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Cognitive_Shift
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Whats up with people?
#8822857 - 08/24/08 11:54 PM (15 years, 8 months ago) |
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I hold the door open for people, i say thank you, i say please, i say hello when passing complete strangers, when strangers ask for help i help to my fullest abilities. But when at the grocery store the cashiers dont say hello or your welcome. People dont treat me with the same respect that i give them. Is it because people in america dont care about anything except themselves, money and what other people think about them? Becuase this is what i see when i turn on the television. Instead of respect, tolerance and love.
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Ima Trooper
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I can understand the cashier thing. It would be difficult to address each and every person with an equal amount of heartfelt greeting, especially when you consider that they probably don't like their job much. I wouldn't stress it dude, sometimes you just have to lower your expectations, unfortunately.
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True story here, a few weeks ago I went to a Target store by my home to get a few things, and the woman in line in front of me - opened her wallet while she was turning towards the cashier, and her credit card fell on the floor without her noticing.... She was writing a check, and I picked it up and handed it to her saying "excuse me miss, you dropped this".... She never even turned the 90 degrees to look in my direction, stuffed it back in her wallet, said nothing, and on she went....
Now, I wasn't expecting a medal or anything, really, but a "thank you", or a simple smile, or something would have been - nice for the acknowledgment of what could have happened if the card got into the wrong hands or something.... Either way, I prolly~ saved her a lot of time and/or trouble.... The whole non-reaction just felt really strange and surreal.... I KNOW that I brushed my teeth that morning....!? 
What can you do..... 
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Re: Whats up with people? [Re: PhanTomCat]
#8822886 - 08/25/08 12:04 AM (15 years, 8 months ago) |
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I cashier at a grocery store and and greet every customer that comes in my line as long as they're not busy talking on their cell ignoring me. Granted after about 50 customers the greeting's aren't always heartfelt do to the robot-ness of my conversations. But hey I put out the effort.
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Re: Whats up with people? [Re: PhanTomCat]
#8822898 - 08/25/08 12:09 AM (15 years, 8 months ago) |
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i went to a new lake today to kayak but it cost $4 to go out, even with ur own boat. So i get back to the dock to tell my friend cause i had no money, turns out neither does he. we're standing there talking about what we should do, when some guy walks up and says "did i hear you say u need 4 bucks?" and hands me a five, writes down his address, and says just mail him the money back. nicest thing anyone could do.
...but ya i know wut ur saying some ppl are just dicks, deal with it. jus keep being nice cuase this world needs people like you
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Cognitive_Shift
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Re: Whats up with people? [Re: Razor3lade]
#8822908 - 08/25/08 12:12 AM (15 years, 8 months ago) |
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^^^well atleast you respond, and at least your around people u cant be that mad. In prison for punishment they take you to isolation, away from murderers rapist and violent offenders. We as humans crave human interaction with one another doesnt matter who you are, and it frustrates me when people cant be kind
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Edited by Cognitive_Shift (08/25/08 12:14 AM)
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andrewss
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Yeah people can suck, just cant let it get to you
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just keep being a good person. you will meet some nice people, people that matter will notice.
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Terrapin78
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man i know what you mean. you cant let it get you down though. you gotta keep spreading the love. after all thats what its all about isnt it?
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Yeah I'm totally with you on this. Good manners cost nothing. I smile at people on the street and they don't smile back. 
In fact, I would go as far as to say you can instantly tell if somebody is cool and intelligent or not by whether they use good manners.
The other day though, I was buying beer, (I think it was Friday night), and I hadn't taken enough money. The cashier was cool as fuck and ended up letting me off with £2 (almost $4) rather than making me get rid of some bottles, which I had offered to do immediately. It really brightens your whole day when somebody does something needlessly nice to a total stranger.
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Quote:
Cognitive_Shift said: Is it because people in america dont care about anything except themselves, money and what other people think about them?

If this is the belief you have about people in America, then that's what you can expect. These people that don't reciprocate your kindness: do you actually love and respect them, or just attempt to?
