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I don't really like makin eye contact with people
    #12780425 - 06/21/10 09:05 PM (11 years, 5 months ago)

I feel like too much eye contact is inappropriate, and it makes me feel uncomfortable most of the time. I think asian cultures have it right, they don't really look at each other that much, they understand. Only in America to people stare each other down for seconds at a time like it's  normal, no other animal on the planet does this. Fuckin wierdos.


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Re: I don't really like makin eye contact with people [Re: Anonymous #1]
    #12780437 - 06/21/10 09:08 PM (11 years, 5 months ago)

True that


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Re: I don't really like makin eye contact with people [Re: Anonymous #1]
    #12780443 - 06/21/10 09:09 PM (11 years, 5 months ago)

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Re: I don't really like makin eye contact with people [Re: Out Grow]
    #12780459 - 06/21/10 09:12 PM (11 years, 5 months ago)

what beast?


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Re: I don't really like makin eye contact with people [Re: Anonymous #1]
    #12780478 - 06/21/10 09:15 PM (11 years, 5 months ago)

no, it's people trying to convince themselves amnd others.

it's something we learned and developed through our fear responses.

like dogs... we are.


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Re: I don't really like makin eye contact with people [Re: akira_akuma]
    #12780497 - 06/21/10 09:18 PM (11 years, 5 months ago)

I agree, eye contact only makes sense if your like flirting with some chik. dogs dont even like making eye contact, theyre onto something.


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Re: I don't really like makin eye contact with people [Re: Anonymous #1]
    #12780521 - 06/21/10 09:22 PM (11 years, 5 months ago)

testing fear reponses to make an uncertain situation more likely to be comfortable.

people tend to their brain chemicals like addicts. dopamine is nesscessary to our fearful life like vodka is to mixed drinks.

and do people want anything to change... to actually work at their approach without self-depricating? nope. cause lack of serotionin dictates to us "feed your system", you need to find something that'll make you feel complete at 12 in the afternoon to 12 in the evening. and if it isn't serotonin then? we need a boost! sex? food? sleep?(ahh very good) aggression?

moving or not moving? do you need to get away? you probably need to sleep off your cycles.

oh well... nobody wants to be in control. cause then they wouldn't no what they are doing in their empty lives.

:heart:



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Re: I don't really like makin eye contact with people [Re: akira_akuma] * 1
    #12780537 - 06/21/10 09:24 PM (11 years, 5 months ago)

ive noticed many people seem uncomfortable and give me weird looks when i basically ignore their attempts to mae solid eye contact with me. as if im crazy. makes me realize how deeply socially programmed most people really are:sad:


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Re: I don't really like makin eye contact with people [Re: Anonymous #1]
    #12780567 - 06/21/10 09:31 PM (11 years, 5 months ago)

they need you to punch them in the face.

unless they are really a scared little pussy... then they need you cto stumble along and feed their ego so that they feel better so that don't need to bolt and get that boost their sore egos so desperately need.


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Re: I don't really like makin eye contact with people [Re: akira_akuma]
    #12780582 - 06/21/10 09:33 PM (11 years, 5 months ago)

i only feed peoples egos who i care about. i try my best to ignore random people, their egos are completely alien to me and i have no urge to satisfy them. sort of dont like being approached by random people. most people are on some other shit that i cant, and dont want to relate to.


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Re: I don't really like makin eye contact with people [Re: Anonymous #1]
    #12780595 - 06/21/10 09:35 PM (11 years, 5 months ago)

that doesn't matter, people's ego wants the approval anyway.

O_O

"everytime i look in your eyes, i see your face and i cry; and will for all the days until i die."


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Re: I don't really like makin eye contact with people [Re: akira_akuma]
    #12783477 - 06/22/10 11:20 AM (11 years, 5 months ago)

I'm usually looking in the background over the shoulder of someone when I'm having a conversation ... people have pointed it out, and said it's weird/rude, but I don't think it is


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Re: I don't really like makin eye contact with people [Re: Frinkz] * 1
    #12783507 - 06/22/10 11:30 AM (11 years, 5 months ago)

its pretty simple, but you anti-social/anxious freaks are making a bigger deal out of it than it is. making eye contact with someone forges a deeper connection with that person and its easier to communicate in general with eye contact. grow the fuck up children, seriously, you guys have the maturity of teenagers.


