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Locus
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Girl Trouble
#8331618 - 04/26/08 06:11 PM (15 years, 10 months ago) |
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So basically i meet this girl after a show im playing with my band...she calls me twice the next morning trying to get a hold of me.. i stay over her place the following night but i didnt have sex with her anything.. the thing is that i sexually ive been lacking for a while.. my sex drive i mean.. plus all the pills im on.. well some of them, they just make it impossible to fuck.. i didnt explain this to her but yeah i had a great time talking to her anyway all night and into morning...
anyway so basically weeks go by going back and forth with msgs on my phone and hers... after a while im thinking ok nothings going to happen with this girl cus eventually she just wouldnt call me back and so on.. i was pretty bummed for a while cus i really liked her and i was totally clear that she was feeling me.. anyway.. so out of nowhere just a few days ago before me next show with my new band she calls out of nowhere.. im like where have you been and how come you havent called me.. she says shess been so busy.. but that seems like such a lame excuse cus i mean theres always time to call, especially if she really liked me.. anyway i see her at this show and its real awkward after not talking for so long.. well anyway after the show i say lets get together and to give me a call.. still she hasnt called me back.. so i dunno what to think. i thought it was over before it started after all the time gone by since she called me back but then it was like it was reignited...its just like though, i knew we both were so into eachother that first night and then it was just fucked up and i barely heard from her... so ive been totally confused and am still totally confused except that i think by now theres no way anything can happen once again and shes still not calling me...
any advice or what? cus ive been really bummed about it lately
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Liquidkick
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Re: Girl Trouble [Re: Locus]
#8331630 - 04/26/08 06:15 PM (15 years, 10 months ago) |
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Yeah, you can't do that... ask her to call you. You are supposed to call her...
Society and lots of its bull shit.
So remember next time, tell her you are going to call her.
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Locus
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no but i did... and i called her a bunch of times over theres last few weeks... so she knows i like her and want to spend time with her.. its not that... just like after the show last night i leave her a voicemail saying lets get together and she hasnt called me back at all. but i mean she called me a lot in the beginning.. i called her back..id call her back and just get her voicemail msg... or others times id call her and shed be at work or whatever and say shed call me back.. but never would...
-------------------- The important thing is not to stop questioning. Curiosity has its own reason for existing. One cannot help but be in awe when he contemplates the mysteries of eternity, of life, of the marvelous structure of reality. It is enough if one tries merely to comprehend a little of this mystery every day. Never lose a holy curiosity. ~ Albert Einstein "Fear is the great barrier to human growth." ~ Dr. Robert Monroe ~~~*Dosis sola facit venenum*~~~ *Check my profile to listen to my music*
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makaveli8x8
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Re: Girl Trouble [Re: Locus]
#8331646 - 04/26/08 06:24 PM (15 years, 10 months ago) |
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sounds like alot of talking and no action
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adrug
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Re: Girl Trouble [Re: Locus]
#8331650 - 04/26/08 06:26 PM (15 years, 10 months ago) |
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Its possible that she now thinks you're not into her sexually or romantically if you didn't bother to make a move when you had ample opportunity. Even if that's not true, women read crazy shit into the most mundane things.
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AroundtheSon
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Re: Girl Trouble [Re: Locus]
#8331698 - 04/26/08 06:48 PM (15 years, 10 months ago) |
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throw her the hog. she wants it - and thinks you won't give it to her
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Locus
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yeah well maybe if shed actually get in touch with me now id try to.. haha..
i was thinking for sure, i knew positively she wanted my body that first night, haha.. i mean i call her back and this is the night after i meet her.. she had left me three msgs already wanting to get together.. so i call back saying we could out and do some things.. suggesting some stuff.. she asks if i just want to go to her place.. so i mean.. it seemed pretty obvious to me, haha. but yeah i wanted to explain myself about that too and i thought id have other opportunities... but no this chick just wont call me now.. its weird cus she was calling all the time even after that night.. and id call her back.. we talk .. everything seemed alright until she stopped completely.. i continued trying.. but to no avail.. except until thursdays nights show when i finally saw her again.. but still again no calls since then.. so im pretty pissed now.. i really liked this girl and i know she liked me too but after this long.. its like.. i dunno.. and its just killing me wondering what the fuck is going on..
-------------------- The important thing is not to stop questioning. Curiosity has its own reason for existing. One cannot help but be in awe when he contemplates the mysteries of eternity, of life, of the marvelous structure of reality. It is enough if one tries merely to comprehend a little of this mystery every day. Never lose a holy curiosity. ~ Albert Einstein "Fear is the great barrier to human growth." ~ Dr. Robert Monroe ~~~*Dosis sola facit venenum*~~~ *Check my profile to listen to my music*
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WhiskeyClone
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Re: Girl Trouble [Re: Locus]
#8334230 - 04/27/08 02:01 PM (15 years, 10 months ago) |
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I see two options:
1) Call her again and tell her you want to see her.
