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Jackal
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Monogamy
#1300994 - 02/11/03 08:51 PM (20 years, 11 months ago) |
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Just wanted to start up a discussion on monogamy. I know that in many cultures polygamy is acceptable and even expected, so why in modern day society is it such a taboo? Evolution certainly does not favour monogamy. So why do we practice it? Is it because of our developed emotions such as jealousy, lust and love that dictate the fact that we only take one partner? I am a reasonably charming guy and am engaged to be married. I would never be unfaithful but I still tend to be a big flirt when around loverly ladies. Whats that all about?
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Re: Monogamy [Re: Jackal]
#1301004 - 02/11/03 08:58 PM (20 years, 11 months ago) |
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Thats because hormones tend to do that to a person... And thats all it is...
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Re: Monogamy [Re: Jackal]
#1301013 - 02/11/03 09:03 PM (20 years, 11 months ago) |
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I belive it was all started by religion and has just settled in as the norm now. I also belive women picked up on it as a good thing as there window to bear children is a dam site smaller than ours(as men) so to them it is a good thing not to be droped for a new more fertile model every 10 years 
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Re: Monogamy [Re: Jackal]
#1301059 - 02/11/03 09:41 PM (20 years, 11 months ago) |
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Humans are 'serially monogamous.' It makes evolutionary sense- Stay around long enough to raise the kids; then find a new mate so as to spread your genes further. We're no longer guided only by instinct but have free will too, so what is the best for our evolution has little bearing anymore on what we do. 'Memes' may now play a similar role...
As for me, I practice agamy.
My maladaptive mutant genotype will go to the grave with me.
Just doing my part to further the cause of natural selection, I guess...
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Re: Monogamy [Re: Jackal]
#1301090 - 02/11/03 10:11 PM (20 years, 11 months ago) |
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I think that monogamy is enculturated because of the many historical and cultural examples where polygamy was acceptable. I think your flirting is about personal feelings of power (not making a judgement though).
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Re: Monogamy [Re: Jackal]
#1301204 - 02/12/03 12:38 AM (20 years, 11 months ago) |
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higgamus hoggimus woman's monogamous hoggamus higgamus man is polygamous (wasn't that from william james zoned on nitrous oxide???) ~ lifelong monogamy serial monogamy polygamy polyandry ... and then there's the church of all worlds, yeah... a group theogamy (ain't nobody here but us gods...)(heinlein presents this option in several of his works, and it almost makes me say, "if only...") & there are folks trying to make this option work if you can grok it www.caw.org ~ i would have been quite content to remain connected to my spouse for another 25 (or more) years, but she decided not... and it takes 2 to make it go, but only 1 to make it no-go... and so here i am, 2 kids, no spouse... trying to get by... and so beat & out-of-the loop that i'm not even sure how to go "looking" (i mean i do look, but...) ~ in USA, what, like just over 50% of marriages and up ending... yow... and so it goes... ~ maybe we could drop in on lazarus long's family and talk about "what is love?" ... a ship named dora, on a trip to a planet called terra tertius... how do i enlist? ~ ymmv... ~ ~
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Re: Monogamy [Re: Jackal]
#1301211 - 02/12/03 12:42 AM (20 years, 11 months ago) |
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besides, in USA, you remeber what happened in utah? an angel came down to the LDS elders & told them that at least a portion of the melchizidek priestly rules were rescinded (those concerning plural marriages) so that the utah territory could be granted statehood... or something like that... (apologies to any mormons on board for my possible looseness with the ummmmm "facts"...)
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