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nicechrisman
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well, date is canceled for tonight. I'm gonna take you guys' advice.
Just kidding- canceled cuz she's sick with a cold. I almost canceled for the same reason. I'm gonna go see her art exhibition on Sat night though, and we're gonna reschedule our date for another time.
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ifoundwaldo


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As long as she can accept you and you can accept her... I don't see a problem.
Alcohol and marijuana are pretty widely accepted too. It's not like you're a (insert addictive drug) addict going out with a sober person.
Colds suck.
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Senor_Doobie
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Tchan909 said: I've been dating a sober girl lately too. She wasn't always sober, she drank and did meth very heavily in high school and then cleaned up. Now the only psychoactives she's willing to use are coffee and cigarettes.
She claims not to mind if I drink or do drugs around her; I usually don't, because it makes me feel like a fiend. But there is something very peculiar about our interactions that I can't quite put my finger on.
Could it be that she looks down on you?
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Sophistic Radiance
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Senor_Doobie said:
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Tchan909 said: I've been dating a sober girl lately too. She wasn't always sober, she drank and did meth very heavily in high school and then cleaned up. Now the only psychoactives she's willing to use are coffee and cigarettes.
She claims not to mind if I drink or do drugs around her; I usually don't, because it makes me feel like a fiend. But there is something very peculiar about our interactions that I can't quite put my finger on.
Could it be that she looks down on you?
It's possible, but I doubt it. I do drugs, but I've also never blacked-out in school or been hooked on crystal meth like she has. I think it just has to do with the fact that I'm so used to altered states that I take them for granted whereas she legitimately sees them as a personal threat. I'm pretty sure she respects me and my drug use, but it is a different frame of reference.
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Senor_Doobie
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Word, I was just curious.
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gerryjarcia
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in my experience, people take on things they do or don't do as identity statements. often, when someone has made a conscious decision to abstain from drugs, meat, etc. those things become an identity statement.
the whole identity statement is often the same with folks who do thangs (drugs, etc.).
the real key is to find someone who has made their personal lifestyle decisions and is comfortable and non-judgmental of other peoples lifestyle choices whether they agree with them or not.
i guess i'm rambling on about finding a mature person to share life with.
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nicechrisman
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gerryjarcia said: in my experience, people take on things they do or don't do as identity statements. often, when someone has made a conscious decision to abstain from drugs, meat, etc. those things become an identity statement.
the whole identity statement is often the same with folks who do thangs (drugs, etc.).
the real key is to find someone who has made their personal lifestyle decisions and is comfortable and non-judgmental of other peoples lifestyle choices whether they agree with them or not.
i guess i'm rambling on about finding a mature person to share life with.
well, I certainly hope it can be like that.
We hung out about a week ago, but I wouldn't really consider it a date. I carpooled with her down to the Seattle Flower and Garden show along with a friend of her mother's. It wasn't really a planned thing, more last minute, so I'm not trying to read into the whole mother's friend thing. They had already planned on going down there together before I decided to go with.
We are going out tonight though. I think I'll take her out for sushi cuz I know she likes it, she doesn't eat meat except fish, and I think sushi is kinda a special thing. I know a good place that's got nice ambiance and all that jazz.
Then we are going to have a game night. Not sure what yet. She likes pool, and I am pitifully bad at it. I like darts but she feels the same about them. We were talking maybe airhocky or bowling.
Hopefully it will be fun. I'm sure it will.
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