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 World Spirit
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 Breaking Away from Family to Change for Good 
#1174582 - 12/28/02 01:57 AM (21 years, 3 months ago) |
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 Re: Breaking Away from Family to Change for Good [Re: World Spirit]
#1174628 - 12/28/02 03:09 AM (21 years, 3 months ago) |
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Family love can often turn into possessiveness, jealousy, etc... The same with other intimate relationships.
Kurt Vonnegut once said, "I wish people who are conventionally supposed to love each other would say to each other when they fight: "Please... a little less love and a little more common decency".
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 Re: Breaking Away from Family to Change for Good [Re: World Spirit]
#1174642 - 12/28/02 03:25 AM (21 years, 3 months ago) |
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My parents have been dead for 8/9 years respectively(ain't that usually the way?), and the rest i haven't seen nor talked to for 5 years. i think the main thing is not so much physically distanceing oneself but emotional distance.....not much point in getting away in a physical sense if you're still carrying a lot of baggage around about things that happened between you and them in the past......just my opinion....personally i'm very  with my decision.....
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 Re: Breaking Away from Family to Change for Good [Re: World Spirit]
#1174711 - 12/28/02 04:38 AM (21 years, 3 months ago) |
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I still live with my family(I'm 16). They never disciplined me very hard, and I wasn't the greatest kid. It took me until this year to finally learn to live in harmony with them. I have a very good friend who was strictly disciplined his whole life, and he never had to figure out how to live in harmony with his family, he just always has. Its important to live in harmony with your family. Im glad I finally realized this, because I love my family very dearly, and always have.
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Re: Breaking Away from Family to Change for Good [Re: World Spirit]
#1174840 - 12/28/02 06:26 AM (21 years, 3 months ago) |
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My family owns me. I feel like a slave as long as I'm living with them.
I plan on no more school for a while and getting a job so I can move out of this damned place!
  
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Re: Breaking Away from Family to Change for Good [Re: World Spirit]
#1175918 - 12/28/02 06:02 PM (21 years, 3 months ago) |
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I completely agree with you!
I am in the same sort of situation, and I have thought about just leaving and getting away from my family so many tiimes.
I think someday I will do it, and it will be the hardest but best decision I'll ever make. It's weird because I was contemplating making a thread about this same exact issue.
I'm glad you're back to posting here again, Enter!
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Re: Breaking Away from Family to Change for Good [Re: RebelSteve33]
#1175983 - 12/28/02 06:41 PM (21 years, 3 months ago) |
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this isn't to far off the subject, but during xmas i went to the usaul fam gathering, and a religious discussion came about. i had to keep my mouth shut, even though i was aching to share my views. however, being part of a hard up christian family means if you think differently than you broke away yourself.
i realize their ignorance and i just go with it. its not worth being looked at differently, so i think it is possible to get along with your family and still be independant. in your head.
why do you think we come here. to let it out, to have thought exchange with like minded....
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#1176022 - 12/28/02 07:07 PM (21 years, 3 months ago) |
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Re: Breaking Away from Family to Change for Good [Re: Aura]
#1176378 - 12/29/02 12:13 AM (21 years, 3 months ago) |
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Family is a very important thing. It's a sense of belonging, its love and understanding and all that other 'family' stuff. But if your having doubts about any of these things in the family then diverging is not a terrible thing. We are all a sort of family here at the shroomery, discussing things that would likely never be 'dinner discussion' for the average family. If your family is completely intolerant, ignorant, degrading etc. Then be happy that you are not this way. You may still love the family because you are a part of it. But you must choose your own path in life and you, as an individual, are way more important in any situation. I would say if you have offspring, that they may be just as important to you, but I have no children yet so my view is limited in this sense. I would imagine the bond with my child to be very strong though, as my parents and I have a strong bond. Family may be an important entity, but ones own spiritual wellbeing superscede this. If you are truely loved, you are accepted. It may not always be easy to see, but its there.
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Well said.
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Re: Breaking Away from Family to Change for Good [Re: RebelSteve33]
#1176632 - 12/29/02 05:29 AM (21 years, 3 months ago) |
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