Cashiers see hundreds of people a day, and no matter how friendly they are, most customers won't return their kindness. Some of them take this as a reason to stop being friendly; others continue to be friendly day in and day out, regardless of what they get back for it. If you are going to be kind, expect nothing in return, not even a thank you. It's only genuine giving when you don't expect repayment of some kind.
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Good thread. I often feel the same way as you and although I try to not let it get to me it sometimes makes me wonder. I really dislike the few cashiers and service people I sometimes run into that will not even say anything back to me when I say something to them. I just go on and try to spread good vibes instead of bad. It's all a brother or sister can really do.
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Re: Whats up with people? [Re: altershroom]
#8825486 - 08/25/08 03:13 PM (15 years, 8 months ago) |
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yeah people are rude. even when they are given a place to be rude they have to carry it everywhere they go.
Its because everyone else just lets it happen.
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DNKYD
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Just keep doing what you are doing, man. I try to do the same at every opportunity. The ones that don't give a shit will continue to not give a shit. The ones that want to see a change in their community will put in the extra effort and be friendly and helpful to their fellow human.
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I'm the same way, people (especially up north, when I used to live in the south it was completely different) just don't seem to care about others...
What I do to stress the lack of respect and courtesy from others is to say, "Your Welcome" really excitedly whenever anyone doesn't say it themselves. My friends always say, "Hey" or "How's it going?" to people on the street, in stores, cashiers, etc.. and when they don't respond I'll just play it off and say "Yooooo, I'm good dude how bout you?"...people tend to give me dirty looks when I address their behavior in this way
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Quote:
Cognitive_Shift said: I hold the door open for people, i say thank you, i say please, i say hello when passing complete strangers, when strangers ask for help i help to my fullest abilities. But when at the grocery store the cashiers dont say hello or your welcome. People dont treat me with the same respect that i give them. Is it because people in america dont care about anything except themselves, money and what other people think about them? Becuase this is what i see when i turn on the television. Instead of respect, tolerance and love.
I made this same rant earlier today during my lunchbreak. Its disheartening. But then I realized that it doesn't do much good to get upset about how other people choose to live their lives. Some people are just discourteous assholes, and nothing you say can change that.
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Quote:
Cognitive_Shift said: I hold the door open for people, i say thank you, i say please, i say hello when passing complete strangers, when strangers ask for help i help to my fullest abilities. But when at the grocery store the cashiers dont say hello or your welcome. People dont treat me with the same respect that i give them. Is it because people in america dont care about anything except themselves, money and what other people think about them? Becuase this is what i see when i turn on the television. Instead of respect, tolerance and love.
stop being such a pussy.
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Quote:
Cognitive_Shift said: I hold the door open for people, i say thank you, i say please, i say hello when passing complete strangers, when strangers ask for help i help to my fullest abilities. But when at the grocery store the cashiers dont say hello or your welcome. People dont treat me with the same respect that i give them. Is it because people in america dont care about anything except themselves, money and what other people think about them? Becuase this is what i see when i turn on the television. Instead of respect, tolerance and love.
people just dont care. they dont say excuse me, they dont say thank you, they dont say please, they dont make eye contact so they dont feel obligated to say ANYTHING. and it really pissed me off, i am kind, courteous and go out of my way to do things like hold a door for someone, even if theyre 10+ steps away. i have people let go of the door when im 2 steps away from the door. it has brought me to the point where i get dowright rude when i dont get a response. if i hold the door and i get no response or something similar i flat out say "fuck you too asshole." plenty loud to hear. generally loud enough for the whole place to hear. its funny seeing the mortified look on their faces. people dont know what to say when you call them out for being a dick.
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Re: Whats up with people? [Re: LeftyBurnz]
#8826241 - 08/25/08 05:54 PM (15 years, 8 months ago) |
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people are people...they are all different, and they can't/won't all conform to one thing or way of being...
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LeftyBurnz
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i guess if people are assholes then yes, people are people. theres nothing wrong with a little politeness. if i hold the fucking door for you, you can at least nod your fucking head at me.
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