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Anonymous #1
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Anal Sex
#9349846 - 12/02/08 08:10 AM (15 years, 3 months ago) |
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This is something I really want to experiment with my girlfriend. When I go down on her, I play with her asshole a lot, and she loves it and even vocally tells me that she loves it. Sometimes I slide my whole finger inside of her and she just squirms with pleasure.
The problem is that I can't figure out a way to bring it up: "hey baby, let me shove my dick in your asshole" just doesn't sound very smooth; and I can't run a scenario in my head that sounds smooth. Any tips on how to approach the situation? I know that all people and relationships are different, but perhaps some generic help here is what I need.
Sorry if this seems like a joke post or something especially when compared with some of the more serious posts in this forum, but, just thought I'd throw this out there.
Thanks.
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somebody716
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What i do is give her some ecstasy
But seriously, what you should do first (so it won't hurt her as much, and you should always be considerate) is work your way up. Try fingering her ass then once shes comfortable with it go all out! (I know it may sound gross to "finger her ass" but think about the prize at the end of the tunnel
try to take a page from the great Pierre Woodman, and if you don't know who that is...go look it up!
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backintheriver
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buy some anal lube. it is thicker than normal lube. i saw that on the show with that old ass hag umm... talk sex. i tried it with my gf and she said it hurt like a bitch so i would suggest alot of lube. ummm just be casual about it and ask her if she has ever thought about it.
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Veritas
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Why not try a variation on what you've posted? Mention that you've noticed how much she seems to enjoy anal play, and that you really like it, too. Then ask her if she would like to try anal sex. Trying to be "smooth" is not necessary, IMO.
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RobMarley420
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Just ask her or talk to her about it.
If she allready enjoys you fingering her ass, she'll love it when you fuck her ass.
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Icelander
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magikgrl
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With the right dude...it's totally fucking hot.
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HELLA_TIGHT
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I just said "I want to try it in ur butt sometime."
It hasn't worked yet, she said we can try it at some point, but not yet. I think she's scared of getting a bleeding asshole, but I'll be gentle!
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Anonymous #1
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thanks for the tips all. i think what i rather meant when i mentioned "smooth" was "being considerate". i don't want it to sound like i just want to pound her ass raw or something. i want it to be good for both of us, and in my mind, if she enjoys the anal attention i give her, how could she not at least be curious about anal sex as well?
what would be the most comfortable position to start with if we proceeded with it? i have heard letting her be on top is good so that she can control the motion. i have also hear that her being on her back (missionary) is good too because it really allows for a relaxed position. i think the 2nd of those two is the best option.
what is a good brand of anal lube?
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magikgrl
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Quote:
HELLA_TIGHT said: I just said "I want to try it in ur butt sometime."
It hasn't worked yet, she said we can try it at some point, but not yet. I think she's scared of getting a bleeding asshole, but I'll be gentle!
Def be gentle, go slow. Thats what made it so enjoyable for me the first time cause he was really good at what he was doing. He didn't just dry smash my shitbox.
-------------------- "In the 60s people took acid to make the world weird. Now the world is weird and people take Prozac to make it normal...go figure." Becoming human was not part of the plan... I wish I could be as high as my tolerance-danlennon Reality is a crutch for those that can't cope with drugs.
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Veritas
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No, woman on top & missionary are not good positions for an anal beginner. Her muscles will be most relaxed if she is on her stomach. Don't try for full penetration the first few times, and allow her to push back towards you rather than you thrusting into her. Indulge in lots of sex play so that she is fully aroused.
Check out Adam & Eve for anal lube...they have user reviews on every product.
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aDoS
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Ok, the best way to bring up anal sex with a women is simply ask, "what do you think about anal sex?"
Then they should give you an answer that helps you decide to ask them or not ask them for anal sex.
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Veritas
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Re: Anal Sex [Re: aDoS]
#9352706 - 12/02/08 05:51 PM (15 years, 3 months ago) |
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Wow, you mean you can talk to women just like you'd talk to a guy?
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magikgrl
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Re: Anal Sex [Re: Veritas]
#9353000 - 12/02/08 06:26 PM (15 years, 3 months ago) |
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Some of us are cool like that, yeah
-------------------- "In the 60s people took acid to make the world weird. Now the world is weird and people take Prozac to make it normal...go figure." Becoming human was not part of the plan... I wish I could be as high as my tolerance-danlennon Reality is a crutch for those that can't cope with drugs.
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Re: Anal Sex [Re: magikgrl]
#9353414 - 12/02/08 07:08 PM (15 years, 3 months ago) |
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what?
don't even ask dude.
Like an earlier poster said, just work your way up.
Use your fingers first and then take it out of her vag and attempt to stick it into the stink-box. If she's down with it, she will let you continue. If she's not, she'll tell you.
Take it slow... be gentle... it is oh so tight at first...
That's the best way to "bring it up" IMO.
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Mitchnast
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Re: Anal Sex [Re: Ginseng1]
#9353431 - 12/02/08 07:11 PM (15 years, 3 months ago) |
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Not appropriate for this forum
~Whiskey
Edited by WhiskeyClone (12/03/08 11:51 AM)
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PDU
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Discuss it with her before you are intimate, when you are joking around, clothed and comfortable.
See if she's comfortable with it, see if she might introduce toys + lube, discuss positions + then "feel her out" on the issue.
If it goes good, and she sounds into it, start preparing and take the plunge whenever she feels good. Bring it up, but dont force it.
You have to have humility with buttsex.
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Anonymous #1
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Re: Anal Sex [Re: PDU]
#9355607 - 12/03/08 12:10 AM (15 years, 3 months ago) |
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Quote:
PDU said:
You have to have humility with buttsex.
haha, so perfectly/bluntly put, i love it.
thanks all, i think i have the confidence to go through with this. i don't want to mess things up and for it to get all weird with this girl, i think she's a keeper. i think the recommendations mentioned here are the right approach with this one.
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RobMarley420
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Quote:
Anonymous said: what would be the most comfortable position to start with if we proceeded with it? i have heard letting her be on top is good so that she can control the motion. i have also hear that her being on her back (missionary) is good too because it really allows for a relaxed position. i think the 2nd of those two is the best option.
what is a good brand of anal lube?
Doggy Style is the best position for anal.
And you don't really need anal lube, any lube will work.
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Veritas
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Doggy style might be a good anal sex position for the guy, but it is definitely NOT comfortable for the girl.
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