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Tetriana said: On another note.. I wonder if it's common or legal anywhere for a woman to have multiple husbands?
I remember I had a teacher who talked about this once. She said that pretty much the only society where that happens is this one tribe that lives at the base of the himalayans. Apparently the reason is because they have a shortage of land to pass down to younger generations, so this way, they let three guys or whatever marry one daughter, then they all share the same piece of land.
yeah, studied that tribe in anthropology class for a week.
it seemed an awful lot like it sucked though.
i wouldn't be able to do it myself. maybe if she were rich and supported us all.
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shadowplay said: I would imagine that they generaly make it work. People are known to put up with all sorts of shit when it's considered normal.
That's the key right there I think. For this to work in our society where it is not considered "normal" the egos of all parties involved would need to be reconditioned in some way. It's a fun thing to think about sometimes for me.
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OctoberLeigh said: How do you all feel about having more than one spouse? Could you live that lifestyle? Do you think the economic benefits of having more than 2 paychecks per household could cancel out the jealousy factor that could sometimes be involved with this type of relationship?
It would work for me if the other women were extremely close to me and I loved them and could get it on with them on occasion.
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Re: Plural marriage [Re: MOTH]
#13480373 - 11/13/10 09:18 PM (13 years, 7 months ago) |
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OctoberLeigh said: How do you all feel about having more than one spouse? Could you live that lifestyle? Do you think the economic benefits of having more than 2 paychecks per household could cancel out the jealousy factor that could sometimes be involved with this type of relationship?
It would work for me if the other women were extremely close to me and I loved them and could get it on with them on occasion.
Agreed. Some of the other women would have to be bi so that everyone would be kept happy. Also, another idea for all of this would be a group of men and women all married to each other. The men would all be straight guys who liked bi girls and the girls would all be bi. This scenario could be nice as well providing everyone was attracted to each other. New members would need to be voted in at a "family meeting" and the results of the vote should be unanimous.
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something similar to Heinlein's "Stranger in a Strange Land" or "Time Enough For Love" both sound good to me, however they are fictional "utopias".
in reality, in the USA, I think it would be hard to structure a family unit like this without some hardcore problems arising, but I think they are all associated with the stigmas and prejudices that we as a nation have developed about sexuality, marriage, and to an extent, property, and not due to inherent flaws in design.
I used to watch HBO's "Big Love" because I found the dynamics between the husband and three wives fascinating. of course the show eventually devolved into soap opera style melodrama, but the early seasons were a great example of a polygamous relationship (or at least one worth watching).
this all being said, I wouldn't necessarily turn down the opportunity to try a situation, but I think it depends more on the people involved than the guy/girl ratio, just like any other marriage.
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Big Love was a great show and I agree the earlier episodes were the best. My scenario wouldn't be like that at all though. I'm not a fan of the religion part and I don't think children should be involved in any way. But that show was awesome.
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OctoberLeigh said: How do you all feel about having more than one spouse? Could you live that lifestyle? Do you think the economic benefits of having more than 2 paychecks per household could cancel out the jealousy factor that could sometimes be involved with this type of relationship?
It would work for me if the other women were extremely close to me and I loved them and could get it on with them on occasion.
Agreed. Some of the other women would have to be bi so that everyone would be kept happy. Also, another idea for all of this would be a group of men and women all married to each other. The men would all be straight guys who liked bi girls and the girls would all be bi. This scenario could be nice as well providing everyone was attracted to each other. New members would need to be voted in at a "family meeting" and the results of the vote should be unanimous.
I think a bisexual unit of poly-amorous people could definitely make this work.
I love men and women both.
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Re: Plural marriage [Re: MOTH]
#13480466 - 11/13/10 09:47 PM (13 years, 7 months ago) |
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Fuck that. 1 wife is 1 too many. And I'm a happily married man.
I'm not being trying to sexist either. I'm sure if I was female, I'd say the same thing about husbands.
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ShockValue said: Fuck that. 1 wife is 1 too many. And I'm a happily married man.
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No disrespect man but if you are "happily married" how is one wife one too many?
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I love my wife. She's a cool gal and we compliment each other pretty well.
However, the older I get, the more I really enjoy my "me" time. I often wonder what life would be like if I wouldn't have "settled down".
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I hear that. I've lived completely alone since I was 17 and I'm 34 now so I've come to treasure my "me time". Why don't your wife talk about this and try out a situation where you spend 24 hours apart each week with no contact at all. It may be good for each of you and may even add a new appreciation and respect to your relationship and your love.
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ShockValue said: I love my wife. She's a cool gal and we compliment each other pretty well.
However, the older I get, the more I really enjoy my "me" time. I often wonder what life would be like if I wouldn't have "settled down".
I got married very early (like 18) so I definitely feel like I "missed out" on all life has to offer.
I love my partner, but I am craving to explore other people.
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Re: Plural marriage [Re: MOTH]
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MOTH said: I got married very early (like 18) so I definitely feel like I "missed out" on all life has to offer.
I love my partner, but I am craving to explore other people.
Does your patner feel the same?
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MOTH said: I got married very early (like 18) so I definitely feel like I "missed out" on all life has to offer.
I love my partner, but I am craving to explore other people.
Does your patner feel the same?
Sometimes he says so, sometimes he says he only wants to be with me. Recently I've realized I must break free, so I'm not sure what that means for my relationship, but I don't really care because I have trust in my Self.
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Re: Plural marriage [Re: MOTH]
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Wow that's a tough situation. I hope it all works out for you both.
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OctoberLeigh said: Wow that's a tough situation. I hope it all works out for you both.
Thanks. Actually it's not as tough as it seems from the outside. We both love each other. I still love him, but I have to do what's best for myself and my life experience.
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Re: Plural marriage [Re: MOTH]
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Love is an all important thing and I've found that not honoring your love for yourself can be just as bad if not worse than not honoring your love for someone else. Do what's best for you now. As long as you are open and honest and the rest will work itself out. Best of luck.
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Re: Plural marriage [Re: Tetriana]
#13480697 - 11/13/10 10:48 PM (13 years, 7 months ago) |
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Tetriana said: Hmm.. I don't think I could live a polyamorous lifestyle myself. It would be cool to have more paychecks coming in, but I think someone would inevitably be unhappy at some point.
On another note.. I wonder if it's common or legal anywhere for a woman to have multiple husbands?
It seems like someone is inevitably unhappy anyway. Have you seen the divorce rates these days.
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Re: Plural marriage [Re: Enjoywho]
#13480718 - 11/13/10 10:53 PM (13 years, 7 months ago) |
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Enjoywho said: It seems like someone is inevitably unhappy anyway. Have you seen the divorce rates these days. 
This is my point exactly. The "normal" way of doing things doesn't seem to be working anymore so why not try something new?
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I'd be down, like a small communion of people, 10-20 1:1 male/female ratio. That would actually be pretty sick.
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