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MadSeasonAbove
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I've dated a women with a kid. All I can say is...
NEVER AGAIN!!
All they want is money in the end.
Sorry, but i'm not raising a kid that's not mine, and I sure as hell am not going to shovel money out for the kid too! I spend enough money on women as it is.
relationships in general are expensive, but add a kid in there and you're looking at a whole different realm of this..

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gerryjarcia
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here's an article written from the perspective of a young woman dating an older man with a kid. she's definitely naive and the article is shot through with fantasy novel cliches but it's an interesting read nonetheless (if only for a good laugh):
http://www.salon.com/life/life_stories/index.html?story=/mwt/feature/2011/01/31/stepmother_at_21
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Cynosure
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Re: Single mom, yay or nay? [Re: Eminence]
#13886733 - 02/01/11 09:25 AM (13 years, 24 days ago) |
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frylock91 said: I wouldn't.
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fuzzwhatnot
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Re: Single mom, yay or nay? [Re: Cynosure]
#13887769 - 02/01/11 01:44 PM (13 years, 24 days ago) |
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Looks like I won't. We're were supposed to meet up today and she no call no show'd. fuckin people are weird man, 10 o'clock last night she was ready to go and this morning she's gone - lolz. Nothing in this life of mine means more to me than my word. I don't understand the mentality of a complete and total flake. I'm not mister fuckin chivalry, but if I tell you I'm gonna be somewhere I'm gonna be there come hell or high water. I'm glad I found out how she is early on. Bet that up for all the advice tho homies.
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DrunkenAttempt
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Don't do it man.
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gerryjarcia
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fuzzwhatnot said: Looks like I won't. We're were supposed to meet up today and she no call no show'd. fuckin people are weird man, 10 o'clock last night she was ready to go and this morning she's gone - lolz. Nothing in this life of mine means more to me than my word. I don't understand the mentality of a complete and total flake. I'm not mister fuckin chivalry, but if I tell you I'm gonna be somewhere I'm gonna be there come hell or high water. I'm glad I found out how she is early on. Bet that up for all the advice tho homies.
sucks you got stood up but it was probably for the best
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fuzzwhatnot
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I think so man. Funny I figured I'd be upset about it, but I don't seem to care too much. Just got too much other shit going on to stress over it I dunno
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Acaterpillar
A little mad...



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She will probably hit you up again. And if she's attractive, you'll probably accept. In which case, hit it and leave.
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Bipolarbear
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Re: Single mom, yay or nay? [Re: Tetriana]
#13892433 - 02/02/11 07:38 AM (13 years, 23 days ago) |
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Tetriana said: This thread made me an awful lot.
I can assure you all that a pussy does not turn into a plastic bag after having children. 
Do you have kids and are speaking from personal experience? I steer clear of single moms not because their pussy is all used up (which it probably is) but because of what was outlined in that thesis.
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Tetriana
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Quote:
Bipolarbear said:
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Tetriana said: This thread made me an awful lot.
I can assure you all that a pussy does not turn into a plastic bag after having children. 
Do you have kids and are speaking from personal experience? I steer clear of single moms not because their pussy is all used up (which it probably is) but because of what was outlined in that thesis.
I do have kids, and I am a divorced mother.
That "thesis" made me laugh quite a bit, but I also found it somewhat offensive and full of sweeping generalizations. It's like saying everyone who enjoys drugs are strung out losers who will amount to nothing, which we all know isn't the case. Yet the majority of people within our society seem to be of this opinion. You dig?
Do my children come first? Absolutely, but that is as far as I can relate to that "thesis."
I certainly wouldn't employ any kind of strategy to catch a partner, nor am I interested in even having one for a long time. I enjoy my independence and space entirely too much at this point in my life. I can take care of my children just fine on my own... (without my family who are thousands of miles away, without alimony, without a circle of friends who are also single mothers, etc.) I made the mistake of relying on someone else when I got married. I wouldn't make the same mistake again.
Screw you and your social stigmas.
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nice1
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Re: Single mom, yay or nay? [Re: Tetriana]
#13892776 - 02/02/11 09:38 AM (13 years, 23 days ago) |
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Fair play - fuck stigmas
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ubimarble
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Re: Single mom, yay or nay? [Re: nice1]
#13892789 - 02/02/11 09:42 AM (13 years, 23 days ago) |
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pass it up, on the relationship.
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Lola
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Re: Single mom, yay or nay? [Re: Tetriana]
#13893419 - 02/02/11 12:13 PM (13 years, 23 days ago) |
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Tetriana said:
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Bipolarbear said:
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Tetriana said: This thread made me an awful lot.
