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albino_shroom
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Question about a girl I'm dating.
#8265503 - 04/10/08 05:57 PM (15 years, 11 months ago) |
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Alright I've known her for like 7 years but was never friends with her. We were in different crowds so never talked but had classes with and shit like that. Then out of the blue a friend mf mine asks me if I remember her so basically got hooked up with her. Shy at first then I texted her one night just being fucked up and trying to chill with ppl. She comes over were getting fucked up I tried to kiss her shes not having it so I respect that. Then next thing I know were doing everything but sex. Then the next Day basically wouldn't talk to be because of her ex "That broke her hear". Later that day we chilled everything was all good nothing seemed wrong except the ex situation. Haven't talked in 2 days won't return calls/text. What should I do? What should I make of the situation? I think shes not over her ex so do say fuck it? or give it a chance? Any advice would be appreciated. Thanks -ALBINO
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Re: Question about a girl I'm dating. [Re: albino_shroom]
#8265507 - 04/10/08 05:58 PM (15 years, 11 months ago) |
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shes a ho
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Re: Question about a girl I'm dating. [Re: albino_shroom]
#8265514 - 04/10/08 05:59 PM (15 years, 11 months ago) |
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albino_shroom said: Alright I've known her for like 7 years but was never friends with her. We were in different crowds so never talked but had classes with and shit like that. Then out of the blue a friend mf mine asks me if I remember her so basically got hooked up with her. Shy at first then I texted her one night just being fucked up and trying to chill with ppl. She comes over were getting fucked up I tried to kiss her shes not having it so I respect that. Then next thing I know were doing everything but sex. Then the next Day basically wouldn't talk to be because of her ex "That broke her hear". Later that day we chilled everything was all good nothing seemed wrong except the ex situation. Haven't talked in 2 days won't return calls/text. What should I do? What should I make of the situation? I think shes not over her ex so do say fuck it? or give it a chance? Any advice would be appreciated. Thanks -ALBINO
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Re: Question about a girl I'm dating. [Re: albino_shroom]
#8265526 - 04/10/08 06:00 PM (15 years, 11 months ago) |
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Tell her just that. Tell her you're not sure what to make of the situation. Next, tell her how you feel. Afterwards make sure to bring up the Ex situation and how you are not sure if she has resolved that situation. I mean sometimes after a breakup people can just need or desire sex. So figure it out by asking her not us.
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DragonChaser
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Re: Question about a girl I'm dating. [Re: albino_shroom]
#8265542 - 04/10/08 06:02 PM (15 years, 11 months ago) |
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albino_shroom said: Then next thing I know were doing everything but sex. Then the next Day basically wouldn't talk to be because of her ex "That broke her hear".
So, she's deaf then? Maybe that has something to do with her shyness and difficulty connecting with you. You could learn some sign though, and that might help things along.
Seriously though- forget about her and start dating someone else. If you really like her, she will probably get upset that you're not talking to her and come running after you like a good little puppy anyway, and if not, well, you're dating someone else.
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Re: Question about a girl I'm dating. [Re: DragonChaser]
#8265580 - 04/10/08 06:06 PM (15 years, 11 months ago) |
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sounds like either shes not over him, or hes not really her ex yet lol.
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Re: Question about a girl I'm dating. [Re: C20H25N3O]
#8265640 - 04/10/08 06:20 PM (15 years, 11 months ago) |
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C20H25N3O said: Tell her just that. Tell her you're not sure what to make of the situation. Next, tell her how you feel. Afterwards make sure to bring up the Ex situation and how you are not sure if she has resolved that situation. I mean sometimes after a breakup people can just need or desire sex. So figure it out by asking her not us.
I would disagree with this tactic. She's probably feeling freaked out right now, which is why she's not answering his calls. The more he does the "I like you I don't know how you feel I know you're not over your ex what do you want to do", the more she's going to feel burdened by him. She's going to start talking to her friends saying things like "he wont leave me alone, he keeps calling, there's nothing between us, he can't take a hint". You already left the ball in her court by calling and texting, let her decide whether to hit it back or not. Don't talk to her until she talks to you first, and then act friendly but not really interested.
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Re: Question about a girl I'm dating. [Re: DragonChaser]
#8265687 - 04/10/08 06:27 PM (15 years, 11 months ago) |
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eh, I normally just say whats on my mind. I concede that may not always be the best strategy.
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albino_shroom
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Re: Question about a girl I'm dating. [Re: C20H25N3O]
#8265704 - 04/10/08 06:31 PM (15 years, 11 months ago) |
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Yea I think you right I exted and called already. I'm gonna text something along the line of this Tell her just that. Tell her you're not sure what to make of the situation. Next, tell her how you feel. Afterwards make sure to bring up the Ex situation and how you are not sure if she has resolved that situation. I mean sometimes after a breakup people can just need or desire sex. So figure it out by asking her not us.- Thanks for the good advice C20H25N30
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Re: Question about a girl I'm dating. [Re: C20H25N3O]
#8265706 - 04/10/08 06:31 PM (15 years, 11 months ago) |
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Over the years I've become a manipulative bastard. I concede that also may not always be the best strategy.
