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MisterMuscaria



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How do I get girlfriend?
#12674458 - 06/02/10 07:49 PM (13 years, 7 months ago) |
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Ive been single for a loooong time and would like to find a nice lady to settle down with...problem is I dont seem to ever meet anyone.
I tried looking and that just drove females away. I tried not looking and that just made it so I never met anyone period.
I tried being myself and came across as too eccentric. I tried being someone else and came across as insincere.
What is the best approach to finding a suitable mate?
How does a hairy antisocial caveman like me meet someone?
I want to find someone who enjoys my eccentricities.
It seems like the girls Im interested in want nothing to do with me and then the girls Im NOT interested in want everything to do with me and I wish there were a way to flip flop that. It's like when I pay them attention they ignore me but when I ignore them they pay me attention. What gives?
It's not even about the sex really(though thatd be a great bonus) I want companionship on a deeper level...someone to share everything with and cuddle with at night. Someone who isnt repulsed by me and will still be there in the morning.
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ninja cat 09
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MisterMuscaria said:
How does a hairy antisocial caveman like me meet someone?
Same here
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BothHands
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Yeah, I've got the same problem...
All my friends went away to college, and I stayed here because a community college is cheaper. Of course I'll transfer after I get my AA at a quarter the price. But for now I'm in some limbo. It's hard to meet people if you don't know people. Really sucks...
Wish I had some good advice, but instead I'll just join you in your lamentations.
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ROGER5676
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well nice guys always finish last. if you wanna girl who will always bail you out of jail after she has you arrested is to walk into any local pub and closing time, find the best looking,hammered hooker type and pimp slap her something good. after that, tell her you love her and you will live happily ever after
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MisterMuscaria



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Re: How do I get girlfriend? [Re: BothHands]
#12674573 - 06/02/10 08:06 PM (13 years, 7 months ago) |
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I always assumed it was easier for lesbians to find girlfriends (because most of my lesbian friends are almost always in relationships), but perhaps I was wrong.
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BothHands
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That might be true... I never had trouble when I was in high school. But I don't feel like going out to a ladies bar alone. It would be weird... You need to know people to meet people. And all the people I know left for college.
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Re: How do I get girlfriend? [Re: BothHands]
#12674748 - 06/02/10 08:34 PM (13 years, 7 months ago) |
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were all screwed , least we got mary jane
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MisterMuscaria



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There is this one girl who I like especially well. I hug and cuddle with her when I see her. She says she has a boyfriend and although he used to hang out with us he is never around anymore. Unlike most girls who flake out on me this one will actually hang out with me on a daily basis. She is the most beautiful person I know and Im completely smitten. I try to go in for a kiss yet she denies me and tells me she is taken. I might be going to jail tomorrow and she said she'd write me if I go. If I could be with anyone Id want to be with her yet I cant and it only makes me want her more.
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Don't lust for results, just let things happen and eventually the right girl will find you. My two cents at any rate; if you've been single for a long time though maybe try e-harmony?
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MisterMuscaria



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Re: How do I get girlfriend? [Re: deCypher]
#12676449 - 06/03/10 01:29 AM (13 years, 7 months ago) |
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Yah, Im trying to remain detached from it and not care...but its just been so long that subconsciously I want it and I trip enough that I can read my subconscious like a book and that whole thing is fucking with me.
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CandyGirl


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If everything else has failed... Internet is the way to go, man.
Edit: You're still young though, enjoy being single while you still can
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MisterMuscaria



