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Flop Johnson
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Worrying about what you can't change and neglecting what you can. 1
#13909288 - 02/05/11 09:07 AM (13 years, 13 days ago) |
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This seems to be a pretty common problem with the human condition.
We often worry about: Politics, God, what others are doing/saying, what the future is going to be like, etc.
While we often neglect: Our health, our jobs, our significant others, ourselves.
I think one possible explanation is that by worrying about things that are out of your control - you don't have to accept responsibility for them when they go wrong. Although that might not be the entire picture.
Why do you think it is?
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Re: Worrying about what you can't change and neglecting what you can. [Re: Flop Johnson]
#13909307 - 02/05/11 09:12 AM (13 years, 13 days ago) |
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Flop Johnson said: This seems to be a pretty common problem with the human condition.
We often worry about: Politics, God, what others are doing/saying, what the future is going to be like, etc.
While we often neglect: Our health, our jobs, our significant others, ourselves.
I think one possible explanation is that by worrying about things that are out of your control - you don't have to accept responsibility for them when they go wrong. Although that might not be the entire picture.
Why do you think it is?
I don't think it has to do with taking responsibility. I think it mainly has to do with what we can tolerate and what we can't. Letting go is often the hardest thing you can do in life.
We take responsibility for what we have done in the relationship, but we can't tolerate the loss.
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Re: Worrying about what you can't change and neglecting what you can. [Re: ssc18]
#13909316 - 02/05/11 09:14 AM (13 years, 13 days ago) |
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Okay, but how does that apply to other things outside of relationships?
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Re: Worrying about what you can't change and neglecting what you can. [Re: Flop Johnson]
#13909359 - 02/05/11 09:32 AM (13 years, 13 days ago) |
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Flop Johnson said: Okay, but how does that apply to other things outside of relationships?
All the universe is, is relationships.
Yes, you can either tolerate a job loss or you can't except it as being booted.
I don't think it has to do with taking responsibility for it the things you did to get fired.
Not being able to tolerate taking responsibility is why people don't take responsibility, right....
I mean they don't not take responsibility, there has to be a reason why they dont take responsibility. Just like there is a reason why people can't tolerate stuff, because it is too painful.
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Re: Worrying about what you can't change and neglecting what you can. [Re: ssc18]
#13909378 - 02/05/11 09:39 AM (13 years, 13 days ago) |
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I have noticed this dilemma in me. I am aware of all the wrong in the world and I strive to do something about. Unfortunately, there isn't much I can do to change it, but I try to do so anyhow. It consumes me entirely and leaves me sour. The things I can change within me are much more important, to me, and easy to change. I am at a turning point in my life in which I wouldn't neglect my life.
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Re: Worrying about what you can't change and neglecting what you can. [Re: Flop Johnson]
#13909475 - 02/05/11 10:04 AM (13 years, 13 days ago) |
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This seems to be a pretty common problem with the human condition.
We often worry about: Politics, God, what others are doing/saying, what the future is going to be like, etc.
While we often neglect: Our health, our jobs, our significant others, ourselves.
I think one possible explanation is that by worrying about things that are out of your control - you don't have to accept responsibility for them when they go wrong. Although that might not be the entire picture.
Why do you think it is?
Yet, another 'most people' thread... 

Seems you are worrying about what most people worry about.
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Re: Worrying about what you can't change and neglecting what you can. [Re: OrgoneConclusion]
#13909524 - 02/05/11 10:19 AM (13 years, 13 days ago) |
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Between 10-15% of the population is prescribed to anti-depressants and you think it doesn't apply to many?
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Re: Worrying about what you can't change and neglecting what you can. [Re: Flop Johnson]
#13909575 - 02/05/11 10:35 AM (13 years, 13 days ago) |
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Flop Johnson said: Between 10-15% of the population is prescribed to anti-depressants and you think it doesn't apply to many?
And more need them.
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Re: Worrying about what you can't change and neglecting what you can. [Re: ssc18]
#13910005 - 02/05/11 12:01 PM (13 years, 13 days ago) |
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Interesting thread, it is indeed that way in my case, I think you came up with a pretty good idea, thanks for pointing it out I do worry much about things that I can't change, like the past, and now that hyou mention it, if I would only focus on the things that I could change, then I would so much less time worrying. I never stood still and thought about the idea, that i should better spent my time worrying about the future, then the past! My thinking process has just been succesfully updated.
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