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Re: I don't really like makin eye contact with people [Re: Anonymous #1] * 2
    #12783524 - 06/22/10 11:33 AM (11 years, 5 months ago)

Quote:

Anonymous said:
i only feed peoples egos who i care about. i try my best to ignore random people, their egos are completely alien to me and i have no urge to satisfy them. sort of dont like being approached by random people. most people are on some other shit that i cant, and dont want to relate to.




you are on your way to a lonely, unhappy life.

EVERYONE is the same. If you can't love EVERYBODY, you won't be able to love yourself.

Everyone is just trying to live life, "normal" people aren't just out there for ego gratification, they are just as real as you.


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Re: I don't really like makin eye contact with people [Re: Anonymous #1] * 1
    #12783673 - 06/22/10 12:22 PM (11 years, 5 months ago)

Quote:

Anonymous said:
I feel like too much eye contact is inappropriate




Too much is inappropriate,

as is too little.

Don't worry too much about it, have a glance!


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Re: I don't really like makin eye contact with people [Re: Anonymous #2]
    #12785193 - 06/22/10 05:08 PM (11 years, 5 months ago)

Quote:

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its pretty simple, but you anti-social/anxious freaks are making a bigger deal out of it than it is. making eye contact with someone forges a deeper connection with that person and its easier to communicate in general with eye contact. grow the fuck up children, seriously, you guys have the maturity of teenagers.




I'm not anti-social in the slightest, or immature.

I just don't tend to hold eye contact with people.

Don't judge, asshole.


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Re: I don't really like makin eye contact with people [Re: Frinkz] * 1
    #12785211 - 06/22/10 05:11 PM (11 years, 5 months ago)

Hey buddy, I hear ya.

I absolutly HATE making eye contact with people.

I used to encourage it within myself, but the
past few years, not at all.

Dunno what I dont like about it, but I think the eyes
tell too much about the person, kinda like looking right
into the persons thoughts/brain.

Im with ya man, dont look people in the eye. Keep it up! :thumbup:


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Re: I don't really like makin eye contact with people [Re: MattyBong] * 1
    #12785935 - 06/22/10 07:19 PM (11 years, 5 months ago)

Maybe eye contact is negative and stressful for you guys... to me I feel like it adds another level of connection. Much more a sign of mutual respect and attention than anything else.


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Re: I don't really like makin eye contact with people [Re: golden1] * 1
    #12786800 - 06/22/10 09:25 PM (11 years, 5 months ago)

I find that when I am able to clear my mind and be receptive, I have no problem making eye contact when in conversations. Under these parameters, the eye contact is a friendly enhancement of the connection of communication.

However, I have also experienced many social interactions where my anxiety was acting up and my mind was not clear, which led to a failure to make a solid and fearless connection with the eyes. Under such parameters, I have to avoid eye contact. I could say I "don't like it" then, but that would really just be a sort of cop out for the fact that I simply can't clear my mind and be receptive enough to make a connection with the person.

Also, when I was more of a dick, I tended to always have an inner dialogue going about everything I witnessed. I still do this at times, but it's not "always on" now. At the time, I didn't think anything of it or whether or not it was inappropriate, but I also could not make eye contact.

Over time, observing these patterns, I've found that it's simply a matter of whether I'm really IN the moment, experiencing the current moment in time... or if I'm off in my head spinng some tale of theoretical uncertainty.

Eye contact is a big can of worms. It cuts right through a big knot of complications regarding things like faith and spirituality. This is because eye contact is maintained solidly by mutual presence, and presence is dependent on confidence and faith in the self as well as respect for the mutual infinite nature of both parties involved.

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Re: I don't really like makin eye contact with people [Re: JacquesCousteau]
    #12786929 - 06/22/10 09:43 PM (11 years, 5 months ago)

1 in 100 people have aspergers


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