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How to get over a 2 year relationship?
#13480038 - 11/13/10 08:00 PM (13 years, 7 months ago) |
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Ive been with this girl for a little over 2 years, and i love her to death, but some shit happened. We've been fighting alot lately, and just haven't been able to see each other. just so much shit. So its just not working anymore. Long story short. Im still in love with this girl, and we broke up, how can i get over her? she was my life.
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Re: How to get over a 2 year relationship? [Re: Legend]
#13480049 - 11/13/10 08:02 PM (13 years, 7 months ago) |
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Cut off all contact with her, and then just let time do its thing.
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Re: How to get over a 2 year relationship? [Re: Legend]
#13480054 - 11/13/10 08:03 PM (13 years, 7 months ago) |
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I was in the same situation for a while
I went out with a girl for 1 year 11 months then we broke up.
I was depressed allot for the first couple months, a year has passed and im still not fully over it. Im over it for the most part. I started doing allot of things to get my mind off of it, start making new friends, going new places, doing new things. Finding a hobby is a good one.
CUT ALL CONTACTS UNTILL YOU GET OVER IT. I'm saying this from experience, it causes allot of drama/frustration most of the time. There's allot of girls out there, try not to see her as the only one.
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Re: How to get over a 2 year relationship? [Re: Zardos]
#13480090 - 11/13/10 08:11 PM (13 years, 7 months ago) |
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you must cut all contacts. it will really hurt you if u dont. even if that means facebook. its still gonna suck, but find other girls, get laid. it will help. either way, time heals
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Re: How to get over a 2 year relationship? [Re: Zardos]
#13480097 - 11/13/10 08:13 PM (13 years, 7 months ago) |
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nothing will work if you still love her, sorry.
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Re: How to get over a 2 year relationship? [Re: dshow]
#13480100 - 11/13/10 08:14 PM (13 years, 7 months ago) |
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You dont have to cut all contact off, just become her friend. There is no need to create all this "relationship" nonsense. You have to be emotionally independent and mature if your gonna have any chance at having a real relationship.
Learn to have fun with yourself, who cares what she thinks, you decide your life not her.
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Re: How to get over a 2 year relationship? [Re: p4kSouL]
#13480115 - 11/13/10 08:16 PM (13 years, 7 months ago) |
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Go date someone else, anyone will do, you need temporary relief, plus if you find someone it will make her jealous.
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Re: How to get over a 2 year relationship? [Re: lazyfingers]
#13480124 - 11/13/10 08:18 PM (13 years, 7 months ago) |
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Dont play games, just do what you want to do its about what you want in your life not her, your life is your responsiblity. Be nice and respectful, but let it go and find someone else. There is tons of interesting people out there.
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Re: How to get over a 2 year relationship? [Re: p4kSouL]
#13480171 - 11/13/10 08:28 PM (13 years, 7 months ago) |
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its just so much change, it was like she was mine, and we were each other. She was comfortable. She was safe, she knew me, and i knew her. Its just idk this is so much
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Re: How to get over a 2 year relationship? [Re: p4kSouL]
#13480177 - 11/13/10 08:28 PM (13 years, 7 months ago) |
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Pretty much nothing but time and ceasing contact with her is going to help you, man. I went through it after a 2 1/2 year relationship and it was the worst. Try not to let it fuck you up as much as you can, because you're going to eventually find another girl that really suits you better at the end of all this.
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Re: How to get over a 2 year relationship? [Re: abltsandwich]
#13480205 - 11/13/10 08:34 PM (13 years, 7 months ago) |
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it seems like i dont want to find anyone else, i just dont think it is possible
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Re: How to get over a 2 year relationship? [Re: Legend]
#13480235 - 11/13/10 08:42 PM (13 years, 7 months ago) |
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Do you live with her? When my last relationship ended I had to live with my ex for like 4 months because we both had nowhere else to go. I wish that on no one.
