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Anonymous #5
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I hear ya.. im 22 and live with the rents. i was laid off and had to move back in. now im having a hard time finding one. on top of that I have no friends, Im one dissocial mother fucker. I havnt realy left the house in months, I can talk to people but get real nervous and hit with anxiety attacks. every one I went to school with that i was freinds with ive lost contact with. so i know how it is anon 1...
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Anonymous #5 said: Im one dissocial mother fucker. I havnt realy left the house in months, I can talk to people but get real nervous and hit with anxiety attacks. every one I went to school with that i was freinds with ive lost contact with. so i know how it is anon 1...
I can relate. I have some friends, but all my close friends dont even live near by and I don't keep in touch too often- except over the summer sometimes.
I get nervous around people I don't know sometimes too- like getting the shakes almost------ which is why I make sure not to smoke weed when I know I'll have to go out and sometimes take low dose benzo to make more laid back----- I also get really lost in my head and it can be hard to find a normal wave length with people------
we'll make it through this though! at least we have our health
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Anonymous #6
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Damn I knew it was skatealex without even opening the topic. Skate go and live. Stop using the internet and all kinds of drugs to escape from everything because this is clearly what you do.
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Anonymous #5 said: Im one dissocial mother fucker. I havnt realy left the house in months, I can talk to people but get real nervous and hit with anxiety attacks. every one I went to school with that i was freinds with ive lost contact with. so i know how it is anon 1...
I can relate. I have some friends, but all my close friends dont even live near by and I don't keep in touch too often- except over the summer sometimes.
I get nervous around people I don't know sometimes too- like getting the shakes almost------ which is why I make sure not to smoke weed when I know I'll have to go out and sometimes take low dose benzo to make more laid back----- I also get really lost in my head and it can be hard to find a normal wave length with people------
we'll make it through this though! at least we have our health
Alex, I've read many of your posts and I can really relate to your situation.
I used to have social anxiety problems. I couldn't stand being in social situations without trapping myself in seemingly never ending, self defeating thought loops. I was mildly agoraphobic, I couldn't even take the trash out without fearing that one of my neighbors was going to drive by and possibly see me. I was still a minor at this time, so my mother forced me to go to school not understanding my condition, she just though I was lazy. Walking through the hallways was painful, standing up in front of class was pure torture. After school I would go home and sit around on the computer all day smoking weed. I had one or two friends who were in the exact same boat as me.
Through some positive lifestyle changes, I overcame this bullshit within six months to a year. It was hard at first, but got significantly easier overtime. Everybody deals with some type of minor anxiety, so don't trick yourself into thinking everybody's thinking about you.
First off, dude you really need to stop smoking weed for awhile. While I love weed as much as you do, cannabis really inhibited my socializing skills. When you're high, it is really hard to get out of your lair and go meet people. Try and take a three week break and tell me your anxiety doesn't get better.
Secondly, start living a healthier lifestyle. Eat right and start working out. It will work wonders for your confidence. Skating is great cardio, and try to put some muscle on your frame. The ladies will definitely take notice, which is a huge confidence booster. Also, not to suggest anything, but when I was in you're situation I was chronically masturbating, which also affected the way I though people viewed me. Try to jack off only a few times a week.
You got to start putting yourself out there more. It will be uncomfortable and embarrassing at first but this will pass with time (quicker then you think). You go to college dude, start talking to people. No matter how small your town, there is a party going on somewhere on Friday night. Lower your standards when talking to people. Not everyone has be a like minded shroomerite to be cool.
Most of all, learn to love yourself. If you can really look in the mirror and honestly say you love yourself, you shouldn't give a FUCK what other people think of you.
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Anonymous #8
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I know the feeling, 23, live at home, virgin, dead end job. Haven't had a gf in like 5 years. Ummmm hey atleast I have some good Penis Envy chocolates and I am hitting 2 Phish shows next week! I anticipate it to be a stellar time.
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Anonymous #8
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I think we all just need to quit looking at the things we don't have and be grateful for what we do have. Maybe someday we will get laid if we get out and start applying ourselves and socializing with more peeps. For now though meh, atleast the internet is here for us lmao...
