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#13477728 - 11/13/10 10:12 AM (13 years, 7 months ago) |
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How do you all feel about having more than one spouse? Could you live that lifestyle? Do you think the economic benefits of having more than 2 paychecks per household could cancel out the jealousy factor that could sometimes be involved with this type of relationship?
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Hmm.. I don't think I could live a polyamorous lifestyle myself. It would be cool to have more paychecks coming in, but I think someone would inevitably be unhappy at some point.
On another note.. I wonder if it's common or legal anywhere for a woman to have multiple husbands?
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Re: Plural marriage [Re: Tetriana]
#13477764 - 11/13/10 10:20 AM (13 years, 7 months ago) |
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Tetriana said: I wonder if it's common or legal anywhere for a woman to have multiple husbands?
Me too. That's the only way I could do it. I wouldn't want to be one of many wives but having 3 or 4 husbands would be cool.
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Hell yeah! The only thing that may be problematic is paternity if you decide to have children.
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can you legally do this? maybe in Utah..
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Re: Plural marriage [Re: Tetriana]
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I don't want kids but there would be a way to work that out don't you think?
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Re: Plural marriage [Re: Rebirtha]
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Rebirtha said: can you legally do this? maybe in Utah..
You can have multiple wives in Utah.. not sure about husbands.
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Re: Plural marriage [Re: Rebirtha]
#13477798 - 11/13/10 10:28 AM (13 years, 7 months ago) |
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Rebirtha said: can you legally do this? maybe in Utah..
It's popular practice with the Mormons in Utah but I don't think it's legal. They also marry young girls sometimes and sisters are often married to the same, usually much older man. That registers as icky to me. I wouldn't want it that way and there could be no form of organized religion involved in my perfect scenario.
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I've been married and that one husband was more than enough for me! It's easier to take care of couple of kids than one of those creatures. But if it was such marriage that they would live in their own households, cook their own foods and wash their own clothes, I could of course have maybe 3-4 husbands
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Yeah it's not legal in any of the USA and it's called polygamy
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MissShroom said: I've been married and that one husband was more than enough for me!
I was gonna say... one is usually too many, why punish yourself even worse
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MissShroom said: I've been married and that one husband was more than enough for me!
I was gonna say... one is usually too many, why punish yourself even worse
I sometimes think it could be cool if I found a few good guys and they all got along great. With all our salaries combined we could live like royalty and if everyone involved was respectful of each others boundaries and shared in the household responsibilities then life could be rather easy and exciting. I know it's not legal but that could work to our advantage as well. Since the marriage would never be recognized on paper it would make getting out of it pretty easy in the case of things not working out. Plus, if we never actually had a ceremony then technically we broke no laws.
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Re: Plural marriage [Re: Tetriana]
#13479707 - 11/13/10 06:41 PM (13 years, 7 months ago) |
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Tetriana said: On another note.. I wonder if it's common or legal anywhere for a woman to have multiple husbands?
I remember I had a teacher who talked about this once. She said that pretty much the only society where that happens is this one tribe that lives at the base of the himalayans. Apparently the reason is because they have a shortage of land to pass down to younger generations, so this way, they let three guys or whatever marry one daughter, then they all share the same piece of land.
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Wow that's interesting. Do you remember the name of the tribe? I'd like to read more about it and how it works out for them.
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I could definitely get used to having a bunch of different wives, especially if they were open to us all having sex at once.
But I'd prefer a single partner, much less to worry about that way.
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But I'd prefer a single partner, much less to worry about that way.
If everyone got tested first and no one had sex with anyone from outside of the marriage there would be alot less to worry about. I think it could work providing the right people were involved.
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Yeah, it could be a pretty good situation for everyone. It would help financially, you have a lot of different genetic options for your offspring, there would be less work to be done around the house with 3 or 4 wives.
Plus, like I said, basically orgies.
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I was thinking about this the other day and I can't see why polygamy is illegal. I mean, a lot people have children with a multiple partners, only they are all separated and make things harder on one another. At least in a polygamist relationship everyone helps out to make the unit stronger. I was thinking I could use another wife myself, not for the sexual aspect of things, but just to have another set of hands that could clean the house up I don't even care for the extra paycheck.. I just want the dishes and laundry to be clean 
I guess what I would really like is just a community of people on the same wavelength that would help one another out..
