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kidaihuan
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Registered: 07/25/07
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My Chinese girlfriend and I had a rough few days.........so we decided to get married.

#7712818 - 12/03/07 08:46 PM (16 years, 4 months ago)

A lot of you already know about this Chinese girlfriend, as someone decided to point out the fact that I was making some posts about her in the anonymous forum.

Anyway, I'll give a bit of info on what's up.

Here's a basic time line of the relationship.
-We internet dated for a long time, fell in love, sent nudes, etc.
-I came to Shanghai to live with her.
-She told her parents, they wouldn't let me live there, so we got an apartment.
-One month later, I had to go back to Canada.
-Four months later, she broke up with me because her parents put too much pressure on her.
-I spend a couple months finishing my study, then jump on a plane to China.
-I spend one month living with a female friend.
-I spend three months living in a hostel.
-The ex-girlfriend contacts me and asks me if I want to go to Beijing.
-I meet her in Beijing, she's there for work so she has a hotel room.
-The hotel room has one bed.
-She fakes conversation, with a small, sexy silk dress on. Nipples visible through it.
-Tells me she wants sex, but after Beijing we won't see each other again.
-We had a great time for three days, then went back to Shanghai separately.
-We go on some dates, I go with her and her cousins a few times.

Then we're basically back together, but her parents don't know and she won't promise me any future together, although she talks about our future, she will not admit there is one.

What follows is what happened the last couple days.
Take note that this was all over MSN, so her quotes are exact and the grammar is unchanged.
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I was talking to some American that lived in Shanghai for seven years, primarily because he likes weed, dated a Chinese girl of 23 when he was 14, and he looks like a Mexican.

We talked, and talked, and he told me that his dad used to make 30,000rmb teaching English in Shanghai. I ask about his resume, 35 years experience, training in 3 countries... etc. Not something I'll ever have on my resume.

But I decided I would tell my girlfriend the amount of money he made, without mentioning the resume requirements. So I did. And as expected, she says.

"Wow. I can buy many bags with that money. Can you get a job like that?"

And I decide to play her a bit, see if she's greedy. Just out of fun.

So I tell her that I don't need so much money, it's too much for my single life.

Then, as expected, she tries to convince me that I do
"If you want to live in China, haha, you won't say that. You need to pay everything. Once you are sick, go to hospital, that thing costs huge money."

I say, "But your family combined has never made that much money, how are they still alive?"

"Life can be cheap, uncomfortable, or expensive - convenient. Do you like spend 1.5 hours take buss, subway home or spend 30 minutes driving home?"

Then I tell her, "But saving an hour of resting on the subway is better than the work required to get such a good job."

She says ok. And I thought it was over. No biggy.
But here's the shocker.

I asked her why she tried to convince me I needed so much money.

She said, "You don't, I wish I had it. That's all. And why I need so much money, because I want to buy a house. Why I want to buy a house, because I can to live alone, without my parents. Why I want to live without my parents, because I want my own life. If I can buy a house, my parents won't say much."

I didn't know what to say, so I said good bye and we stopped talking.
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Next day I ask her what I should say. She says just hold her. I'm ok with that.

She asks if I hate her. I tell her I don't think so. She tells me she's such a bitch. I say nothing.

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Later on I tell her that if she wants to marry me, she must marry me before I start work.

She accused me of not wanting to work. But this isn't true.

I told her the truth, that it is because I want to be sure she wants to be with me for the right reasons.

She again told me she was a bitch. Nothing more was said.

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This morning after a while she asks me,

"What should I say?"

I tell her that I don't know.

Later on she asks, "What do you want me to say?"

I tell her, "Maybe that I should buy you a ring, maybe not. I don''t know what I want you to say. You don't need to say anything right now."

About ten minutes later, she asks me.
"Can you buy me a ring?"

I say yes.

Then she adds, "A pretty one. Not some ring for my mom."
(The mom thing is because all of the clothing/bags (cheap) I have bought for her have been nice in my eyes, but in fact, they are more suited to a middle aged woman than someone her age. She doesn't mean expensive by pretty.)

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So, that's it. That's how it happened.

Now, how should I pick the ring?

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