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Anonymous #6 said: Damn I knew it was skatealex without even opening the topic. Skate go and live. Stop using the internet and all kinds of drugs to escape from everything because this is clearly what you do.
There is no where to skate around here but I am gonna start going to the city to hang out with a friend and skate there some days in the summer- last time I did this it made me feel really good actually! skating is a good way to get out- but in my town it can be really boring because no one skates and there are no spots
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While I love weed as much as you do, cannabis really inhibited my socializing skills. When you're high, it is really hard to get out of your lair and go meet people. Try and take a three week break and tell me your anxiety doesn't get better.
Secondly, start living a healthier lifestyle. Eat right and start working out. It will work wonders for your confidence. Skating is great cardio, and try to put some muscle on your frame. The ladies will definitely take notice, which is a huge confidence booster. Lower your standards when talking to people. Not everyone has be a like minded shroomerite to be cool.
Most of all, learn to love yourself. If you can really look in the mirror and honestly say you love yourself, you shouldn't give a FUCK what other people think of you.

sage advice! I am done with smoking weed for a bit- only vaporizing now- and I have to tell you- vaping gives me no anxiety effect, even the opposite because it makes me feel happy- unlike when I smoke and turn into a zombie 
I am also starting to go running on my treadmill every few days as a way to boost my energy and mind + be healthy. I probably could use some healthier foods though- eat too much sugar 
at the end of the day I really don't give a fuck what anyone thinks!! Just gotta lower my social standards and accept how people are
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Anonymous #8 said: I know the feeling, 23, live at home, virgin, dead end job. Haven't had a gf in like 5 years. Ummmm hey atleast I have some good Penis Envy chocolates and I am hitting 2 Phish shows next week! I anticipate it to be a stellar time. 
nothing beats a good concert! those shows should kick ass............. happy to say that I have at least gotten laid once but I think unless you're actively working on your lady skills or a player- sex is really one of those- being in the right place at the right time kind of things IMO - I have certain standards for girls even though I don't know many and I got lucky when I met this cool chick a few years ago- but she is all the way in Israel so
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Anonymous #8 said: I think we all just need to quit looking at the things we don't have and be grateful for what we do have. Maybe someday we will get laid if we get out and start applying ourselves and socializing with more peeps. For now though meh, atleast the internet is here for us lmao...
true that! as lame as it might sound- I'm grateful to have a place like the Shroomery to talk to like minded/cool people + all the interesting stuff that gets posted on here
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Anonymous #9
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Funny, smoking weed improves my socializing habits, and sobriety hinders them.
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Anonymous #9 said: Funny, smoking weed improves my socializing habits, and sobriety hinders them. 
vaping helps my social habits- but when I am stoned from smoking I can get too lost in my head - which is good for jamming- but not regular social situations- smoking can make me zombieish sometimes. are you a long time smoker?
makes me think deeper then sobriety though- I find when I am sober it is easier to get sucked into things
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Anonymous #9
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I used to smoke fat blunts of medical-grade purple weed lined with hash all day, every day. The only reason I don't anymore is because I don't have the money to support my habit...
Being stoned makes me more confident because it makes me love myself and not give a shit about anybody else, or what they think, but not in an assholish way like being on coke. It just makes me cool!
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Anonymous #5
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I know when i was in highschool, and up to about a few years ago I would pop vikoden heavily because it would make me feel euphoric and make me pay more attention the butterflys in my stomach rather then the anxiety. it would make me more talkative and more relaxed.. I know what u mean about the shakes. i get those as well. i also get to where sometimes I dont realize im moving my arms or fingers, ill be talking to someo one and get anxiety look down and realize im figiting my fingers and catch my self... even dialing someones # like ordering a pizza or something. when i go to dial I can feel a warm intense feeling taking over, and my heart start pounding fast. after that its like a test. thinking of the best option to say after the person talks. sometimes i mess up on my words and cant get what im actually trying to say out. wich sucks because im pretty intelecual, im into science in shit and am intelegent(even though my writing may not be) so when i try to explain or talk to other people about it i seem like a simpleton..
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