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Anonymous #1

fallen for a young guy with a 15 year age gap
    #13983153 - 02/18/11 04:34 AM (12 years, 11 months ago)

Hey, I'm a 38 year old female. I have known a young guy who's 23 for about 2 years. I liked him heaps from the first time I met him, but thought he was too young for me. He is a friend of an old flatmate so he used to come round to our house really regularly. We have heaps in common - including an intellectual interest in drugs and pharmacology, also psychology and art. Anyway, after a year I decided to hang the age gap and make friends with him and for the past year, we've been hanging out a couple of times a week.  There was occasionally some 'tension' between us after a night out, like eg. late at night sitting on the couch chatting at my place, but i always made my head rule my heart. Just recently I met someone who I began a relationship with and the young guy stopped making contact - we have only seen each other maybe once every 3 weeks since then. But then the contrast between the connection I have with my friend and my (now ex) partner at the time made me realise how much I really like him. I have only met a couple of people in my life who I have felt such a connection with. A couple of people suggested that maybe he stopped hanging out with me because he was in love with me... (which may or may not be the case). But it got me thinking. Now each time I see him, afterwards I feel love sick. Each time I think I can quash it for the next time but find that I can't. I keep hearing lately about relationships with big age gap. Should I go for it? Or would that  just be creepy and weird?
I anticipate one problem might be the difference in life stage - because I want kids soon. He wants to either start a business or go to uni, but hasn't begun either. Anyways, any thoughts about the situation would be appreciated.


Edited by Anonymous (02/18/11 01:24 PM)


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Anonymous #2

Re: fallen for a young guy with a 15 year age gap [Re: Anonymous #1]
    #13983172 - 02/18/11 05:02 AM (12 years, 11 months ago)

There's a lot to life that you can pass on to someone that young. You can help him get a great head start on life, he would be incredibly grateful.

At least that's my experience.


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Anonymous #3

Re: fallen for a young guy with a 15 year age gap [Re: Anonymous #1]
    #13985854 - 02/18/11 05:36 PM (12 years, 11 months ago)

I say go for it, I'm dating someone 19 years older than me :shrug:


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Anonymous #4

Re: fallen for a young guy with a 15 year age gap [Re: Anonymous #3]
    #13986422 - 02/18/11 07:39 PM (12 years, 11 months ago)

I say you let him DSYSB

He's probably fantasized about it many times in the past...


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Anonymous #4

Re: fallen for a young guy with a 15 year age gap [Re: Anonymous #4]
    #13986436 - 02/18/11 07:42 PM (12 years, 11 months ago)

This thread also gave me a chubby :derfase:


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Anonymous #1

Re: fallen for a young guy with a 15 year age gap [Re: Anonymous #4]
    #13986583 - 02/18/11 08:14 PM (12 years, 11 months ago)

hehe

I think how I'm going to approach it is - I'm gonna mention about a friend of mine who is seeing a 60 yr old guy - she is 30, and just get his reaction. Mention u know - they are both adults and I guess the only prob would be possibly life stages in a relationship with an age gap, but that love conquers all - something like that. And then see him a few times and flirt a bit and see what he does. Maybe incorporate some alcohol :smile:


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Anonymous #4

Re: fallen for a young guy with a 15 year age gap [Re: Anonymous #1]
    #13986771 - 02/18/11 08:44 PM (12 years, 11 months ago)

do you want to just fuck this dude or have him bear your children/put a ring on your finger?

I'm pretty positive he'd go just for option 1 considering his age. im 23 myself, and id rather be fucking older broads than having a bunch of kids running around from someone old enough to be my mother.

just sayin'


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Anonymous #1

Re: fallen for a young guy with a 15 year age gap [Re: Anonymous #4]
    #13986805 - 02/18/11 08:48 PM (12 years, 11 months ago)

:frown: um well yeah I'd want something committed. Yeah i want kids


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Anonymous #1

Re: fallen for a young guy with a 15 year age gap [Re: Anonymous #4]
    #13987154 - 02/18/11 09:42 PM (12 years, 11 months ago)

BTW Anon4 i don't think he'd bear my children, but I'd bear his  :p.

Yeah maybe I need a reality check. Though some guys would be OK with kids that young, no?

This guy has a shroomey account. I hope he doesn't see this or he'd work out it was me for sure...


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Re: fallen for a young guy with a 15 year age gap [Re: Anonymous #1]
    #13987290 - 02/18/11 10:00 PM (12 years, 11 months ago)

you wouldnt be posting this here, if you at the least, subconsiously, didnt want him to come across it.


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Anonymous #1

Re: fallen for a young guy with a 15 year age gap [Re: JesusGoneRogue]
    #13987357 - 02/18/11 10:08 PM (12 years, 11 months ago)

Hehe. He only has about 10 posts, so I'm hoping he doesn't visit too regularly....


