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Anonymous #1
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WTF is up with mah friends?
#13111108 - 08/27/10 06:05 PM (13 years, 5 months ago) |
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I hate my friends. When I was working, it seemed like they were always up for hanging out, getting smarshed, or just watching one of our favorite TV shows.
It seems, now, that I'm jobless, they don't even answer their phones anymore, like I'm a burden to them. I don't ask them for money, don't ask them to smoke with me or even persuade them to go out of their way to pick me up or something.
I have money to go out and do stuff when I call them, I don't even call them when I'm broke trying to get high for free or something. Don't bum ciggs off them. (well, maybe the occasional one or two)
I'm just feeling alone and want to be included in some weekend activities with some old pals. Fuck, just sitting around the house watching some crap on TV with friends sounds like good weekend plans to me.
All I can figure is its me. Not having work and feeling down about it, probably putting out a bad vibe or something. IDK, I'm just bitching, I've never had luck with friends.
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AlphaFalfa
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Re: WTF is up with mah friends? [Re: Anonymous #1]
#13111208 - 08/27/10 06:39 PM (13 years, 5 months ago) |
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Honstly it looks like you gave them stuff when you were working or maybe you complaign to much.
Cheers,
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Re: WTF is up with mah friends? [Re: AlphaFalfa]
#13111951 - 08/27/10 10:01 PM (13 years, 5 months ago) |
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AlphaFalfa said: Honstly it looks like you gave them stuff when you were working
Yeah that sounds about right. When you were working, you gave them free droogz. Now you don't have money for it so they gave up on you.
In any case, just ask them. If they get pissed off, fuck em. I've always thought that if I didn't go out of my way to hurt a friend and they get pissed at me, they weren't worthy of my friendship in the first place. Fuck 'em!
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AnimaSoulBlue
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Re: WTF is up with mah friends? [Re: Shroomerited]
#13111963 - 08/27/10 10:05 PM (13 years, 5 months ago) |
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typical freeloaders.. get rid of em
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ManianFH
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just enjoy being alone OP.
youll find new friends along the way. I like being alone
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Re: WTF is up with mah friends? [Re: ManianFH]
#13112888 - 08/28/10 04:10 AM (13 years, 5 months ago) |
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Yeah they don't really sound much like friends.
That said, I'm increasingly coming around to the idea that most people prefer to hang out with happy, successful types. Maybe since you lost your job that you're putting out some bad vibes? Still shitty that they're not there for you.
If it's any consolation, most people are crap and too caught up in their own shit.
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Re: WTF is up with mah friends? [Re: gilesypopper]
#13113902 - 08/28/10 11:54 AM (13 years, 5 months ago) |
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I figured out that I am just complaing. Expecting others to be there when I need them is just a fairy tale. 
People have their own stuff going on and I should just concentrate on getting my own stuff going on.
Just felt like venting somewhere. I like this forum, Physical and Mental Well-Being. I've read quite a few articles here that make me fell better about mah siteation.
I especially liked this article. http://www.shroomery.org/forums/showflat.php/Number/9181680/page/1 Great incite to dealing with that lonely feeling that I get even if I'm around loved ones.
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Re: WTF is up with mah friends? [Re: Anonymous #1]
#13114374 - 08/28/10 02:03 PM (13 years, 5 months ago) |
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yeah, this is a great forum, you can simultaneously vent while asking for advice, and get peoples honest opinion and shared experiences as a reply!
So yeah, we all get down on our friends from time to time. Its also tough to see anything good happening in life, when we are jobless, and everything just seems to be viewed through SUCK colored glasses.
Maybe there not the best of friends, perhaps they never were friends.... they definitely were people you had a good time with at some point or another though! I'd say hold on to that, and don't have any expectations above it.
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vegansoup
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Re: WTF is up with mah friends? [Re: Anonymous #1]
#13115463 - 08/28/10 05:47 PM (13 years, 5 months ago) |
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I've had friends become jobless for extended periods of time. Although they didn't need anything financial from me, they start needing a lot emotionally from me. They became VERY needy. I do what I can to be there for them, but the psychologically it becomes draining. they turn in to energy vampires. also, now that you aren't working, you may be trying to hang out waaayy more then usual. everyone needs there own space. It doesn't make your friends bad because they can't meet all your needs. Have realistic expectation. And go out and make more friends! it's fun, it'll bring your spirits up, and the more people you know the easier it is to network with them to find a job!
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Withinity
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Re: WTF is up with mah friends? [Re: vegansoup]
#13117563 - 08/29/10 04:13 AM (13 years, 5 months ago) |
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well i think they have probly reached fiend level on the buds assuming they smoke everyday very similar occurrences happened to me and now its kinda the beginning of something else anyhow all the best.
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Re: WTF is up with mah friends? [Re: Withinity]
#13121545 - 08/29/10 10:00 PM (13 years, 4 months ago) |
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I've noticed a lot of times that MOST people don't organize shit and just start sooking and crying because no one hangs out with them, I noticed I did this a lot when I was younger, but I started realizing that I was the reason I didn't get out much and hang out with friends, you need to pick up that phone and ask them to do stuff, posting on an internet forum aint gonna get you anywhere.
In the end, you make your own problems, take resposibility and start realizing other people aren't why you are feeling down, it is you.
In saying that though, they may not be very good friends, make some new ones maybe.
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Re: WTF is up with mah friends? [Re: Anonymous #1]
#13122529 - 08/30/10 05:34 AM (13 years, 4 months ago) |
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WTF is up with mah friends fiends?
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Anonymous #1
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Re: WTF is up with mah friends? [Re: Anonymous #2]
#13123540 - 08/30/10 12:00 PM (13 years, 4 months ago) |
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Quote:
Anonymous said:
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WTF is up with mah friends fiends?
Fixed.
Maybe I am the fiend myself.
Wow, now that's a thinker right there.
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