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Sex hurts my girl...WTF?
#7973002 - 02/03/08 01:14 PM (16 years, 1 month ago) |
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So last night I was hanging with this chick. I've known her for awhile, but anyway we started making out. Eventually, we started thinking about sex. I had been rubbing her clit and she seemed turned on, so I put on he condom and tried to penetrate and I couldn't even get inside. She would start moaning on contact but then she would say it was too painful. I ate her out so she might get wetter but that didn't work either. Then today I read about dyspareunia. This is freaking me out. I really like this girl and don't want to be restricted because of this. Anyone else had this problem? I don't have the slightest clue what to do. She was beating herself up over it and it made me feel bad.
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appleorange
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Re: Sex hurts my girl...WTF? [Re: Anonymous #1]
#7973103 - 02/03/08 01:34 PM (16 years, 1 month ago) |
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has she ever had sex before?
kind of weird.
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Syle
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Re: Sex hurts my girl...WTF? [Re: Anonymous #1]
#7973163 - 02/03/08 01:46 PM (16 years, 1 month ago) |
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Anonymous said: So last night I was hanging with this chick. I've known her for awhile, but anyway we started making out. Eventually, we started thinking about sex. I had been rubbing her clit and she seemed turned on, so I put on he condom and tried to penetrate and I couldn't even get inside. She would start moaning on contact but then she would say it was too painful. I ate her out so she might get wetter but that didn't work either. Then today I read about dyspareunia. This is freaking me out. I really like this girl and don't want to be restricted because of this. Anyone else had this problem? I don't have the slightest clue what to do. She was beating herself up over it and it made me feel bad.
maybe she just didn't want to have sex with you, lol. and that was her way of disapproving it.
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appleorange
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Re: Sex hurts my girl...WTF? [Re: Syle]
#7973197 - 02/03/08 01:53 PM (16 years, 1 month ago) |
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I mean. How could a girl not be aware of being unable to fit a penis in her vagina? Seriously.
Even if she's never had sex, she had to have masturbated at some point.
I don't know, maybe she has some kind of pussy disease.
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Re: Sex hurts my girl...WTF? [Re: Anonymous #1]
#7973470 - 02/03/08 02:41 PM (16 years, 1 month ago) |
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You aren't the guy with the 10 inch cock are you?
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QuantumMeltdown
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Do it in the butt.
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Querjek
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The first few times my girlfriend and I tried to have sex, she said it was too painful. Eventually I talked to a doctor about it, and he said that that's not entirely abnormal, but to keep trying, to try having her on top, etc. Also, a large amount of sex relates to comfort with the other person, so perhaps give that some time. She probably will be able to have sex given time.
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Re: Sex hurts my girl...WTF? [Re: Anonymous #1]
#7974566 - 02/03/08 06:25 PM (16 years, 1 month ago) |
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That's not nearly as uncommon as you would think--I know several girls who either couldn't have sex the first time they tried, or were in a lot of pain. Just keep trying, and make sure she doesn't get anxious, because that will make her tense up even more, which obviously won't help. Don't worry, it'll happen, just give it time.
Edited by purifymymind (02/03/08 06:26 PM)
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mr_pat
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Re: Sex hurts my girl...WTF? [Re: purifymymind]
#7975938 - 02/03/08 11:24 PM (16 years, 1 month ago) |
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Bite her eat and pop it in there
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champ
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Re: Sex hurts my girl...WTF? [Re: Anonymous #1]
#7976966 - 02/04/08 09:15 AM (16 years, 1 month ago) |
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She could just be inexperienced or small. Try not to make penetration the focus or goal when you make out with her. Stress, fear, tension or even some issue that you have no idea about could be going on so it's a good idea not to focus on penetration right now and concentrate on all of the other things you can do together to have orgasms.
Also, I hope she's been to the gynecologist recently. Something like a cervical or ovarian cyst or fibroids can cause pain with penetration and around 1/4 of women get these at some point in their lives (usually during their 20's and 30's--the childbearing years). If there's any kind of cyst or growth going on, penetration can be painful because it puts pressure on the cyst. So if she feels a kind of internal pressure, or "fullness" that makes penetration uncomfortable, urge her to get checked for something like that.
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Anonymous #1
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Re: Sex hurts my girl...WTF? [Re: champ]
#7977441 - 02/04/08 11:51 AM (16 years, 1 month ago) |
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Thank you guys. I did a little bit more research yesterday and I can see now that she was very nervous (even though she asked me). I imagine if we keep trying it will lose some of its shock value too. Thanks again
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Caribou_Lou
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Re: Sex hurts my girl...WTF? [Re: Anonymous #1]
#7978868 - 02/04/08 05:48 PM (16 years, 1 month ago) |
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some girls are just like that, the first girl i fucked was definitely no virgin and she said it hurt
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Virus_with_Shoes
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Phumfeinz said: You aren't the guy with the 10 inch cock are you?
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ChiefGreenLeaf
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no I'm not the guy lol. i new someone would ask me that, especially after i saw the thread
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Virus_with_Shoes
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Okay, thanks for stepping out of the shadows there Chief.
Here's my 2 centavos... since she's not getting wet she could not be entirely comfortable letting go with you and be really nervous. The other possibility is a physiological problem, i.e. hormonal imbalance or lack of estrogen. Nothing a bottle o' lube can't solve
Is she perhaps on birth control?
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Caribou_Lou
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yeah get some lube if she's not getting wet..
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Re: Sex hurts my girl...WTF? [Re: Caribou_Lou]
#7984857 - 02/05/08 10:04 PM (16 years, 1 month ago) |
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She isn't on birth control so idk. I was actually thinking about the lube but that might weird her out. I'll just bring it up and see how she reacts.
this whole anonymous posting is hard to keep up with. oh well its just the internet.
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mrsautoman
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Under normal conditions the vagina lays almost flat. When aroused it expands in length and width. She was probably just nervous and her body was responding by cinching that hole up tight.
SO, take more time. Even if you have to engage in foreplay without having intercourse a half dozen times. Eventually she will relax and so will her box. Also, try using your fingers for penetration before you try to ram her.
Also bear in mind some chicks are just a tad dry. If you're unsure how to introduce lube into the situation try looking at it like this: since you're OBVIOUSLY going to be wearing a condom, tell her that condoms and lube go hand in hand. It's a totally common place thing to need lube while using a condom. Or if you don't want to tell her at all, just buy the small one time use lube packs and apply it after putting on your condom. Chances are she's not gonna be paying close attention while you're suiting up anyway.
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hpi
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Re: Sex hurts my girl...WTF? [Re: mrsautoman]
#7990968 - 02/07/08 09:57 AM (16 years, 1 month ago) |
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Lube and make her comfortable.
Don't you wish all chicks were like porn stars? Able to take anything any time.
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Re: Sex hurts my girl...WTF? [Re: hpi]
#7990975 - 02/07/08 09:58 AM (16 years, 1 month ago) |
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Able to take anything any time.
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