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Re: How to get over a 2 year relationship? [Re: Legend]
#13480252 - 11/13/10 08:48 PM (13 years, 7 months ago) |
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legit27 said: Ive been with this girl for a little over 2 years, and i love her to death, but some shit happened. We've been fighting alot lately, and just haven't been able to see each other. just so much shit. So its just not working anymore. Long story short. Im still in love with this girl, and we broke up, how can i get over her? she was my life.
Damn I just dealt with some truly similar shit. But my girl and I made amends. I thought I made the right decision by dumping her. But then when she was gone, I felt so incredibly horrible. It wasn't right. I had to get her back.
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Re: How to get over a 2 year relationship? [Re: DeadHearts]
#13480287 - 11/13/10 08:56 PM (13 years, 7 months ago) |
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no we do not live together
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Re: How to get over a 2 year relationship? [Re: Legend]
#13480307 - 11/13/10 09:01 PM (13 years, 7 months ago) |
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legit27 said: it seems like i dont want to find anyone else, i just dont think it is possible
Listen. This happens to everybody. Cut all contacts with her and get over it (you will). What else is there to say?
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Re: How to get over a 2 year relationship? [Re: Grizvok]
#13480402 - 11/13/10 09:27 PM (13 years, 7 months ago) |
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   this is what i'm gunna do soon enough.
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Re: How to get over a 2 year relationship? [Re: JesusGoneRogue]
#13480444 - 11/13/10 09:39 PM (13 years, 7 months ago) |
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this does
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Re: How to get over a 2 year relationship? [Re: Legend]
#13480460 - 11/13/10 09:44 PM (13 years, 7 months ago) |
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Don't suppose you have a fuck buddy you could call? Putting your dick in someone else is the quick road to recovery.
Seriously though. Go hang out with your friends and have a good time. Go places that she didn't like to go very often. Bars, sci-fi movies, thai food. Whatever it was that you compromised on... Now you don't have to. Go have some fun.
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Re: How to get over a 2 year relationship? [Re: ShockValue]
#13480480 - 11/13/10 09:49 PM (13 years, 7 months ago) |
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ShockValue said: Don't suppose you have a fuck buddy you could call? Putting your dick in someone else is the quick road to recovery.
Seriously though. Go hang out with your friends and have a good time. Go places that she didn't like to go very often. Bars, sci-fi movies, thai food. Whatever it was that you compromised on... Now you don't have to. Go have some fun.
1.i wish i did, but i lost her a while ago.and didnt really care since i had a girlfriend. but now i see i shouldve kept her around.
2.the only thing i wasnt really aloud to do, is drugs. and now i have some heart problems (no diganosed) so i cant get fucked up. im thinking about drinking alot with some friends tonight though.
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Re: How to get over a 2 year relationship? [Re: Legend]
#13480491 - 11/13/10 09:51 PM (13 years, 7 months ago) |
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Alcohol in a depressed and "i just broke up" state is a dangerous line. Don't go overboard.
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Re: How to get over a 2 year relationship? [Re: ShockValue]
#13480508 - 11/13/10 09:55 PM (13 years, 7 months ago) |
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ShockValue said: Alcohol in a depressed and "i just broke up" state is a dangerous line. Don't go overboard.
its all i can think of doing, besides maybe painkillers.
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Re: How to get over a 2 year relationship? *DELETED* [Re: Legend]
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Re: How to get over a 2 year relationship? [Re: civil twilight]
#13482468 - 11/14/10 11:36 AM (13 years, 7 months ago) |
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i dont want to feel like this forever. Ive had other relationships, that i thought i was "in love" but we broke up i was sad but it never compared to this. That feeling of love wasnt the same as this. She doesnt love me anymore, the same way i love her. She wants to see another guy that she likes, and see if she misses me. She said she hasnt felt the same about me for acouple months. I dont know what to think just on halloween she would tell me i was stuck with her forever, and that she would tell me about how she loved me and everything. I want her to have those feelings back, i need her back. But i dont think there is anything to do. I dont think im getting over her.