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Re: How do I get girlfriend? [Re: CandyGirl]
#12676473 - 06/03/10 01:35 AM (13 years, 7 months ago) |
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Blah..Im just not seeing much benefit in being single since Im not the type of person who really has sex out of relationships.
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PDU
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Don't lust for results, just let things happen and eventually the right girl will find you.
This worked really well for me when i was younger - but this time around, it's been 3 years and i am starting to seek some companionship.
I've been in a stale scene in my hometown for awhile, with no one of interest - but next month i am moving to the city. So i hope a change of scenery will help my situation.
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Re: How do I get girlfriend? [Re: PDU]
#12682672 - 06/04/10 01:39 AM (13 years, 7 months ago) |
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Go to public places to meet women, be sociable, etc.
One thing that definitely won't help is sitting at home alone when you want a girlfriend.
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PowerTrip
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It's all about going out as much as possible.
People who are always going out are always making connections. Either through new friends or directly, they are able to find partners.
Other than internet dating, sitting at home like a hermit is a sure way to remain single.
-------------------- I spit reality, instead of what you usually learn and I refuse to be concerned with condescending advice cause I'm the only motherfucker that can change my life
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Re: How do I get girlfriend? [Re: PowerTrip]
#12684326 - 06/04/10 11:28 AM (13 years, 7 months ago) |
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Took me 29 yrs to find someone. But i hear you musc, the cuddles and small things are WAYYYYYY better than just the sex.
She'll be there when the time is right.
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MisterMuscaria



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Re: How do I get girlfriend? [Re: PowerTrip]
#12684464 - 06/04/10 11:48 AM (13 years, 7 months ago) |
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PowerTrip said: It's all about going out as much as possible.
People who are always going out are always making connections. Either through new friends or directly, they are able to find partners.
Other than internet dating, sitting at home like a hermit is a sure way to remain single.
I do get out often...for a while I was going out to bars and meeting people everyday of the week but no one ever "stuck" I guess.
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PDU
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I will not go out to bars and would not want to meet someone at one.
That's my problem, in this city anyways.
In the city there will be more variety of "going out." and i hope to find someone a bit classier than those who frequent the dive bars in my current locale.
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PowerTrip
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Re: How do I get girlfriend? [Re: PDU]
#12691741 - 06/05/10 02:08 PM (13 years, 7 months ago) |
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PDU said: I will not go out to bars and would not want to meet someone at one.
I used to have the same sentiment but really all types of people go to bars. For instance, I just went to a bar last weekend and met a girl. Before that I hadn't even been to a bar, or drank for that matter since New Years Eve. If she had the mindset that everyone in the bar is a drunk, burnout, only interested in hooking up etc.. she would be dead wrong about me.
Yeah those types of people are definitely in bars, and maybe it is fair to assume that is the norm. However many people drag their non-partying friends out with them to bars at least once in a while. You can usually spot the ones who are a bit out of their element and they're even easier to approach because of it.
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Re: How do I get girlfriend? [Re: PowerTrip]
#12720919 - 06/10/10 02:25 PM (13 years, 7 months ago) |
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Craigslist and $20 FTW!!!
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PDU
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Re: How do I get girlfriend? [Re: PowerTrip]
#12721035 - 06/10/10 02:51 PM (13 years, 7 months ago) |
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PowerTrip said:
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PDU said: I will not go out to bars and would not want to meet someone at one.
I used to have the same sentiment but really all types of people go to bars. For instance, I just went to a bar last weekend and met a girl. Before that I hadn't even been to a bar, or drank for that matter since New Years Eve. If she had the mindset that everyone in the bar is a drunk, burnout, only interested in hooking up etc.. she would be dead wrong about me.
Yeah those types of people are definitely in bars, and maybe it is fair to assume that is the norm. However many people drag their non-partying friends out with them to bars at least once in a while. You can usually spot the ones who are a bit out of their element and they're even easier to approach because of it.
I hadn't especially considered this.
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Re: How do I get girlfriend? [Re: PDU]
#12721050 - 06/10/10 02:54 PM (13 years, 7 months ago) |
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Unfortunately Im the drunken barfly the girls typically avoid unless theyre hammered...or at least I used to be...Im tryin to get away from that so I hardly go to bars anymore. Which makes meeting people more difficult.
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DRUGZZZ & PEEPS OVER BITCHEZ YOU SAPPY WIMPS, LEAVE THE LADIES UNTIL YOU ARE LIKE 30 AND BORED!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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