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Re: Plural marriage [Re: trampis]
#13479972 - 11/13/10 07:47 PM (13 years, 7 months ago) |
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trampis said: I guess what I would really like is just a community of people on the same wavelength that would help one another out..
This is kind of what I want too. It just makes sense to me.
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OctoberLeigh said: Wow that's interesting. Do you remember the name of the tribe? I'd like to read more about it and how it works out for them.
I don't remember their name, or much else about them. But I think one key thing that would help it work for them is just the fact that it's considered normal for them, and it's what is expected. I'm sure there are some problems and arguments, but since they don't have much of an option, I would imagine that they generaly make it work. People are known to put up with all sorts of shit when it's considered normal.
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Tetriana said: On another note.. I wonder if it's common or legal anywhere for a woman to have multiple husbands?
I remember I had a teacher who talked about this once. She said that pretty much the only society where that happens is this one tribe that lives at the base of the himalayans. Apparently the reason is because they have a shortage of land to pass down to younger generations, so this way, they let three guys or whatever marry one daughter, then they all share the same piece of land.
yeah, studied that tribe in anthropology class for a week.
it seemed an awful lot like it sucked though.
i wouldn't be able to do it myself. maybe if she were rich and supported us all.
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shadowplay said: I would imagine that they generaly make it work. People are known to put up with all sorts of shit when it's considered normal.
That's the key right there I think. For this to work in our society where it is not considered "normal" the egos of all parties involved would need to be reconditioned in some way. It's a fun thing to think about sometimes for me.
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OctoberLeigh said: How do you all feel about having more than one spouse? Could you live that lifestyle? Do you think the economic benefits of having more than 2 paychecks per household could cancel out the jealousy factor that could sometimes be involved with this type of relationship?
It would work for me if the other women were extremely close to me and I loved them and could get it on with them on occasion.
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Re: Plural marriage [Re: MOTH]
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It would work for me if the other women were extremely close to me and I loved them and could get it on with them on occasion.
Agreed. Some of the other women would have to be bi so that everyone would be kept happy. Also, another idea for all of this would be a group of men and women all married to each other. The men would all be straight guys who liked bi girls and the girls would all be bi. This scenario could be nice as well providing everyone was attracted to each other. New members would need to be voted in at a "family meeting" and the results of the vote should be unanimous.
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something similar to Heinlein's "Stranger in a Strange Land" or "Time Enough For Love" both sound good to me, however they are fictional "utopias".
in reality, in the USA, I think it would be hard to structure a family unit like this without some hardcore problems arising, but I think they are all associated with the stigmas and prejudices that we as a nation have developed about sexuality, marriage, and to an extent, property, and not due to inherent flaws in design.
I used to watch HBO's "Big Love" because I found the dynamics between the husband and three wives fascinating. of course the show eventually devolved into soap opera style melodrama, but the early seasons were a great example of a polygamous relationship (or at least one worth watching).
this all being said, I wouldn't necessarily turn down the opportunity to try a situation, but I think it depends more on the people involved than the guy/girl ratio, just like any other marriage.
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Big Love was a great show and I agree the earlier episodes were the best. My scenario wouldn't be like that at all though. I'm not a fan of the religion part and I don't think children should be involved in any way. But that show was awesome.
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OctoberLeigh said: How do you all feel about having more than one spouse? Could you live that lifestyle? Do you think the economic benefits of having more than 2 paychecks per household could cancel out the jealousy factor that could sometimes be involved with this type of relationship?
It would work for me if the other women were extremely close to me and I loved them and could get it on with them on occasion.
Agreed. Some of the other women would have to be bi so that everyone would be kept happy. Also, another idea for all of this would be a group of men and women all married to each other. The men would all be straight guys who liked bi girls and the girls would all be bi. This scenario could be nice as well providing everyone was attracted to each other. New members would need to be voted in at a "family meeting" and the results of the vote should be unanimous.
I think a bisexual unit of poly-amorous people could definitely make this work.
I love men and women both.
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Re: Plural marriage [Re: MOTH]
#13480466 - 11/13/10 09:47 PM (13 years, 7 months ago) |
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Fuck that. 1 wife is 1 too many. And I'm a happily married man.
