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uber_aj
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I rarely have the desire to be in a relationship.
#14007715 - 02/22/11 02:02 PM (13 years, 11 days ago) |
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Virtually everybody I've ever met seems eager to get into their next relationship when they're single. I've only had this desire twice in my whole 24yrs of existence and it was really a matter of wanting what I couldn't have. In retrospect I doubt that I would've been happy with either girl.
Don't get me wrong, I'm not one of those asexual people. I enjoy getting laid whenever it happens, but even that I don't actively seek out like most people my age. In fact, the only reason I'm writing this thread is b/c I found out that the only girl I've had on call for a kinky lay now and then is moving on. I'm not sad, just disappointed that I won't get the occasional break from jerking off anymore.
I wonder why I'm like this on a pretty regular basis, but the only things I can come up are: that I don't see people in happy relationships (selective observation?), or maybe that I'm subconsciously worried that it will end in emotional pain.
Every time I've forced myself to date a girl, the whole time I'm telling myself to just put up with it to get laid as I fake a smile and play the stupid social games that I totally abhor. I think the idea of sitting there and interviewing each other is stupid. We're clearly both gonna lie about ourselves to show higher value, then we're gonna act like we're too proper to fuck on the first date. No smash on the second date is an automatic deal-breaker for me, too. Even if we make it a few dates, we're gonna see each others flaws and realize that we're not who we pretended to be from the beginning.
Am I really missing out on anything by being , besides regular sex? Am I an asshole for not compromising or have I not met the right girl yet? How unusual is this behavior? Blah.
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Re: I rarely have the desire to be in a relationship. [Re: uber_aj]
#14007726 - 02/22/11 02:04 PM (13 years, 11 days ago) |
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I actually do want a relationship but girls dont think Im relationship material. They think im fuck buddy material. I hate my fucking life.
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Re: I rarely have the desire to be in a relationship. [Re: uber_aj]
#14007738 - 02/22/11 02:05 PM (13 years, 11 days ago) |
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I am right there with ya buddy. I am sure it roots deeper then just seeing failed relationship after relationship of my friends. And how held down they are cause they are always in a relationship.
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Re: I rarely have the desire to be in a relationship. [Re: uber_aj]
#14007743 - 02/22/11 02:06 PM (13 years, 11 days ago) |
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Regular sex. Surprise presents. A friend to talk to.
I think that's about all you're missing out on.
EDIT: But don't you have any desire to start a family? Propagate your seed so that all of Earth may know the greatness that is uber_aj?
I have to admit that (with age) I'm more attracted to the thought of a stable family unit than to just getting laid. And just having a cool chick to grow old with.
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Re: I rarely have the desire to be in a relationship. [Re: uber_aj]
#14007756 - 02/22/11 02:08 PM (13 years, 11 days ago) |
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I'm gonna go ahead and say you haven't met the right girl yet, or maybe more accurately, you're not ready to meet them yet.
I agree that most people you see are not in a healthy relationship at all. Most people seem to fight, argue, and play stupid mind games with each other.
With me and my girl, there's no lying, there's no games. None of that bullshit. No fighting just for the sake of fighting.
We love each other very much, and I'm always happier when she's around. She makes me laugh, she's so genuine. There's few chicks like that IME, though.
When you're ready to look around, you'll see what you were missing. Or maybe you won't. Not everyone's the same, and not everyone wants to be with someone. And why should you feel like you should? It's your life.
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Re: I rarely have the desire to be in a relationship. [Re: MisterMuscaria]
#14007762 - 02/22/11 02:09 PM (13 years, 11 days ago) |
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Yeah, I used to be EXACTLY like you OP, still would be if I didn't have a girlfriend.
Things seem to be working for now, but I it doesn't im gonna single for a very, very long time... To much responsibilities and stuff... Compromising... ugh.........
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Re: I rarely have the desire to be in a relationship. [Re: pwnasaurus]
#14007764 - 02/22/11 02:09 PM (13 years, 11 days ago) |
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At this point in my life I have no desire to propagate my seed at all. And I may never have the desire, it's really impossible to say at this point.
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Re: I rarely have the desire to be in a relationship. [Re: pwnasaurus]
#14007783 - 02/22/11 02:11 PM (13 years, 11 days ago) |
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pwnasaurus said: At this point in my life I have no desire to propagate my seed at all. And I may never have the desire, it's really impossible to say at this point.
I couldnt give a shit about creating a family either. Im a lone wolf... I enjoy my time alone very much
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Re: I rarely have the desire to be in a relationship. [Re: Patlal]
#14007798 - 02/22/11 02:14 PM (13 years, 11 days ago) |
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Well, it's not like the world needs more children. (God knows the Catholics provide us with plenty.)
But I'd love to have a family myself.
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Re: I rarely have the desire to be in a relationship. [Re: Patlal]
#14007832 - 02/22/11 02:21 PM (13 years, 11 days ago) |
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pwnasaurus said: At this point in my life I have no desire to propagate my seed at all. And I may never have the desire, it's really impossible to say at this point.
