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Parkseerf
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WTF! Cant get hard! 1
#12856097 - 07/06/10 11:46 AM (13 years, 8 months ago) |
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So im 19 and only had sex once, like 3 years ago. This chick who ive know for a long time and I have been hooking up and to make a long story short we dosed 4 grams of mushrooms yesterday and ended up trying to have sex after we came down but i couldnt get hard enough, just semi hard. So i thought it had to be the mushrooms, until today we tried and i still could only get semi hard!
I dont know what the hell is up, im 19 and have a beautiful woman going down on me and the best i can get is just semi hard. Im perfectly comfortable and know its not because im nervous. Does anybody have any advice/experience with this? I feel terrible for getting her all horny and then letting her down like that. I also have no problem getting it up by myself.
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Re: WTF! Cant get hard! [Re: Parkseerf]
#12856217 - 07/06/10 12:17 PM (13 years, 8 months ago) |
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When you're alone it just you and a cock. With her there's pussy, tits and a feminine presence. Maybe you're a homosexual or just jerk off too much.
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Re: WTF! Cant get hard! [Re: Arkady]
#12856445 - 07/06/10 12:59 PM (13 years, 8 months ago) |
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it happens sometimes when you're inexperienced. the first time i had sex she pretty much gave me a handjob until i could get the condom on lol
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Parkseerf
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Re: WTF! Cant get hard! [Re: JT]
#12856573 - 07/06/10 01:28 PM (13 years, 8 months ago) |
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Arkady said: When you're alone it just you and a cock. With her there's pussy, tits and a feminine presence. Maybe you're a homosexual or just jerk off too much.
Nah i definitely am into chicks, especially this one. And i only jerk it like once every 2 or 3 days, and at most once a day, but thats rare.
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JT said: it happens sometimes when you're inexperienced. the first time i had sex she pretty much gave me a handjob until i could get the condom on lol
Yeah, fucking wierd. Shes also WAY more experienced than me haha. Maybe im just thinking about it to much.
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Re: WTF! Cant get hard! [Re: Parkseerf] 1
#12856965 - 07/06/10 02:58 PM (13 years, 8 months ago) |
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You're getting intimidated.
After reassuring her it isn't her fault, eat that puss, get her off good and stop apologizing.
EDIT: Cannot emphasize that last bit enough, stop apologizing. Apology puts you in a place where you fucked up, puts you in a powerless spot. Feeling that way is what's keeping you from getting up. The more you think about your problems getting up, the less a chance is you'll get up. Get her off, and don't even expect to fuck. Do it until it's clear that you getting up doesn't matter, cause she's getting off fine anyway and knows it's not her fault. THEN you get the wood.
And at your age, barring some medical conditions, it's certain that it's psychological.
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Re: WTF! Cant get hard! [Re: Parkseerf]
#12857179 - 07/06/10 03:44 PM (13 years, 8 months ago) |
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Certainly sounds like a case of self-defeat.
Did the mushrooms put you in a non-sexual state of mind?
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Re: WTF! Cant get hard! [Re: Society]
#12858847 - 07/06/10 08:45 PM (13 years, 8 months ago) |
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Yeah, i definitely ate her out . I only said sorry once, then made her cum so its cool. I dont know what the fuck was up(certainly not me haha). Im really not THAT intimidated, me and her go way back. So hopefully this weekend things go smoother
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Re: WTF! Cant get hard! [Re: Parkseerf]
#12859506 - 07/06/10 10:41 PM (13 years, 8 months ago) |
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This house is clean.
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Re: WTF! Cant get hard! [Re: Parkseerf]
#12866434 - 07/08/10 09:15 AM (13 years, 8 months ago) |
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It's now probably about fear of not getting an erection. If you can get it hard when alone, then it's definitely a psychological issue.
You need to be relaxed and it helps not to have any particular expectation from her that you're going to get hard and do it right now. If she can chill with you it will come naturally. Alternatively short-term use of viagra or similar will help you get quickly back into things.
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Re: WTF! Cant get hard! [Re: mm.]
#12866446 - 07/08/10 09:19 AM (13 years, 8 months ago) |
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'cept you might get psychologically dependent on viagra.
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Re: WTF! Cant get hard! [Re: Society]
#12874383 - 07/09/10 06:41 PM (13 years, 8 months ago) |
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Bro from personal experience, I find it way harder to get hard with a woman if I masturbate anywhere close to having a sexual encounter with the woman. Try it out, stop for a week or something and screw her. It's a little different man.
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Re: WTF! Cant get hard! [Re: iluvfungi]
#12888646 - 07/12/10 05:42 PM (13 years, 8 months ago) |
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Trust me its psychological. Happened to me a while back and I'm the same age as you.
Think of it as emotional bruising, your confidence being knocked. If you think it won't go up then it won't.
Will take a few weeks to go away depending on how confident you are but its nothing to worry about honestly.
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Re: WTF! Cant get hard! [Re: Leenguy]
#12889282 - 07/12/10 07:51 PM (13 years, 8 months ago) |
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I had trouble getting hard my first time, first few maybe (can't really remember that far back, all my psych meds destroyed my memory)
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I got a similar problem as OP, but im pretty sure mine is caused by nervousness. And im still a virgin; shits frustrating as fuck. i just wanna not be a virgin you know.
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this has happened to me a bunch of times but I was with the same girl for over a year and I just wasn't as excited as I once was when it came to sex with her. it became like shooting pool with a rope
also, it got to the point that when we did have sex, she just laid there. I felt like I was fucking a corpse and that was such a turn off when she'd want to have sex I would think "No, you want ME to fuck YOU while you just lay there and not move." I began passing on sex, that relationship ended soon after I noticed I would have rather fucked myself than her. loving words people! The last time we fucked, I had a raging boner and lost it like 10 minutes in because she just laid there... terrible sex.
I'm posting this anonymously because she reads my shroomery posts but I am
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Re: WTF! Cant get hard! [Re: Kid_Orgo]
#12924638 - 07/20/10 01:40 PM (13 years, 8 months ago) |
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Kid_Orgo said: You're getting intimidated.
After reassuring her it isn't her fault, eat that puss, get her off good and stop apologizing.
EDIT: Cannot emphasize that last bit enough, stop apologizing. Apology puts you in a place where you fucked up, puts you in a powerless spot. Feeling that way is what's keeping you from getting up. The more you think about your problems getting up, the less a chance is you'll get up. Get her off, and don't even expect to fuck. Do it until it's clear that you getting up doesn't matter, cause she's getting off fine anyway and knows it's not her fault. THEN you get the wood.
And at your age, barring some medical conditions, it's certain that it's psychological.
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