I'm not being trying to sexist either. I'm sure if I was female, I'd say the same thing about husbands.
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No disrespect man but if you are "happily married" how is one wife one too many?
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I love my wife. She's a cool gal and we compliment each other pretty well.
However, the older I get, the more I really enjoy my "me" time. I often wonder what life would be like if I wouldn't have "settled down".
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I hear that. I've lived completely alone since I was 17 and I'm 34 now so I've come to treasure my "me time". Why don't your wife talk about this and try out a situation where you spend 24 hours apart each week with no contact at all. It may be good for each of you and may even add a new appreciation and respect to your relationship and your love.
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ShockValue said: I love my wife. She's a cool gal and we compliment each other pretty well.
However, the older I get, the more I really enjoy my "me" time. I often wonder what life would be like if I wouldn't have "settled down".
I got married very early (like 18) so I definitely feel like I "missed out" on all life has to offer.
I love my partner, but I am craving to explore other people.
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Re: Plural marriage [Re: MOTH]
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MOTH said: I got married very early (like 18) so I definitely feel like I "missed out" on all life has to offer.
I love my partner, but I am craving to explore other people.
Does your patner feel the same?
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MOTH said: I got married very early (like 18) so I definitely feel like I "missed out" on all life has to offer.
I love my partner, but I am craving to explore other people.
Does your patner feel the same?
Sometimes he says so, sometimes he says he only wants to be with me. Recently I've realized I must break free, so I'm not sure what that means for my relationship, but I don't really care because I have trust in my Self.
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Re: Plural marriage [Re: MOTH]
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Wow that's a tough situation. I hope it all works out for you both.
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OctoberLeigh said: Wow that's a tough situation. I hope it all works out for you both.
Thanks. Actually it's not as tough as it seems from the outside. We both love each other. I still love him, but I have to do what's best for myself and my life experience.
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Re: Plural marriage [Re: MOTH]
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Love is an all important thing and I've found that not honoring your love for yourself can be just as bad if not worse than not honoring your love for someone else. Do what's best for you now. As long as you are open and honest and the rest will work itself out. Best of luck.
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Re: Plural marriage [Re: Tetriana]
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Tetriana said: Hmm.. I don't think I could live a polyamorous lifestyle myself. It would be cool to have more paychecks coming in, but I think someone would inevitably be unhappy at some point.
On another note.. I wonder if it's common or legal anywhere for a woman to have multiple husbands?
It seems like someone is inevitably unhappy anyway. Have you seen the divorce rates these days.
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Re: Plural marriage [Re: Enjoywho]
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Enjoywho said: It seems like someone is inevitably unhappy anyway. Have you seen the divorce rates these days. 
This is my point exactly. The "normal" way of doing things doesn't seem to be working anymore so why not try something new?
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I'd be down, like a small communion of people, 10-20 1:1 male/female ratio. That would actually be pretty sick.
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Enjoywho said: It seems like someone is inevitably unhappy anyway. Have you seen the divorce rates these days. 
This is my point exactly. The "normal" way of doing things doesn't seem to be working anymore so why not try something new?
I like the way you think. 
I am all about trying new things.
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Re: Plural marriage [Re: Enjoywho]
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Wow, I love women, but more than one wife would drive me mad. I'd end up like Darth Sidious.
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Caribbean_Commanch said: Wow, I love women, but more than one wife would drive me mad. I'd end up like Darth Sidious.
That's why I said like a communion of people, so it would be more like your a big group of best friends, I think it would be less stressful not having to worry about just one person, but knowing that everyones committed to the advancement and interests of the group.
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Re: Plural marriage [Re: Enjoywho]
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Exactly. Small enough to be a tight family but large enough to explore a variety of new benefits and possibilities.
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Mmmhmmm, me and you sir, are on the same page.
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Re: Plural marriage [Re: Enjoywho]
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Lol...I'm a chick but you can call me "sir" if it makes you happy.
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OctoberLeigh said: Exactly. Small enough to be a tight family but large enough to explore a variety of new benefits and possibilities. 
That turns me on just thinking about it!!
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Well my mistake miss.
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Re: Plural marriage [Re: Enjoywho]
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Lol... no worries.
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