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Re: How to get over a 2 year relationship? [Re: Legend]
#13482482 - 11/14/10 11:38 AM (13 years, 7 months ago) |
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move on
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Re: How to get over a 2 year relationship? [Re: Shroomism]
#13482492 - 11/14/10 11:40 AM (13 years, 7 months ago) |
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Well, remember what it was like Before you were even looking for a girlfriend? When you had your other concerns? You had friends and things you went and hung out with and made plans with? You'll have to start doing that. It'll be your initiative.
I got lucky with my last ex, she was a psycho and I hated her before we broke up, so the only thing I had to recover was having my pride and self esteem demolished by the cunt, I had to relearn what both those were.
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Re: How to get over a 2 year relationship? [Re: Maverick]
#13482510 - 11/14/10 11:43 AM (13 years, 7 months ago) |
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DRTMaverick said: Well, remember what it was like Before you were even looking for a girlfriend? When you had your other concerns? You had friends and things you went and hung out with and made plans with? You'll have to start doing that. It'll be your initiative.
you know what sucks though? my girlfriend is close with all my friends. So its going to suck. especially if she brings her new boyfriend around us. We are sort of like that 70's show group so theres really no getting away. its been so long since i was actually looking i dont even realize what it was like
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Re: How to get over a 2 year relationship? [Re: Legend]
#13482515 - 11/14/10 11:44 AM (13 years, 7 months ago) |
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My friends all hated my ex. Heheh I got lucky there again.
You could move. :p
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Re: How to get over a 2 year relationship? [Re: Shroomism]
#13482516 - 11/14/10 11:45 AM (13 years, 7 months ago) |
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Shroomism said: move on
easy to say when you have a girlfriend
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Re: How to get over a 2 year relationship? [Re: AntiEverything]
#13482519 - 11/14/10 11:46 AM (13 years, 7 months ago) |
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easy to say when you can do drugs
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Re: How to get over a 2 year relationship? [Re: Legend]
#13482587 - 11/14/10 12:01 PM (13 years, 7 months ago) |
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DRTMaverick said: Well, remember what it was like Before you were even looking for a girlfriend? When you had your other concerns? You had friends and things you went and hung out with and made plans with? You'll have to start doing that. It'll be your initiative.
you know what sucks though? my girlfriend is close with all my friends. So its going to suck. especially if she brings her new boyfriend around us. We are sort of like that 70's show group so theres really no getting away. its been so long since i was actually looking i dont even realize what it was like 
Same thing happened to me somewhat recently. I cut off my ex and our mutual friends. Sucks but, at least in my case, I had to cut the tumor. Unfortunately some healthy cells had to go.
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Just focus on what you didn't have in common. focus on the people who make you feel good and appreciate you. In time you'll be able to remember the good stuff and it won't hurt as much. it'll always hurt a little but like everything we build tolerance to it.
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Re: How to get over a 2 year relationship? [Re: Legend]
#13482650 - 11/14/10 12:21 PM (13 years, 7 months ago) |
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Shroomism said: move on
easy to say when you can do drugs
drugs never solved the problem for me.
you just have to ignore her. work on you for now, be the best that you can be, but don't fake it over facebook or pretend to overcome, actually do it and follow through. be better than her and her new relationship, make her want you back with how badass you are. it seems like an uphill struggle but overtime you are going to get over this. making new friends and starting new projects will keep your mind focused on the present, not on the past! before long you will forget all about why you were so deppressed...
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Re: How to get over a 2 year relationship? [Re: Legend]
#13482874 - 11/14/10 01:22 PM (13 years, 7 months ago) |
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Now you know why people kill their spouse. Its hard to get over, especially if she still loves you. I've tried to break up with my girlfriend like 10 times over the past 6 months. I have issues because she is crazy though half the month, not because I don't want to be with her.
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Re: How to get over a 2 year relationship? [Re: fapjack]
#13483029 - 11/14/10 02:05 PM (13 years, 7 months ago) |
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It sucks. There is no quick fix for this kind of shit.
The only answer is time.
Most of us have been there, where you are duder. Just takes a lot of time.