Edit- I would like to voice my strong disagreement Albino. I strongly believe you are working your way firmly into the 'just friends' category. Every time you call/text, you're adding to her burden and making her not want to call/text you back even more. I've done what you're doing a dozen times, and its always just fucked me in the ass.
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Edited by DragonChaser (04/10/08 06:37 PM)
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Re: Question about a girl I'm dating. [Re: DragonChaser]
#8265727 - 04/10/08 06:35 PM (15 years, 11 months ago) |
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it sounds like she used you
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Re: Question about a girl I'm dating. [Re: danlennon3]
#8265751 - 04/10/08 06:39 PM (15 years, 11 months ago) |
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oh, I personally wouldn't do that sort of thing over a text.
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Re: Question about a girl I'm dating. [Re: C20H25N3O]
#8265776 - 04/10/08 06:42 PM (15 years, 11 months ago) |
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5 bucks says he never gets with her now.
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Re: Question about a girl I'm dating. [Re: C20H25N3O]
#8265786 - 04/10/08 06:44 PM (15 years, 11 months ago) |
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Your putting the pussy on a pedestal.
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Re: Question about a girl I'm dating. [Re: DragonChaser]
#8265788 - 04/10/08 06:44 PM (15 years, 11 months ago) |
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Tell her you have herpes.
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albino_shroom
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Re: Question about a girl I'm dating. [Re: C20H25N3O]
#8265793 - 04/10/08 06:45 PM (15 years, 11 months ago) |
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I texted her like 2-3 times and one call in two days. Last time texted her was like 2pm today and I have call/text since so I will take your advice not contact her. She said she like me because I was mysterious or some shit like that so me calling is a dumb idea. Its better to not have to learn by making your own mistakes when people can give you advice from theirs.BTW I may still get sum all that was said was "whats up" "yo", Didn't leave a message.
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Edited by albino_shroom (04/10/08 06:48 PM)
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Re: Question about a girl I'm dating. [Re: albino_shroom]
#8265822 - 04/10/08 06:51 PM (15 years, 11 months ago) |
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By the way you described it, I thought you had been pouring your heart out in texts to her. I know its tough when a girl is on your mind a lot through the day, but the best thing I've found really is just to make some distance... If she's really into you, she'll start thinking about you, and wondering why you haven't called/texted in the past few days, and will end up calling you. And if she's not into you, well, c'est la vie. But it sounds like she is. Just take it easy and real her in slowly man. She'll come.
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albino_shroom
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Re: Question about a girl I'm dating. [Re: DragonChaser]
#8265896 - 04/10/08 07:07 PM (15 years, 11 months ago) |
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Man thank you for some great advice. It's funny how obvious it is to me now god. Yea not pouring my heart out or anything like that but get this. Her text to me yesterday late "would it b bad if i said i wanted to fuck u" lol that just blew my mind outta nowhere too.
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Re: Question about a girl I'm dating. [Re: DragonChaser]
#8265902 - 04/10/08 07:08 PM (15 years, 11 months ago) |
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short anecdote: I met a girl once who was madly in love with her bf. we became friends. nothing happend, because A. I'm very shy when it comes to making the first move, and B. she had a bf and I would never do that anyway. So about 2 or 3 months later (we hadn't talked in a few weeks) she calls me and says she broke up with her bf. we hung out, and not drunk or anything she started hinting that she wanted to do..stuff. we kissed, and ended up having sex. after that, things were fine. we only did it once, and hung out several times over the next 4 or 5 months. Then I noticed one day that she had dissapeared from my myspace, hadn't returned my calls or texts or anything in a while. I looked her up on myspace and sent her a message. 'why are you not speaking to me?'
You pressured me into having sex even though you knew i was still in love with my boyfriend! blah blah blah.
Total and absolute bullshit. She had to pressure me into doing it, quite litterally. mind you this is six months after it happened, and this was the first I was hearing of any issue.
Moral of the story: Girls are fucking crazy. every. single. one of them. sorry girls.
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Re: Question about a girl I'm dating. [Re: albino_shroom]
#8265923 - 04/10/08 07:14 PM (15 years, 11 months ago) |
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albino_shroom said:Her text to me yesterday late "would it b bad if i said i wanted to fuck u" lol that just blew my mind outta nowhere too.
Dude, you're totally in if you play your cards right.
Edit- bongoboy... did she get back with her ex? what I'm picturing is they got back together, he asked her if she slept with anyone, she said you, but made it sound like you pressured her and she didn't want it. He made her remove you from her myspace and promise not to talk to you anymore, and she convinced herself what she told him was true. Am I right?
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Edited by DragonChaser (04/10/08 07:18 PM)
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