2) Forget about her.
-------------------- Welcome evermore to gods and men is the self-helping man. For him all doors are flung wide: him all tongues greet, all honors crown, all eyes follow with desire. Our love goes out to him and embraces him, because he did not need it. ~ R.W. Emerson, "Self-Reliance"
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appleorange
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I had no idea that Moby was so interesting.
He is actually related to Herman Melville, aka the dude who wrote Moby Dick.
Moby lived in an abandoned factory in a crack neighborhood in Stamford, Connecticut, and his loft in the abandoned factory had neither running water nor heat. "I used to collect bottles and cans and wait in line with homeless people to return them so that i could make enough money to buy groceries."
He is also a Vegan.
*In regards to your post, I agree with whiskey. Call her on the phone, don't text her and ask to go do something. If she declines or gets all wishy washy, just move on.
I usually don't bother with people that treat me this way, but if you think she is worth pursuing, call her.
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Locus
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yeah, i know... i have called her... and the problem is she always acts likes shes interested... shes asked me to go somewhere multiple times and said to call her later about it and then i call and she doesnt pick up.. or ill call and she'll say she'll call later cus shes working but doesnt... i mean ive made it totally clear that i want to talk to her and actually move things forward and all thats happened is the opposite... and yeah at this point i called and left a msg saying im done trying to talk to her. and that was that... i just have to get over it like i almost did before... ya know, i already thought it was totally over before too but then she calls me out of nowhere right before my show and says how busy shes been and how she wants to see me.. blah blah.. its like im dealing with the most confusing fucking girl ever.. truly.. ive never been so confused in my life... at least that i can remember... anyway yeah thanks for listening. this was a bit educating at the least. though i almost wish i never met her cus it only caused me a lot of pain.
-------------------- The important thing is not to stop questioning. Curiosity has its own reason for existing. One cannot help but be in awe when he contemplates the mysteries of eternity, of life, of the marvelous structure of reality. It is enough if one tries merely to comprehend a little of this mystery every day. Never lose a holy curiosity. ~ Albert Einstein "Fear is the great barrier to human growth." ~ Dr. Robert Monroe ~~~*Dosis sola facit venenum*~~~ *Check my profile to listen to my music*
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WhiskeyClone
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Re: Girl Trouble [Re: Locus]
#8341491 - 04/29/08 10:42 AM (15 years, 10 months ago) |
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Textbook flake. Don't waste your time.
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ohmatic
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Quote:
makaveli8x8 said: sounds like alot of talking and no action
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Ginseng1
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Re: Girl Trouble [Re: ohmatic]
#8342384 - 04/29/08 03:12 PM (15 years, 10 months ago) |
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Hey man.
Shitty feeling you must have now. I've been there.
Well, you said that you called her a bunch of times with no reply. Well, she told you some bullshit that she's been 'busy'. Well she is lying through her teeth and basicaly doesn't have the energy to pretend to like you or anything, she has no genuine feelings for you and there is nothing curretly that will excite her enough about you to seek you out, instead of avoiding you. Which she no doubt has been.
I will say only this:
She is no longer interested. Nothing you can do. Well, there actually is - you can do a whole bunch of dumb tricks to peak her interest again, but trust me, you don't want to put your energy into a girl that doesn't want you enough to actually be active in your efforts to woo her.
You deserve someone that actually wants you. That will actually go out of her way to get your attention. I have had girls that are interested, and some that are not. The ones that are interested will usually seek you out, unless they are shy. And in this case, it seems like your chick isn't shy, because you have already spent time and broken some ice. The ones that haven't been interested in me usually play the avoidance game. You would do the same, would you not? Or would you man up and tell the girl that you aren't interested? Most girls don't like to hurt peoples feelings so you can bet your ass she just doesn't want to hurt your feelings and be honest with you. She is simply no longer interested. She might have been for a little bit but shes over it, and now it's time for you to be.
Might sound a bit harsh but seriously, there is nothing for you in this girl. She might be attractive to you, but if there is no connection now, then forget it. It's just a physical attraction you have. You really don't even know her and I guarantee if this is how she is now with you, that a relaionship would be full of nothing.
Keep your eyes peeled for someone else. Some people click some people don't. Don't ever take this stuff personal. The only person you ever owe anything to is yourself. And your mother.
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sketchydelux
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Re: Girl Trouble [Re: Ginseng1]
#8344865 - 04/30/08 02:12 AM (15 years, 10 months ago) |
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adrug said: Its possible that she now thinks you're not into her sexually or romantically if you didn't bother to make a move when you had ample opportunity. Even if that's not true, women read crazy shit into the most mundane things.
you need to respectfully but assertively tell her shes getting the cock.
maybee since you didnt cock her out when u had the opportunity she moved on in her head ?
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makaveli8x8
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just call her up already, and tell her to come over for a "surprize", when she opens the door be dressed up as a fire man and be ready to hose her down.
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