|
NIMH
MadCap



Registered: 05/13/08
Posts: 831
Last seen: 5 years, 10 months
|
Surrounded by loved ones and friends. Feelings of loneliness are still strong.
#13076961 - 08/20/10 02:13 AM (13 years, 5 months ago) |
|
|
I feel alone and empty. I've surrounded myself with family members who love me dearly. Childhood friends. These are friends that know my darkest secrets. Friends that would do anything for me.
Yet I feel lonely. Or maybe depressed. I don't know how to discern between the two.
A couple weeks ago I took a week to myself and drove around the state. Staying with friends. Staying active. Going out. Meeting new people. Relaxing in the sun. The whole time feeling home sick for a home that doesn't exist.
I can't seem to find happiness in anything. I keep trying to think about when it was I started feeling like this. I don't know. I keep trying to think about what the root of it is, or where its coming from. Trying to figure out why. I don't know.
-------------------- I must not Fear. Fear is the mindkiller . Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration. I will face my fear. I will permit it to pass over and through me. And when it has gone past I will turn the inner eye to see its path. Where the fear has gone there will be nothing. ONLY I WILL REMAIN.
|
Penelope_Tree
Shamanic Panic


Registered: 07/31/09
Posts: 8,535
Loc: magic sugarcastle
|
Re: Surrounded by loved ones and friends. Feelings of loneliness are still strong. [Re: NIMH]
#13078173 - 08/20/10 11:24 AM (13 years, 5 months ago) |
|
|
Someone's sig here says " A good traveler has no fixed plans, and is not intent on arriving," and I think it's true. You have some destination in mind, whether it be happiness, a place to call home, a relationship, whatever.
Just take time to notice where you are, what makes you feel certain ways, and you'll have a better handle on your emotional situation. Kickle's gallery has some awesome self-explanatory exercises for appreciating experience. Link - http://www.shroomery.org/forums/usergallery.php/gallery/166884/folder/MCBT (Note to mods: I hope it's ok to link to another user's gallery? If not, please delete)
I think everyone has the same issue to some extent, I know I do. But being able to identify the triggers that set off these emotions is a tremendously helpful start.
--------------------
full blown human
|
JackofSpades
Peace



Registered: 03/01/09
Posts: 2,897
Last seen: 10 years, 6 months
|
Re: Surrounded by loved ones and friends. Feelings of loneliness are still strong. [Re: Penelope_Tree]
#13095081 - 08/24/10 11:40 AM (13 years, 5 months ago) |
|
|
read this thread: http://www.shroomery.org/forums/showflat.php/Number/9181680
then start meditating and loving yourself and over time the problem will be non-existent.
pain and suffering are prime opportunities to grow
good luck
--------------------
 If you're frightened of dying and you're holding on, you'll see devils tearing your life away. But if you've made your peace, then the devils are really angels, freeing you from the earth.
|
AlphaFalfa
imagine


Registered: 06/16/08
Posts: 3,857
Loc: 3 Seconds Ago.
Last seen: 9 years, 10 months
|
Re: Surrounded by loved ones and friends. Feelings of loneliness are still strong. [Re: JackofSpades]
#13102423 - 08/25/10 08:41 PM (13 years, 5 months ago) |
|
|
Do you have sex with any of your friends in an intimate way?
if not, this is definitley the problem...you will never feel close to a friend unless you have intimate relations with them....
Good luck
-------------------- if you ever feel lost, just remember, life is not a journey, it is entertainment, all 4 fun...
|
NIMH
MadCap



Registered: 05/13/08
Posts: 831
Last seen: 5 years, 10 months
|
Re: Surrounded by loved ones and friends. Feelings of loneliness are still strong. [Re: JackofSpades]
#13132194 - 09/01/10 03:42 AM (13 years, 4 months ago) |
|
|
Quote:
JackofSpades said: read this thread: http://www.shroomery.org/forums/showflat.php/Number/9181680
then start meditating and loving yourself and over time the problem will be non-existent.
pain and suffering are prime opportunities to grow
good luck
Thank you so much for this.
-------------------- I must not Fear. Fear is the mindkiller . Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration. I will face my fear. I will permit it to pass over and through me. And when it has gone past I will turn the inner eye to see its path. Where the fear has gone there will be nothing. ONLY I WILL REMAIN.
|
PowerTrip
Polypharmaceutical Shaman



Registered: 03/07/05
Posts: 1,148
Loc: The void
Last seen: 11 years, 3 months
|
Re: Surrounded by loved ones and friends. Feelings of loneliness are still strong. [Re: NIMH]
#13132577 - 09/01/10 07:54 AM (13 years, 4 months ago) |
|
|
If you have persistent feelings of hopelessness and feel like there's nothing to look forward to, that definitely sounds like depression.
Did you go through a breakup or something else that's hard to deal with?
I hate to say it, but the part about sex is relevant. I thought I was fine without it when I was younger but it's definitely a way to feel less lonely, at least if you have some kind of bond with the person to begin with.
-------------------- I spit reality, instead of what you usually learn and I refuse to be concerned with condescending advice cause I'm the only motherfucker that can change my life
|
NIMH
MadCap



Registered: 05/13/08
Posts: 831
Last seen: 5 years, 10 months
|
Re: Surrounded by loved ones and friends. Feelings of loneliness are still strong. [Re: PowerTrip]
#13135600 - 09/01/10 07:17 PM (13 years, 4 months ago) |
|
|
I've went through a lot thats hard to deal with. Most recently a breakup. I haven't been able to bring myself to have sex with anyone yet. Had plenty of chances it just didn't feel right.
I often have a friend sleep in my bed with me, do a little making out. It feels good. But that along with, probably sex, I'm finding out, is just a cover up for feeling lonely. I need to get comfortable with the feeling and not try to cover it up. Now I just have to figure out how to get comfortable with it.
-------------------- I must not Fear. Fear is the mindkiller . Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration. I will face my fear. I will permit it to pass over and through me. And when it has gone past I will turn the inner eye to see its path. Where the fear has gone there will be nothing. ONLY I WILL REMAIN.
|
|