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Re: I did something very bad last night... [Re: jarby]
#1358697 - 03/08/03 03:28 PM (21 years, 25 days ago) |
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He IS gay, he just feels ashamed of what he did. Just remember, what's happened is in the past, so move on and learn from your mistakes.
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Re: I did something very bad last night... [Re: RebelSteve33]
#1359158 - 03/08/03 09:03 PM (21 years, 25 days ago) |
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Ha ha ha ha lol that was a good read.. Especily after your first thread here.Looks like your finding your feet.
Ah the joys of beer lol.Youll look back on this and laugth in a year or two. Even within a week you wont feel like it was so dirty a thing to do.
Dam enjoy your youth while you have it..Only worrie about such things if you make them a habit...
Good luck with life steve.
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Asante
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Re: I did something very bad last night... [Re: RebelSteve33]
#1364310 - 03/10/03 10:35 PM (21 years, 23 days ago) |
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I'm not a regular imbider, but when I drink it can be quite much for my standards. Nevertheless I've never lost my inhibitions really far, nor have I gotten into bar fights etc. Everybody reacts differently to alcohol, but you really should be careful with it. We Dutch have a saying: "Children and drunks always speak the truth", meaning that if you're intoxicated you're still YOU.
"Dirty, disgusting.." Do you mean the gay/bi-curious part or that no love was involved other than the heat of the moment?
I strongly believe what happens between mutually consenting adults is 100% OK even if this involves man2man sex, being an Assgoblin myself & being at peace with that I can say it's a good thing. But I find sex for fuck's sake totally meaningless. If sex is the outcome of friendship deepening beyond the boundaries of love I think it's Divine, but casual sex whilst inebriated & regretting it later would make me feel like shit too. I know alot of people (gay or straight) are into that casual thingie, but it's just not for me.
Some sage once said: "If you really can't change it, stop worrying about it as this'll only make you less happy" That might be culinary sage wisdom to you, but I really believe it's true. Try to find peace with yourself & what happened. We're all here to help you
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Re: I did something very bad last night... [Re: Asante]
#1364414 - 03/11/03 12:17 AM (21 years, 23 days ago) |
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Re: I did something very bad last night... [Re: ]
#1367515 - 03/11/03 10:54 PM (21 years, 22 days ago) |
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when something like that happens one of the following three things will happen:
1.) you will realize that what you did was not worth repeating and accept that you let it happen so that you would know for sure. 2.) you will worry about why you did it, worry about the morality of it, worry that it says something bad about your character, and remain in turmoil for a long time. 3.) you will decide that it was a realization of a part of your character and accept the repercussions of it on your lifestyle.
i recomend either 1 or 3. the second will lead only to more self doubt and anger. these options apply to most any uncomfortable experience, as discomfort is a telltale sigh of growth.
i wish you ggod luck on your path.
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RebelSteve33
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Re: I did something very bad last night... [Re: canid]
#1368109 - 03/12/03 04:57 AM (21 years, 22 days ago) |
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Thank you, everyone, for your supportive comments! I can already look back at the experience and laugh about it! I made this post the day after the experience occurred, and I was still rather shaken up about it then. Now I realize it was just a stupid, drunken mistake that I will (hopefully) not repeat in the future.
For me, casual sex (especially drunken casual sex that involves me on my knees in the snow of a dark alleyway) is not an "okay" thing, and that is why I was so upset about what I did. Like I said, though, I've accepted the mistake I've made and there is no lasting damage. I see it as a learning experience.
You guys all rock for responding to my post!
I actually thought this forum was a bit silly when it was first created, but the responses to the two posts I have made here have really helped me a lot!
Thanks again you guys! Keep being awesome!
-RebelSteve
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Re: I did something very bad last night... [Re: RebelSteve33]
#1368576 - 03/12/03 07:53 AM (21 years, 21 days ago) |
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Re: I did something very bad last night... [Re: RebelSteve33]
#1816229 - 08/15/03 06:44 AM (20 years, 7 months ago) |
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It happens that Awesome is my middle name..
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Re: I did something very bad last night... [Re: RebelSteve33]
#1816242 - 08/15/03 07:03 AM (20 years, 7 months ago) |
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RebelSteve33!!!!
Heres a hug for you----> ((((((((((RebelSteve33))))))))))
I understand how you are feeling! I can't count the number of times where I've done regrettable things while drunk! Probably the reason I don't drink much anymore...
Everyone makes mistakes! You're human too...
Life goes on...
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Re: I did something very bad last night... [Re: RebelSteve33]
#1816323 - 08/15/03 08:00 AM (20 years, 7 months ago) |
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down with the white man's guilt you should feel no wrong you did nothing wrong society conditioned you to believe there's a certain way things should proceed sexually and if they don't then you're going to feel real guilty, but those certain ways will never be the gay way, and i tell you, that was a really hot story, and the only way to end it is to realize that it was kind of hot. maybe one day you won't need the alcohol to do exactly what you wanted to do and the tension between your varied senses of self will ease up. listen to the alcohol, bro, march straight ahead, err gaiely forward... you'll get over whatever it is you're going through.
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Re: I did something very bad last night... [Re: Fliquid]
#1817193 - 08/15/03 02:06 PM (20 years, 7 months ago) |
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why did you decide to up this 5 months later? anyways, you should have got the guy to go down on you. then you wouldn't feel bad. at least you didn't take it in the ass for no reason. that would have been worse, cause then you'd have had to get tested and prolly have aids if you didn't have condoms.
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Re: I did something very bad last night... [Re: RebelSteve33]
#1817377 - 08/15/03 03:03 PM (20 years, 7 months ago) |
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edit: damn. apparently this was already well-answered 5 months ago :x .. thatll teach me for replying first learn from this, but don't shun anything because of it.. when we do things we want to regret, that make us feel like hiding in the shadows and disappearing then we are given more reason to be happy [/cryptic] i cant explain why, but the more I do things I'd pretty much regret, the happier and generally more in control I am. Don't be hard on yourself at all.. embrace EVERYTHING you ever do, and the reasons are entirely yours, and no matter what the reason- it's perfect because it's yours and in you.. ie, everything you do is perfect because YOU have done it, and only you would have done it that way
Edited by Morrowind (08/15/03 03:05 PM)
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RebelSteve33
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Re: I did something very bad last night... [Re: ]
#1817613 - 08/15/03 04:06 PM (20 years, 7 months ago) |
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wow...
i'm kind of embarrassed this post got brought back from the dead, but the new replies have some really wise words in them.
once again, you people rock!
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Re: I did something very bad last night... [Re: RebelSteve33]
#1817779 - 08/15/03 04:54 PM (20 years, 7 months ago) |
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Hey, it's not like you hurt anybody. Chalk it up to experience.
I've done similar dumb things, and I got over them.
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