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Human Relationships
#12673911 - 06/02/10 06:21 PM (13 years, 8 months ago) |
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I have observed two styles of human relationship that I think stand out, though of course are no complete observation of human relationship behavior.
1. Mirror 2. Service "You scratch my back I scratch yours"
What I mean by (1) is a relationship in which two individuals find someone who as closely as possible resembles themselves. They resemble eachother, as mirror images, or close to it. Relationships like these are based on equality and mutual friendship. Partners share duties and do not get "tied up" in each others needs.
In (2) the relationship is based around servitude. One partner may be a parasite on the other, or both might share parasitism of the other in different things. These relationships are based around inequality in different areas, but equality overall is what keeps them working. Both partners are essentially "tied up" with eachother in taking care of themselves and their business.
Neither are mutually exclusive, and at times a mostly (1) style relationship might have elements of (2) and vice versa.
Edited by xFrockx (06/02/10 06:27 PM)
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Re: Human Relationships [Re: xFrockx]
#12674308 - 06/02/10 07:25 PM (13 years, 8 months ago) |
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Which one is mostly you?
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Re: Human Relationships [Re: Icelander]
#12674400 - 06/02/10 07:41 PM (13 years, 8 months ago) |
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Mirror, but we split chores. Although as I get to thinking about it its hard not to get lost in all the details of things we do for each other. I may just be caricaturing relationships of others that I see to be more about control and less about cooperation.
Edited by xFrockx (06/02/10 07:44 PM)
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Re: Human Relationships [Re: xFrockx]
#12675619 - 06/02/10 10:52 PM (13 years, 8 months ago) |
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I think there is such a thing as co-dependency where each person needs the other person for some sort of emotional gratification.
Eg. a violent codependency:
Man beats wife Wife feels sad... but rather than believe she married a bastard she believes that she has done something wrong. Man says sorry to wife, rather than believe he is a monster, believes that he needs to help his wife along the right path.
Now the man needs to keep beating his wife because she keeps being... well however she used to be.
And the woman needs to keep appraising her husband because if her husband isnt that great then she would have to be a complete loser to allow him to keep judging her the way he does.
And then Man believes that she needs him
And woman believes that he loves her (or else why would he keep coming back and saying sorry after she did such horrible things?)
Sorry I hope this relates to your thread, I couldnt really make sense of it
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Re: Human Relationships [Re: Noteworthy]
#12675756 - 06/02/10 11:11 PM (13 years, 8 months ago) |
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"Sorry I hope this relates to your thread, I couldnt really make sense of it "
What you're explaining would be a strong "type 2" in my OP semantics. Does that help?
If they both teamed up to beat someone else, then that would be a type 1. Just to use an outlandish example.
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Re: Human Relationships [Re: xFrockx]
#12675873 - 06/02/10 11:32 PM (13 years, 8 months ago) |
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So you are making a basic distinction between relationships where
1) both people seek something outside of the relationship but because it is similar, they can seek it together.
2) each person seeks something from the other person and thus form a relationship
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And then of course there is the overlap in tha tpeople in (1) seek things from eachother like companionship, and people in (2) can find common ground from the fact that they probably have some degree of similar interests
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Re: Human Relationships [Re: Noteworthy]
#12675899 - 06/02/10 11:37 PM (13 years, 8 months ago) |
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Right, another way of putting it simply would be to say that
1 = similar people couples 2 = opposite people couples
Though we must ask, how do we say things about the people in the relationship such that we can put them into one category and not the other? This one is falling apart on me. I saw it coming but for one reason or another decided to post this.
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Re: Human Relationships [Re: xFrockx]
#12676192 - 06/03/10 12:33 AM (13 years, 8 months ago) |
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everyone is to differing degrees similar and different to eachother
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Re: Human Relationships [Re: Noteworthy]
#12676527 - 06/03/10 01:50 AM (13 years, 8 months ago) |
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People don't possess similarities and differences, they possess what they possess, and we draw these relationships from that.
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