah... that's easy to accomplish, you just have to commit suicide on your honeymoon



....its so simple, yet so brilliant!
you'll be in my suicide note pris!





mine too:feelsgoodman:


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Re: marriage question [Re: pfxtc]
    #14018430 - 02/24/11 06:10 AM (12 years, 11 months ago)

Since you brought up the financial aspect, just remember that she takes half.

IMO Prenups are not as bulletproof as people think.  Most law is practiced and based on past precedent.  Historically, men were the breadwinners, so the woman taking half was for her own security.

Even with a prenup, you two are moving forward together as a couple, so it's likely that she takes half.


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Re: marriage question [Re: Doc_T]
    #14019044 - 02/24/11 09:52 AM (12 years, 11 months ago)

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you dont have to have joint accounts or have her on your credit card or any of that other crap




Agreed. Have one joint account that you both pay into from your personal accounts.
More issues over money than anything else.




That's pure genius Doc!  They will never have to worry about not having enough money for a :burnone:

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Re: marriage question [Re: badchad]
    #14019423 - 02/24/11 11:23 AM (12 years, 11 months ago)

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Even with a prenup, you two are moving forward together as a couple, so it's likely that she takes half.





a prenup is as binding as any other contract, I got divorced and she got
nothing but what I agreed to and that's without a prenup, she gets $100/mo
in child support and gets to live in my house until the kids are 18


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Re: marriage question [Re: Prisoner#1]
    #14019906 - 02/24/11 01:08 PM (12 years, 11 months ago)

My guess is that it depends on the structure of the prenup and (at least partially) on how hard someone is willing to fight for their share.

I'm not a lawyer, so I won't present my opinion as fact.  I'm merely passing along information gained through casual conversation with my attorney/lawyer friend.

You could imagine a person who says:  "I stayed home and raised the kids for 15 years. This allowed my partner to spend more time at work, get promoted make more, while I passed on professional advancement".  This also amounts to 250k in day care expenses saved.

Even with a prenup, I could imagine that view presented as a valid argument.


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...most subjects find the experience valuable, some find it frightening, and many say that is it uniquely lovely.

Osmond, H.  Annals, NY Acad Science (1957) 66:418-434; p.436


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