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Re: Fucking excellent way to eliminate stress and capacity to destress. [Re: AlphaFalfa]
#10796048 - 08/04/09 12:20 AM (14 years, 6 months ago) |
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Well I felt less stressed the next day and I was over all generally happy...it was that little bit to put me through...ya know?
Also, I just feel like I am making milestones of change on myself...its like with every cry I have just that much more room to change..;.its sexulant.
I want to mention another interesting experience. I tried to cry about this bad time in my life again, for the third times and It was like I just wasnt sad enough about it...like I had gotten out enough...I think I'll just keep going until I find myself feeling pretty neutral to it.
Cheers and sexulance.
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Re: Fucking excellent way to eliminate stress and capacity to destress. [Re: AlphaFalfa]
#10796062 - 08/04/09 12:26 AM (14 years, 6 months ago) |
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Just realized it doesnt matter if you cry or not, just feeling the emotion is good enough.
FUCK this is much harder than I thought, I just am mentally relentlessly put down by my own self. Fuck it, I know whats better. thats what puts me through.
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Re: Fucking excellent way to eliminate stress and capacity to destress. [Re: AlphaFalfa]
#10796865 - 08/04/09 06:01 AM (14 years, 6 months ago) |
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I tried this song listening tek two nights ago, and I couldn't get anything positive from it. I just felt depressed after I did it, and subsequently went to bed. Woke up still feeling miserable.
What's the secret? How does one not take their own emotions seriously?
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Re: Fucking excellent way to eliminate stress and capacity to destress. [Re: Society]
#10797050 - 08/04/09 07:05 AM (14 years, 6 months ago) |
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Realize that emotions in themselves are useless to doing what you need to do.
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Re: Fucking excellent way to eliminate stress and capacity to destress. [Re: AlphaFalfa]
#10797359 - 08/04/09 09:07 AM (14 years, 6 months ago) |
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The things that you only feel kind sad about you need to wait to trigger. Feel them out and see what exactly is making you upset about it. Find exact words or phrases, mental pictures, etc. that bring about the strongest feelings then repeat that over and over again. Build it up until you burst or build it up until you exhaust it's effect on you.
SocietyRejects - You needed to go further. I think sometimes it's OK just to feel your emotions but if that doens't help then obviously you need to do more. I would recommend the advice above that I gave to Alpha
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Re: Fucking excellent way to eliminate stress and capacity to destress. [Re: fazdazzle]
#10797857 - 08/04/09 11:06 AM (14 years, 6 months ago) |
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"I just felt depressed after I did it, and subsequently went to bed. Woke up still feeling miserable."
If the pain is really deep, you will first only uncover the preliminary emotion. If you keep diligent, eventually what will happen is a reliving of the event(in the context of sadness not anger/frustration) When this becomes reality you will get like different keys to open your heart, in the form of memories that are infused with thought. When you can recognize it and feel it, just remember it and let your mind go frantic and you will begin to cry. The process is hard at first and I forgot to mention that I did not cry and hardly felt sad at first. Actually, at first couple of times I just listened for the reminiscing and showing my friend about a special song for me. It was when I began to feel sad and teary after the thrid fourth time listening that I realized that I still have pains that run deep.
How do you not take emotions seriously?
My answer to that is - is it useful to your happiness to take them seriously? If your life is about being happy, then the answer would easily be no in this situation, because all you are looking to do is release emotions - not find out who it is in your life that makes you feel amazing and thus who to spend time with most.
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Re: Fucking excellent way to eliminate stress and capacity to destress. [Re: AlphaFalfa]
#10879717 - 08/17/09 11:48 PM (14 years, 6 months ago) |
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I cant actually testify through experience that the above post is true.
Just did it for the fourth time in a month tonight for about 10 minutes.
I had thought this one song which is a strong link to one of those very stressful and despair ridden times in my life, simply was either not strong enough to take me to tears or that the event was not as despairging as I had thought it was.
HOWEVER, tonight I cried for the first time over it and it felt AMAZING - I did the other two songs as well and now I can actually like cry tears of joy with those, just because I am like nearing some sort of emotional resolve with them, COMPLELTLY, not just mentally.
The tears were kind of dry for the other two events, where before they were strong bouts for like minutes. It is interesting to see the development.
AS for long term effects, my depression is alot easier to handle and change. Also anxiety, panic attack type emotions simply do not show up anymore. Oh and also, morning anxiety, is disappearing to. I used to get anxiety every now. Like something was just going to go wrong, horribly wrong for no apparent reason.
I have not felt that anxiety in two weeks, wow! I just realized that.
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Re: Fucking excellent way to eliminate stress and capacity to destress. [Re: AlphaFalfa]
#10879724 - 08/17/09 11:49 PM (14 years, 6 months ago) |
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Also the songs follow in your head after the event and they are really nice to have in your head, once you have cried over them. They remind you of the good times you are in!
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Re: Fucking excellent way to eliminate stress and capacity to destress. [Re: AlphaFalfa]
#10881932 - 08/18/09 10:58 AM (14 years, 6 months ago) |
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That's awesome!
Interestingly enough, as far as your anxiety comment goes, I have found that when I used to get anxiety, there would be a background of sadness. If I just dove into the anxiety I would get extremely sad...come to think of it, the same goes for anger. Maybe I already said this in this thread? not sure, cuz i posted it somewhere on the shroomery not too long ago. Oh well, it's worth repeating.
So I know this thread is all about music linked emotions....but most of my own ill emotions usually come out of reliving memories or enlivening future fears/hopes/expectations. What have you done to tackle those?
What I'm finding out through this disassembling process is that I have been avoiding crappy emotions for most of my life. We are essentially taught to not come to grips with our emotions. Could this be why it seems like women are generally happier than men? "Girls just wanna have fun" Since they have been given the OK to cry. Guys on the other hand are discouraged from crying, so emotions build.
Even yet, I'm pretty sure everybody avoids bad emotions a lot of their life...this should be something that's a core teaching...somewhere; it wouldn't work in a public school system, so it would be relegated to the home environment, which would probably be easier to work through this process in anyway. Emotional Quotient ftw!
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Re: Fucking excellent way to eliminate stress and capacity to destress. [Re: fazdazzle]
#10882699 - 08/18/09 01:04 PM (14 years, 6 months ago) |
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"What have you done to tackle those?"
I do no tackle those emotions. I analyze whether they are useful for a split second and either attempt generate a new emotion or try and remind myself that the emotion is useful or useless and why this is and/or is not.
Oh yeah, girls are generally not the psycho ones who murder at large, as well. Its always guys and I've seen that anger builds up because of these emotions.
This feeling of emotion will never be alrite though, it would take a shit load of honesty from people in 'everyday' situations to change it. But mostly people are in a competative social framework where honesty about emotions is detrimental to their success and ironically their happiness.
I just stay away from social situations that involve more than two people and even then I still do not enjoy it, especially when you bring sexuality in to the picutre....holy fucking christ have mercy, sexuality is the most fucked up thing with people and people experiences. It actually requires the opposite of what we do to make it better, silence and denial.
lol I can see it now, hey guys, sometimes I am afraid that women wont like my penis size and I feel downright nasty sometimes when I feel jelous....'Response would be; GET OVER it DUDe, or maybe if you werent such a wiener and more manly like me you wouldnt feel afraid. All the rest would just nod their heads.
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