I can assure you all that a pussy does not turn into a plastic bag after having children. 
Do you have kids and are speaking from personal experience? I steer clear of single moms not because their pussy is all used up (which it probably is) but because of what was outlined in that thesis.
I do have kids, and I am a divorced mother.
That "thesis" made me laugh quite a bit, but I also found it somewhat offensive and full of sweeping generalizations. It's like saying everyone who enjoys drugs are strung out losers who will amount to nothing, which we all know isn't the case. Yet the majority of people within our society seem to be of this opinion. You dig?
Do my children come first? Absolutely, but that is as far as I can relate to that "thesis."
I certainly wouldn't employ any kind of strategy to catch a partner, nor am I interested in even having one for a long time. I enjoy my independence and space entirely too much at this point in my life. I can take care of my children just fine on my own... (without my family who are thousands of miles away, without alimony, without a circle of friends who are also single mothers, etc.) I made the mistake of relying on someone else when I got married. I wouldn't make the same mistake again.
Screw you and your social stigmas. 
Honey theres no purpose on explaining something to a door is there?The same applies here.
As you know im a mom too.I've always chosen to be a single mom altho the amount of guys that were after me. Till finaly Perun really showed me he was the one and only,and now we're a family.
But that was my decision,he showed and prooved he really wanted the whole package and forever.And he's the daddy of Matt.
Every case is a different case.They're making stupid ignorant stereotypes,like evry single mom is white trailer park trash.
Oh,And Perun can tell these ignorants that my pussy is def not like a plastic bag...
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Re: Single mom, yay or nay? [Re: Lola]
#13893439 - 02/02/11 12:16 PM (13 years, 23 days ago) |
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WOMEN BE HATIN' CUZ OF THERE PLASTIC BAG COOCHEZ
NO NEED TO LIE...
Just kidding. 
I was just pointing out the stereotype to be funneh.
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Re: Single mom, yay or nay? [Re: Tetriana]
#13894807 - 02/02/11 04:57 PM (13 years, 23 days ago) |
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Tetriana said:
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Bipolarbear said:
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Tetriana said: This thread made me an awful lot.
I can assure you all that a pussy does not turn into a plastic bag after having children. 
Do you have kids and are speaking from personal experience? I steer clear of single moms not because their pussy is all used up (which it probably is) but because of what was outlined in that thesis.
I do have kids, and I am a divorced mother.
That "thesis" made me laugh quite a bit, but I also found it somewhat offensive and full of sweeping generalizations. It's like saying everyone who enjoys drugs are strung out losers who will amount to nothing, which we all know isn't the case. Yet the majority of people within our society seem to be of this opinion. You dig?
Do my children come first? Absolutely, but that is as far as I can relate to that "thesis."
I certainly wouldn't employ any kind of strategy to catch a partner, nor am I interested in even having one for a long time. I enjoy my independence and space entirely too much at this point in my life. I can take care of my children just fine on my own... (without my family who are thousands of miles away, without alimony, without a circle of friends who are also single mothers, etc.) I made the mistake of relying on someone else when I got married. I wouldn't make the same mistake again.
Screw you and your social stigmas. 
Of course it's full of sweeping generalizations he said at the beginning this is just a rough outline. I don't believe that the majority of single mothers have a damn playbook or consciously try to entrap a new dad but with that there are exceptions to that too. Most single moms, I believe, will try and meet someone new and subconsciously attempt to lure men into their life because they want the whole package. They aren't doing it for a nefarious reason but it's that the means might not justify the ends when looking at it from a different perspective. They probably want a man around the house for a lover, for a shoulder to cry on, to help fix up the house, to be a father to their children. All fine things. I see the guide as a warning as for single men to know what they're getting into as the single moms might not understand the depths of their needs and how it'll play out because they will always see that their children come first. That alone is putting the man in the backseat so to speak and that is what men should know beforehand.
It's not a nefarious plot for most moms I would think but it's people making the most of their situation.
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And for the record I think social stigmas are created because a pattern has emerged that people took notice of and saw actions that could be predicted. Racism is a prime example. All blacks are illiterate. All asians are suspicious. All whites are evil. All mexicans are poor. etc. etc. etc.
People see trends and they talk about them. It's part of human nature to see patterns and say "Hey you ever notice _______." So when enough single moms have had a bad rep of screwing single guys over a stigma or a pattern or a sexist or a racist remark occurs. You could say gah you're so judgy and putting labels on me and stigmatizing this and that but by doing so it's just the inverse of labeling and it's not escaping it. You're still going to write off people who label others which is funny because you are writing off a group of people for a certain behavior when you're doing the exact same thing.
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