I couldnt give a shit about creating a family either. Im a lone wolf... I enjoy my time alone very much
Same. I like kids and I love being an older brother, I have a high opinion of my genes, too. But, even though I occasionally imagine having a son (who I could raise to not be an idiot!), the last thing I want is to limit the rest of my life by having a kid. I'm also worried that if he/she did turn out to be an idiot, I'd resent them for it and feel like a failure.
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Re: I rarely have the desire to be in a relationship. [Re: ifoundwaldo]
#14007837 - 02/22/11 02:22 PM (13 years, 11 days ago) |
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I feel you all on this but man relationships CAN exist. Imagine the friendships you have with your bros. You go, do fun stuff, share your crazy fuckin thoughts, trip balls, and generally uplift eachother. I think real girlfriend is a chick you find that you get along with, and it is real. You call eachother out on your ego bullshit, you realize it is a game, and you try to be real with eachother. The best part is that when you find someone like that it won't last, it will go on until you both grow as people, and then, hopefully, you will have a lifelong connection with someone.
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Re: I rarely have the desire to be in a relationship. [Re: ifoundwaldo]
#14007839 - 02/22/11 02:22 PM (13 years, 11 days ago) |
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ifoundwaldo said: Well, it's not like the world needs more children. (God knows the Catholics provide us with plenty.)
But I'd love to have a family myself.
Yeah, I want to propagate my seed. I feel like I owe it to my ancestors.
Carrying on my genetics is pretty important if you ask me.
In turn, having that in the back of my mind makes me very picky about women too. Hate most of em to be honest with you.
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Re: I rarely have the desire to be in a relationship. [Re: propensity]
#14007872 - 02/22/11 02:27 PM (13 years, 11 days ago) |
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ifoundwaldo said: Well, it's not like the world needs more children. (God knows the Catholics provide us with plenty.)
But I'd love to have a family myself.
Yeah, I want to propagate my seed. I feel like I owe it to my ancestors.
Carrying on my genetics is pretty important if you ask me.
In turn, having that in the back of my mind makes me very picky about women too. Hate most of em to be honest with you.
LOL. Sorry dude, but seriously? Owe it to your ancestors? They're dead, and you will be soon too.
That is just some silly shit, if you ask me. We don't have to constantly reproduce for the human race to survive anymore - in fact that might even do the opposite.
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Re: I rarely have the desire to be in a relationship. [Re: uber_aj] 1
#14007904 - 02/22/11 02:31 PM (13 years, 11 days ago) |
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I've been single for a long time, I'm just fine. 
I tend to like being alone, if I'm around people too much I get severe social anxiety and tend to feel out of place. A girl always seems like something useful, but hey...I saved myself a lot of drama by staying single.
There have been many times where I could've been in a relationship, but I tend to say 'No' on the spot or later after I analyze their actions, both in a good/bad way.
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Re: I rarely have the desire to be in a relationship. [Re: pwnasaurus]
#14007908 - 02/22/11 02:32 PM (13 years, 11 days ago) |
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Re: I rarely have the desire to be in a relationship. [Re: propensity] 1
#14007912 - 02/22/11 02:32 PM (13 years, 11 days ago) |
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propensity said: Yeah, I want to propagate my seed. I feel like I owe it to my ancestors.
I don't understand this. Even though I was planned (parents are religious fundies), I'm sure if contraception had been widely available, a large part of my lineage wouldn't have existed. I don't owe a random sequence of people who are now compost a goddamn thing.
I do feel like I owe it to the world to create something beneficial to the human endeavor before I die, I'm just not ready to accept that it's a child that I could live vicariously through.
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Re: I rarely have the desire to be in a relationship. [Re: aresnirvana]
#14007961 - 02/22/11 02:42 PM (13 years, 11 days ago) |
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MisterMuscaria said: I actually do want a relationship but girls dont think Im relationship material. They think im fuck buddy material. I hate my fucking life. 
Why do you want a relationship?
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Re: I rarely have the desire to be in a relationship. [Re: uber_aj]
#14007969 - 02/22/11 02:44 PM (13 years, 11 days ago) |
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I feel the same way but I believe I havent met a person who I "really" like and feels the same way.
Short relationships are a waste of time. No one I met seemed to feel the same though
Adoption is a good instead of making your own.
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Re: I rarely have the desire to be in a relationship. [Re: uber_aj]
#14007976 - 02/22/11 02:45 PM (13 years, 11 days ago) |
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uber_aj said:
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MisterMuscaria said: I actually do want a relationship but girls dont think Im relationship material. They think im fuck buddy material. I hate my fucking life. 
Why do you want a relationship?
Ive never been in a long term one. I like the idea of it. Having someone there every night.
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Re: I rarely have the desire to be in a relationship. [Re: uber_aj]
#14007981 - 02/22/11 02:46 PM (13 years, 11 days ago) |
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uber_aj said: I do feel like I owe it to the world to create something beneficial to the human endeavor before I die, I'm just not ready to accept that it's a child that I could live vicariously through.
It's not about living vicariously through your child. This is unhealthy.
It's about watching your own genetic material grow and experience life. Just like you got to.
And I like to think that a child will not be the only beneficial thing I contribute to the human endeavor. Since that isn't especially difficult or anything.
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