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Re: How to get over a 2 year relationship? [Re: AntiEverything]
#13483066 - 11/14/10 02:15 PM (13 years, 7 months ago) |
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easy to say when you can do drugs
drugs never solved the problem for me.
you just have to ignore her. work on you for now, be the best that you can be, but don't fake it over facebook or pretend to overcome, actually do it and follow through. be better than her and her new relationship, make her want you back with how badass you are. it seems like an uphill struggle but overtime you are going to get over this. making new friends and starting new projects will keep your mind focused on the present, not on the past! before long you will forget all about why you were so deppressed...
This. I was in a relationship with the chick I thought I'd marry someday for 2.5 years, and it all fell apart within about 2 months (I'd already bought her an xmas present... there goes $400). Took me about a year (long time, I know) to really 100% get back on my feet after.
Really, you'll have fuckloads of free time now, so start using it. Get into a hobby/sport/etc. Anything with some physical exertion is always good for helping you feel better.
About... 4 months (and 6, and 15..) after we broke off, she came back, along the lines of 'i did date one guy, but I just kept comparing him to you, and it just wasn't the same', asking if I wanted to give it another shot. I stayed friendly and all, hell we even went for coffee once, but no way any bitch is gonna run around like that and expect me to take her back like nothing happened. She had and lost her chance with me, too bad, I was dating someone MUCH better about 1.5 years after (and I really took my time, I was a totally different person for the better after that time). Long distance now, but still happy.
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Re: How to get over a 2 year relationship? [Re: Watchtower]
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Drugs can help short-term, the long-term fix is to fill up your time. That's what life's about man, filling those gaps, staying occupied whether that be focusing on being nothing or being the CEO of Enron you gotta have goals and priorities and responsibilities that allow and require you to fluidly locate your time through the day towards different projects.
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Re: How to get over a 2 year relationship? [Re: AntiEverything]
#13487324 - 11/15/10 11:36 AM (13 years, 7 months ago) |
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Shroomism said: move on
easy to say when you have a girlfriend
I speak from experience. I've had to move on plenty of times. From everything he said in the post, this chick is not worth pursuing if she doesn't want it. He's just going to set himself up for more disappointment most likely
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Re: How to get over a 2 year relationship? [Re: Legend]
#13487364 - 11/15/10 11:48 AM (13 years, 7 months ago) |
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legit27 said: i dont want to feel like this forever. Ive had other relationships, that i thought i was "in love" but we broke up i was sad but it never compared to this. That feeling of love wasnt the same as this. She doesnt love me anymore, the same way i love her. She wants to see another guy that she likes, and see if she misses me. She said she hasnt felt the same about me for acouple months. I dont know what to think just on halloween she would tell me i was stuck with her forever, and that she would tell me about how she loved me and everything. I want her to have those feelings back, i need her back. But i dont think there is anything to do. I dont think im getting over her.
if she's gunna be seeing other guys, REFUSE to talk to her. if she calls give one word responses. be short with her and try to get her off the phone asap. I broke up with this girl once (although nothing even close to a two year relationship) and kept talking to her, which helped her with her feelings of missing me, and also made me miserable. not the situation you want. she was also dating another guy.
you want the opposite of that situation. make her realize how much she misses you by showing her what her life is like without you in it.
Also, what AntiEverything said:
"you just have to ignore her. work on you for now, be the best that you can be, but don't fake it over facebook or pretend to overcome, actually do it and follow through. be better than her and her new relationship, make her want you back with how badass you are. it seems like an uphill struggle but overtime you are going to get over this. making new friends and starting new projects will keep your mind focused on the present, not on the past! before long you will forget all about why you were so deppressed..."
-------------------- Kick is seeing things from a special angle. Kick is momentary freedom from the claims of the aging, cautious, nagging, frightened flesh. Maybe I will find in yage what I was looking for in junk and weed and coke. Yage may be the final fix. ~William S. Burroughs
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Re: How to get over a 2 year relationship? [Re: StaleShrooms]
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