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Anonymous #5

Re: fallen for a young guy with a 15 year age gap [Re: Anonymous #1]
    #13987485 - 02/18/11 10:34 PM (12 years, 11 months ago)

He is intrigued by you, and the prospect of having a physical relationship with you.
He most likely doesnt want a long term relationship.

If you want to bang the crap out of him and have fun...I would say the runway is clear but the ball is in your court...he's obviously not confident enough to make the first move or he would have by now. Hanging out at someones place late at night after drinking is certainly a window of opportunity and he hasnt taken advantage of it yet.

Not to be mean or anything..but at 38, if you would like children you better get to work quick.


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Re: fallen for a young guy with a 15 year age gap [Re: Anonymous #1]
    #13987523 - 02/18/11 10:43 PM (12 years, 11 months ago)

I really don't see how you'd go about this.  Talking about kids with someone you're not even in a relationship with is a sure-fire way to scare him off, even if he is the kind of guy to have kids young.  But if you don't ask, you'll probably end up wasting your time.  Sounds like a lose-lose situation.

Really wish I could say go for it, but I have doubts.

Whatever you do, I wish you well.  Good luck.


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Anonymous #6

Re: fallen for a young guy with a 15 year age gap [Re: Anonymous #1]
    #13987811 - 02/18/11 11:32 PM (12 years, 11 months ago)

Quote:

Anonymous said:
Hehe. He only has about 10 posts, so I'm hoping he doesn't visit too regularly....




you obviously want him to see it


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Anonymous #1

Re: fallen for a young guy with a 15 year age gap [Re: Anonymous #5]
    #13987871 - 02/18/11 11:44 PM (12 years, 11 months ago)

I dunno if he would have tried by now or not... The reason I say is because of an incident that happened near the beginning of our friendship. We went to the pub one night and this guy came up to talk to us. He was like about 60 and he owned a real estate nearby. Anyway, after the pub the guy took us back to his office and gave us champaign and started talking about how he couldn't delete this porn on his computer. Then he told my friend to take off my cardigan. My friend declined. Then he asked whether we were together ( I look very young for my age) and we both said at the same time "no, there is a bit of an age gap". Needless to say we left there pretty quickly. Anyway everytime there has been a vibe from him since then, I've staunchly ignored it - I didn't want to stuff up the friendship.

I don't know how likely it is now that I can maintain a friendship with him, because my feelings have intensified. So I'm leaning towards thinking I might as well try starting something because I have nothing to lose.


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Re: fallen for a young guy with a 15 year age gap [Re: Anonymous #1]
    #13988061 - 02/19/11 12:27 AM (12 years, 11 months ago)

Maybe just talk to him about it?
Yes it will probably get wierd but at least you will know.
Any hetrosexual male should jump at the chance of an attractive older woman.
Thats the stuff fantasies are made of!!!!


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Re: fallen for a young guy with a 15 year age gap [Re: Steve]
    #13991707 - 02/19/11 07:15 PM (12 years, 11 months ago)

Last year I dated someone with that same age gap. It was a great relationship until I fucked it up by thinking some other chick was into me. Big mistake on my part.
The age gap may seem huge but I honestly loved having someone who understood the point my life was at, you just might have to wait for him to catch up to you so-to-speak.

As for kids and marriage... don't hold your breath, but you never know, some guys are ready at 25.

So, Go for it!!


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Anonymous #1

Re: fallen for a young guy with a 15 year age gap [Re: Lynnch]
    #14025977 - 02/25/11 03:14 PM (12 years, 11 months ago)

So I saw him the last two nights and apparently he got the vibe I was interested on Thursday night. So  last night he invited me over and he made a move on me. We watched a movie and he sat close to me and kept sitting closer each time he sat down, i guess to see if I'd object, then sat so close that we were touching. Then he held my hand and we kissed and then we couldn't keep our hands off each other so movie got sidelined while we adjourned to the bedroom.  It doesn't seem that he just wants sex from the things he was saying last night, touch wood. Will see him again in a few nights. I'm stoked! Probably won't stop smiling today :laugh:


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Anonymous #7

Re: fallen for a young guy with a 15 year age gap [Re: Anonymous #1] * 1
    #14025985 - 02/25/11 03:17 PM (12 years, 11 months ago)

Awesome! :heart: :humpme:

Did you dry smash his shitbox? :lol: Or merely rock his young world? :rofl:


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Anonymous #4

Re: fallen for a young guy with a 15 year age gap [Re: Anonymous #7]
    #14026171 - 02/25/11 03:57 PM (12 years, 11 months ago)

You touched his wood? :borfase:


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